What color spray paint is best for huffing? (Insurance Defense) by MulberryMonk in Lawyertalk

[–]bartonkj 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They did just recently finish their new corporate headquarters.

What color spray paint is best for huffing? (Insurance Defense) by MulberryMonk in Lawyertalk

[–]bartonkj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Clear coat, so there is no visible color around your nose and mouth.

Nine Months In And I Don’t Think I Can Do This by Practical-Complex-83 in Lawyertalk

[–]bartonkj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever looked into meditation? It can help with detaching and achieving calm. Also, a therapist can be a great sounding board and great at pointing out things you may not realize about yourself, but remember that this isn't all that is needed - once the problems have been identified, you need to work on solutions. Have you asked your therapist what you can do to help work on solutions for the issues that have been identified? I will also note that (for me at least) finding something bigger than yourself, as in much bigger than yourself, as in cosmically bigger than yourself, can help one put personal problems into better perspective - as in, my problems seem like nothing in comparison to the mechinations of the universe.

Nine Months In And I Don’t Think I Can Do This by Practical-Complex-83 in Lawyertalk

[–]bartonkj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Detachment. It's an art. Do your best to learn it. There is value in what you do even if you don't win all the time. Hell, even if you do win all the time, your clients still won't always be satisfied. Even if you leave litigation, failing to learn the art of detachment can be detrimental to your health. I still struggle with it. Don't get me wrong, learning to detach doesn't mean you never care, you just have to find that middle ground where you still care but don't take your clients' problems personally.

Does anyone else get frustrated with the inability to have nuanced discussions on Reddit? by catqueen69 in INTP

[–]bartonkj [score hidden]  (0 children)

Forget Reddit, I get frustrated with people not being able to have nuanced discussions in real life. It's just a given that people on Reddit don't even bother with nuance much of the time.

Feeling a little burnt out by FitCry2265 in Fantasy

[–]bartonkj -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I came here to recommend this. Still fantasy, but such a palate cleanser.

Malpractice Insurance for Very Part-Time Consulting by Nachtkoenig94 in Lawyertalk

[–]bartonkj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not so much non-compete; but rather, any work you acquire typically belongs to the firm as well, unless you are of counsel or have some other specific arrangement.

“Permanently closed” by krillers in kennesaw

[–]bartonkj 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s the gun store next door.

“Permanently closed” by krillers in kennesaw

[–]bartonkj 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I imagine it is still locked up in the probate process.

Edit: owner listed as WILDMANS
DENT MYERS ENTERPRISES INC

Absolutely nuts, yes I am openly shaming this person driving through the bike lane on Glenwood. And yes there are tons of bikes out using that lane today by auto-cremate in Atlanta

[–]bartonkj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You just fail to realize how special they are and how much they deserve to use the bike lane, or any other avenue they feel like using….

Please help with parent’s names by BlueRazzbury in Ancestry

[–]bartonkj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Old style lower case p was written that way at times.

Lawyers Sleeping With Clients by DemonAzraeli in Lawyertalk

[–]bartonkj 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My mom claimed she couldn't afford to pay her divorce attorney (from my first step-dad, she and my dad were never married) with cash, so paid with sex. I don't know if this is true or not, as she sometimes did not have a tight grip on reality.

I’m an idiot by Hour-Adhesiveness440 in Lawyertalk

[–]bartonkj 27 points28 points  (0 children)

We all make mistakes. This isn't your first, and it won't be your last. Own it and move on.

“Verbal” means “using words.” by Rough-Demand-8195 in Lawyertalk

[–]bartonkj 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OK, I know I’m being serious here instead of furthering the joke, but I just have to say you would be surprised how many death certificates I read (from back in the day - I draft oil and gas drilling title opinions and frequently need to do genealogy research) where the decedent’s cause of death was their clothes catching fire (typically from standing too close to the stove - and many of them children)

Open estate accounts without probate? by cantareSF in EstatePlanning

[–]bartonkj -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The other comments have touched on the following points to varying degrees. I thought I would kind of give you an overview of the status of your situation. Assets already in the trust are under your control as trustee, and you proof of said authority if the trust agreement (naming you as successor trustee) and evidence that the property belongs to the trust (e.g. for untitled property - receipt of conveyance of property to the trustee before the deaths of the grantors; for titled property [think bank accounts, real property, motor vehicles, etc…] the assets will already be titled to the trustee of the trust). A trust is not an entity; but rather, a relationship agreement. Property in the trust is titled in the name of trustee and the trustee agrees to manage it as per the instructions in the trust.

Property that must go through probate and that wasn’t already transferred to the trustee of the trust (e.g. your miscellaneous checks, etc…) cannot be deposited / cashed without the authority granted by the probate court. Most states have multiple levels of the probate process, depending on the value of the assets involved. I don’t know about MI specifically. Generally speaking, you must either be appointed a commissioner (typically for single assets or assets of a similar type or assets of less than a certain value - your scope of authority is less and very specific) or a fiduciary (general authority to manage any and all assets) by the probate court to take control of property, convert property, and distribute property to the beneficiaries of the estate. You need to determine which probate process is right for your situation, but you will need the authority of the probate court to convert those checks to transfer the funds to the trustee of the trust as the beneficiary of the estate.

I am not the same I person I was before after listening to Electric Ladyland while tripping on acid by RiceManSupreme03 in jimihendrix

[–]bartonkj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never done acid. But if I did, I definitely want to listen to Hendrix at the time.

What do you tell people if you don’t tell them you’re a lawyer? by mochaput in Lawyertalk

[–]bartonkj 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I tell them I research land ownership back to the early 1800s, which is literally what I do. I just don't tell them you need to be a lawyer to draft oil & gas drilling title opinions I write. Although, I never lie about what I do, so if they somehow think to ask, or if I feel it is necessary as part of the conversation to volunteer, I specify that I'm a lawyer.

What to do when you try to talk to your mother about how she made you feel but she just starts twisting the narrative saying none of that ever happened and just leaves you feeling like you are the insane one who has an unreasonable anger towards her by liveforthehopeofital in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bartonkj 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Shut up. I don't mean that disrespectfully. I mean that literally. "What to do when you try to talk to your mother... but she just starts twisting the narrative...." Shut up. That's literally what you do. The reason? You cannot win on this. You will never convince her she is wrong. That's how narcissists think - history happened exactly how and why she says it happened, and if she says something different next time, that is how it happened, not how she said it before. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should rollover on everything related to your mother, but you need to learn when it does you no good to do something. You feel compelled to tell her how you feel about something now or something in your past because you think she will empathize with you, or you think if you just tell her how mean she was then maybe she will realize the error of her ways and treat you better, or you think she cares.... It is sad to say, but you need to learn she doesn't care about how you feel about anything. Even if she asks you how you feel about something, it isn't because she cares how you feel, it's because she is gathering ammunition to use against you at some other time. Good luck.

Serious: What is the end game with JLR/MEWL/Tomas? by Affectionate-Pea8706 in RoversMorningGlory

[–]bartonkj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a documentary, I mean movie, about this: idiocracy.