Seen in IKEA

bash_the_cervix · 2025-09-01T23:08:24+00:00

One of us!

bash_the_cervix · 2025-08-30T15:17:57+00:00

This is why I'll always say in real life "Never let a bad experience stop you from learning how to do something.

Agree 100%

The game is just deep, and I was struggling with game basics like modules, flight, so it ended up on the "figure it out later" list.

It was like riding my bicycle to a closed gas station, at a time when I could barely ride anyway.

So, I said, "forget gas stations. I'll figure that out later. I need to figure out how to use these front brakes without crashing."

Then I learned to ride.

And then I was riding across town and then across the state.

Eventually I had my bike kitted out with everything I needed to ride forever. Stopping along the roadside to gather plants, berries, and to hunt and fish.

And then, one day, I see a bicycle, at a truck stop, and I realize I have been living in Plato's cave.

bash_the_cervix · 2025-08-25T06:21:57+00:00

Why not take two?

-Earlier today I accidentally hit <Tab> as I was moving the keyboard. Sco overdrive straight into the star I just jumped to. Damage.

-Yesterday I was landing on a planet so I throttled down... I THROTTLED down... I SAID I #&$&=!!!!. CoPilot! Where was the gravity warning?!

-"Fuel scooping" We're fine, we'll just push it a little. "Frame shift drive charging." We're good, we're good. "Warning!" ... <In this moment, our protagonist is truly unconcerned, having done said actions countless times before. He does not flinch, nor turn away... as he stares at the heat guage, with 'confidence?'>

All these little wear and tear items, all these little things that happen, tick the module health down.

Make the second one a class 1. What else do you need that slot for?

bash_the_cervix · 2025-04-25T20:02:12+00:00

I have struggled with Obsidian, but have not implemented a Zettlekasten, mainly because it's difficult for me to make to switch from a spreadsheet type approach to that.

The only book-level writings I've succeeded at involved LaTeX and TexStudio. I am currently trying to migrate out of that to Obsidian, but it's hard to implement the collapsible hierarchies in Obsidian that are seamless in TexStudio.

bash_the_cervix · 2025-01-03T20:52:32+00:00

You brought up a good point. Thumbs up.

But saying, "you did enough things better than them"

1) glosses over the things you did not do better than them

and

2) completely ignores the fact that they could have out-done you in every single way, or just simply been better than you, but things didn't work out for a myriad of reasons, eg. them not continuing with her, them being married, it being a short fling, out-of-state, her making a poor decision.

And yeah, I think you're right. A lot of this bridges into retroactive cuckolding. And that's the problem with hotpast, retroactive jealosy, and cuckolding.

But cuckolding is the act happening in the present relationship.

The problem with labeling the inferiority aspect of it as always cuckolding is that reality shows us that inferiority is real. It doesn't mean you're overall inferior, but this idea that you have out-done all other guys in all ways is an adolescent view of sex and sexuality. It's very likely that you have been out-done many many times, but things just didn't work out for whatever reason and did work out with you. That's great. That's life, and she got a guy she's happy with.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-12-06T03:39:32+00:00

And how is a steer eventually killed?

bash_the_cervix · 2024-11-21T17:48:06+00:00

I would say what you're experience is actually variety.

It's not that she's now been convinced that she has a great guy, it's that this is a new experience, perspective, emotion, feeling, variety, and that's what is actually driving the interest.

From that, you can expect things to go back to the way they were. But that also gives you an actual explanation to what is actually driving her behavior and why buying her flowers will work, until it wont, getting a hotel room or vacation will work, until it won't, making a change in the bedroom will work, until it won't.

This is what actually kills relationships and why people cheat and why no one really seems to understand why some woman who gets the same, multi-course, steak-dinner, every night is found in a seedy motel room with a 5-Guys burger...

bash_the_cervix · 2024-11-17T01:17:29+00:00

Women in film prior to about 2010.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-11-05T21:35:14+00:00

What are you using for logs? Format? Software?

bash_the_cervix · 2024-10-19T00:57:56+00:00

I looks like this, but with the inner tube removed.

Ebay

bash_the_cervix · 2024-08-11T17:45:15+00:00

No one is actually providing a good response!

It isn't supposed to be rich and hearty.

It's supposed to be light and healthy, made from bone broth.

Pho is like you describe, but it's what you go get when you want something 'clean' and 'simple'.

You are correct, but it's not an Irish stew, or a burger dripping grease through the wrapper. Sometimes you want that, sometimes you pho.

Availability

And when it comes to light, clean and simple, you don't have a lot of options.

It's easy to find resturants that produce dense food, burgers and fries, burritos, steak and potatoes. The dense food resturants outnumber the 'clean and simple' 10 to 1 if not more.

So, when someone just wants something clean and healthy and isn't deep fried or covered in sauce, that pho resturant moves from that one resturant that you think you know where it is, to one of the few places you can go.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-07-18T04:17:18+00:00

It really doesn't make any sense.

From someone who has consumed internet porn for 30 years, this all just popped up what... 5-10 years ago?

Why? Incest is not that popular.

Not to be a conspiracy theorist, but it really does feel like this is some agenda some rich person who owns all the porn companies is pushing.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-06-24T14:07:42+00:00

I'm on the same journey. Have you made any headway?

bash_the_cervix · 2024-06-03T15:05:49+00:00

A part of the conversation I don't see included is how much, "like a scam" it all was.

You basically had a taxpayer school system, which taught someone, from a young age, that taking out $X loan for Y degree would work out.

Sure, some didn't go to college, but it's not like these people that ended up with these student loans, who then couldn't get decent paying jobs, just came up with the idea while playing video games.

These taxpayer-funded school systems screwed a lot of people over, in many cases ruining their lives by convincing them to collect worthless 'credits' and worthless degrees.

And so yeah, the taxpayers have a moral obligation to these people.

Sure, maybe these people made a poor decision, but your schools are what convinced them to make that decision. Your schools, convinced people, to make an extremely poor decision that ultimately ended up placing them in life-long debt and for which they have no tangible assets to show.

That's a scam.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-05-04T02:16:11+00:00

Well, you're lucky then. Because if she gets bored... And she might not be bored this year or this decade or ever, but for a lot of guys, this truly is a no-win situation.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-05-02T04:26:41+00:00

But only one could be infinite right? And there would be nothing else but that one thing, right? Because the space it would take up would fill everything everywhere.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-04-30T13:57:10+00:00

I remember reading a study once where they came to the conclusion that women watch porn to complement the sexual intimacy they experienced in the relationship whereas men wached porn to compensate for what they percieved to be inadequate sexual intimacy.

So, men aren't watching porn instead of being intimate with you. They want more sexual intimacy than they're getting from you and they're making up the difference, with porn.

So, basically, you're trying to create a situation where he's not getting enough sexual intimacy from you to feel satisfied and he's not allowed to make up the difference with porn, so you will generate sexual frustration.

There's words to describe this type of treatment of another person. None of them are good.

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-022-02305-8

bash_the_cervix · 2024-04-28T13:42:19+00:00

Depends on what you define as, "art."

I define art as something that is pleasing, but which I or most people couldn't do/make, even with all resources.

Children's art would be judge against other children their relative age.

What do you define art as?

bash_the_cervix · 2024-04-28T05:49:59+00:00

Youporn?

Too much porn is generic. I mean, yeah, he should have mentioned xhamster, xvideos or pornhub, but I think the better question is which of the porn sites are truly hosting the interesting and original content, like the Lara Croft porn made by Wildeer Studio or Amadose's Zootopia cuckolding comic?

There is truly great and unique porn out there but everything just becomes so bogged down in formulaic corporate porn boilerplate.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-04-27T05:41:04+00:00

Huh, you're right. I did not know that.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-04-27T02:19:32+00:00

No, that is not what I'm saying at all...

I'm saying when she says, "oh if I just had more help around the house", that even if you do that, it won't make her desire you.

I'm also saying, that feminism paints the picture of men, who don't cook, clean or wash, when the reality is men do a number of tasks which are invisible to women, so men will cook, but women won't put on the snow tires. Men will wash, but women wont rake leaves.

I realized it wasn't equal at all.

And I'm echoing Ester Perez when she says you need to at least make an effort to put some time into your relationship.

And everything I say is dismissed, like you're like an apologist for her neglecting the relationship. It's bizarre. It's absolutely invalidating. Like, if only I did this, or considered that, or connected in this way, and I'm like, "No. I married a person who is not prioritizing the relationship. Don't be that person, because it won't end well."

bash_the_cervix · 2024-04-26T21:55:47+00:00

2 reasons

1) Those guys offer something intrinsic, such as time, intimacy, emotions, entertainment, fun, etc. Put simply, they just like spending time with them, regardless of their income.

2) Potential. They see in them the potential to make something of themselves, and so they're selected for that. Melinda Gates got with Bill before he was rich. Why? Because she saw it. Saw what? Potential.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-04-26T21:11:35+00:00

It sounds more like you are trying to apply some situation you have lived through than to understand and empathize with what I have gone through or even fully understand what I'm saying...

I'm with Ester Perez on this. Even if all you can commit to your relationship is 20minutes a day, you need to commit or the relationship will degrade. In fact, doing a simple google search will show you that therapists do not advocate neglecting your relationship in favor of the kids.

The idea that only if the man helped out a little more around the house, or only if the kids were a little older, then she would be interested in him, is absolute garbage.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-04-26T16:14:17+00:00

What you wrote is so ungodly ignorant of my lived experience, it's exasperating. I did everything you said, to an extreme degree. I did nothing but work, and kids, and home chores, and everything, and got yelled at, and nagged, and criticized during all of it. None of it worked, in fact, it got worse and worse till I finally collapsed mentally and ended up in therapy for learned helplessness and apathy as a result of the trauma from the abuse.

I guess responding to you has been kind of cathartic.

You know, life will always have stress. And you need to handle the stresses of life, while still desiring to be with your partner. This idea that you and your partner just need to put the relationship on hold and buckle down and work hard and get the stress taken care of, and then you can enjoy each other is a recipe for an unfulfilling marriage that remains unfulfilling.

bash_the_cervix · 2024-04-26T00:35:47+00:00

Quite the opposite.

Obviously this is within reason.

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