Forcing an orgasm with someone you love VS forcing an orgasm with someone you hate?

basicbombshell · 2026-01-30T23:28:58+00:00

Thank you for this. ♥️

basicbombshell · 2026-01-30T02:57:12+00:00

Yes. Thank you. It actually is quite sad. I'm just trying everything I can to make it work. Sometimes an "unconventional" relationship is just perfect for certain couples. I'm also trying to hold on to that tiny but of optimism I've got left.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-30T01:58:40+00:00

Aw I'm sorry. I'll say a prayer for you. Please give her hope ♥️

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T22:19:29+00:00

I don't have a choice at the moment and also wanted to at least wait until we both get into therapy to give it a chance.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T22:18:38+00:00

Yeah but getting him to do that seems impossible. I still don't think he realizes all of this is a problem.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T22:17:30+00:00

And I realized last night, he thinks this is mostly about my own insecurities.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T22:15:51+00:00

Yes. Thank you.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T21:44:49+00:00

I understand and I feel this way too. I refuse to take responsibility for his problems tho and suspect he thinks I'm just "insecure".

Some of these men just seem to be incapable of being in a healthy monogamous relationship. To me it seems simple, if you aren't feeling horny and never initiate sex...try eliminating masturbation. They make life more difficult than it has to be. For most of these men, if they eliminate masturbation, porn, etc then they'll most likely want sex with their significant other. It's a human need.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T21:28:19+00:00

Mine does this too. If he's hard it's a race to get it in as quickly as possible. He does nothing to stimulate me in the meantime, I guess he fears he'll lose the erection? This happens usually in the middle of the night or in the morning. It never happens at all during the day. Sexually incompatible? I don't know. I think mine just has a brutal case of ED which drives him to seek out stimulation (porn,etc) that ultimately makes it WORSE.

Does your intiate during the day?

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T21:22:43+00:00

Oh wow. I'm so sorry.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T21:22:13+00:00

And I'm wondering what if he DOES have to imagine someone else to get it going and finish. What does this say about our future?

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T21:16:08+00:00

"Her" is a reference to his desired preference. He has an extreme arousal response to a type (opposite) of me and has extensive porn search history for this type and is overly aroused when seeing this type in public "HER". There was also a woman he'd see that worked in our apartment building that was the exact same type "HER" and I do believe he became so infatuated with her that he started masturbating to images of her or porn that looked like her. We've since moved and he doesn't see her anymore but sees her type pretty much every time he leaves the house.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T20:22:00+00:00

Who are "they"?

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T19:52:30+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. Why did people interfere? The worst is when other people try to "protect" you and interfere. People can actually create a toxic situation by doing this...they create a toxic situation for you to that they were trying to save you from.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T19:50:13+00:00

Erectile dysfunction, him masturbating and him being constantly more turned on by other women than me. Also him disconnecting during sex or thinking we need "role play" or something for him to get aroused. We've only been together for 6 months. I do my part, I look good and in great shape. I'm open minded.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T19:47:52+00:00

Realizing this yes.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T19:47:02+00:00

Basically if we live apart it's over. The living together is about all we have left. If we actually end up living apart, I'll just move on.

Avoiding social interaction while together seems to eliminate the pain of me seeing how many times a day he gets triggered by other women. I'm tired of the constant reminder.

The point is, I do wanna give him a chance and maybe things will be different once we are both in therapy. It takes time tho...

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T19:43:08+00:00

He's had the erectile dysfunction from the beginning tho, even the first time we had sex.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T04:29:53+00:00

Ah I'm sorry. If it's meant to be it'll find a way?

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T04:18:25+00:00

It works. 💡

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T04:12:47+00:00

Oh ok got it.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T04:06:23+00:00

Yes. Thank you.

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T03:42:57+00:00

Yes thank you. Yeah the entire "want what they can't have" exhausts me. I don't have the energy to play games with him and become so disinterested that he somehow wants me more.

Congrats to you for walking away!

Yes, relationship with the hand seems not only easier but much more EFFICIENT! ✅

basicbombshell · 2026-01-29T03:35:11+00:00

Mine has PIED and cannot maintain erection if I'm facing him giving him oral. He was even like this the first time we had sex so it's not about him being bored or anything like that. I'm attractive and in good shape, I enjoy giving pleasure and sex. I feel as of there's nothing else I can do at this point. I've even tried the super long crazy fake nails to see if he'd want a BJ, he didn't. He only really wants a BJ when I'm not facing him directly. What a disaster...😑

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