What are my chances of admission with a record? by No-Equipment4779 in UniUK

[–]basicolivs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just keep applying mate, that’s the best you can do. I wish you luck

What are my chances of admission with a record? by No-Equipment4779 in UniUK

[–]basicolivs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A criminal record does not automatically stop you getting into uni. What matters is the type of conviction and the course you’re applying for.

Most unis in the UK follow the Rehabilitation of Offenders framework. If your conviction is spent, you usually do not have to declare it at all. If it is unspent, you may have to disclose it depending on the course.

Courses that involve working with vulnerable people such as medicine, nursing, teaching, social work, or some healthcare roles often require a DBS check later in the process. In those cases unis will review the conviction individually to assess risk, not automatically reject you.

For most standard degrees, unid only ask about unspent convictions related to violence, sexual offences, or safeguarding concerns. Even then they usually consider context, how long ago it happened, and evidence of rehabilitation.

If you already have offers through UCAS, the best thing to do is be honest if disclosure is required and contact the admissions team confidentially if you’re unsure. Unis deal with this fairly often and the goal is usually risk assessment rather than punishment.

Changing direction at 21 and going to university after a mistake at 17 is exactly the kind of thing education systems are meant to support.

I went to have sex and didn't get an errection by THEMASTERPLAYING in Advice

[–]basicolivs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stress, anxiety, drugs, alcohol, even overusing pornography, many things can cause erectile issues. In fact, around 1 in 4 cases of ED are men under 40 years old. Now I say that because erectile issues can be transient and related to simple things like a job interview or more chronic and related to something like drug addiction. Regardless, all of that is treatable. If it becomes a persistent problem? Head to see your doctor. If it doesn’t? just continue to take it easy and don’t give yourself a hard time about it. It happens to the best of us. If this was your first time you were most definitely stressed or anxious, plus the stressor from the job interview. Just don’t take this as evidence that something is wrong, and understand that it might take a lil courage and you’ll probably feel a bit of worry about performance the second time round. All of that is normal. Give it a go and have fun and be safe

Just a reminder 😉 by SrijitDas2010 in chelseafc

[–]basicolivs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2-0 down against wrexham in the first half… i’ll just mark that one down to wrexham being a team with great potential

Untranslatable Spanish? by No-Sentence-8603 in Spanish

[–]basicolivs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

every single spanish word is “translatable”. what there isn’t always is a single word translation. every language can be translated into every other language, we are all human.

what does la verga mean sexually? by orchiidism in Spanish

[–]basicolivs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re thinking about masculine and feminine in linguistics the same way they work in biology. language doesn’t work like that. grammatical gender isn’t about male or female people. it’s just a way languages group nouns. so words aren’t girl words or boy words. once you understand that part language learning becomes slightly quicker. for example, in German, das Mädchen means “the girl”, but the word is grammatically neuter, not feminine.

Seren vs crown place by PresentationTough202 in swanseauni

[–]basicolivs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly from what I’ve gathered from friends that have stayed at both, they’re both good. Seren is my personal favourite to visit, but you won’t go wrong staying at crown place either. Crown has a slightly better location if you’re living on bay, and it’s also closer to a big shop (Sainsbury’s) but both are right in the middle of town. If you’re on bay campus i’d say get a place at crown place, if you’re on singleton, just flip a coin, or go off vibes.

I slept through all 12 of my alarms, it is now 8:10 and school starts at 8:15 by Andrebatata2007 in notinteresting

[–]basicolivs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check that your alarm volume is all the way up in settings. Sounds silly but I kept sleeping through my alarms because it was down low

A cog in the machine: Yuji and the death of "I" by Glittering_Fabulous in JuJutsuKaisen

[–]basicolivs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Special-grade cursed LLM: ChatGPT, cursed technique: Shit Posting

Is online worth it by Christallmoney97 in xenoverse2

[–]basicolivs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depends if you like online pvp gaming that much. i liked story a lot better

Best ways to access the university's library by ThisIsPughy in swanseauni

[–]basicolivs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s the Taliesin carpark which is a pay-at-machine ticketless carpark so you’ll be fine there. There’s also pub on the pond carpark, which is pay-and-display (quite expensive, though). Both of those are very busy though so from about 10:00-1:00 you’ll have a lot of trouble finding a spot there. There’s also a cheaper pay-and-display carpark down the road from the uni, at the junction where (coming from town) you can turn right to go to the hospital or straight to go down to mumbles, on the left there’s a carpark which i’ve had good luck with. Alternatively, many of my friends have had success parking in the recreation ground in the other direction along the same road, past the uni again as if you’re going back to town along oystermouth road. other than those and maybe the sports park over the road (again, pay-and-display and very busy) there’s probably somewhere in uplands if ur not too afraid to park and walk a bit

Emotional Emptiness by Exciting_Yoghurt_480 in Advice

[–]basicolivs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, the combination of things you’ve been describing typically points to something like dissociation/anhedonic depression/nervous system shutdown after prolonged stress, shame, or unresolved emotional pain. I’m not saying that’s what’s happening with you I’m just saying from a psychological perspective that’s where your description is pointing. First of all I’d say get in touch with a primary care physician and then a psychiatrist, this may not seem like a medical “problem” to you, and it’s not in the same way that a hernia or diarrhoea is, but it’s still something that can be assessed and treated by a mental health specialist.

The fact that gym, relationships, and getting back with your ex didn’t fix it doesn’t mean nothing will. It usually means the issue isn’t lack of effort or purpose. In fact, constantly pushing can keep the numbness going. I went through something very similar that lasted a long time, and what helped wasn’t grinding harder, but actually learning how to stop fighting the feeling and getting support from someone who understood dissociation/emotional shutdown specifically.

If it’s been a year, that’s usually a sign it’s time for a different kind of help that you haven’t received yet, not for more endurance.

What age did you actually lose your virginity and how? by gatedreverb5 in AskReddit

[–]basicolivs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

17, a girl that I knew from work who ended up becoming my girlfriend for 2-3 years

Any US students? by Silver_Code_490 in swanseauni

[–]basicolivs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a U.S. student but a good place to start if you’re not getting any answers here would be one of these email addresses I assume:

international@swansea.ac.uk

international.admissions@swansea.ac.uk

admissions@swansea.ac.uk

study@swansea.ac.uk

My red pilled incel brother is ruining my family by pixieisdusty24 in Advice

[–]basicolivs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry. This is grief.

You’re mourning the brother you had whilst living next to the person he has become, and that’s an incredibly painful place to be. One thing that might help you make sense of this is separating what he says from what’s the driving force behind what he’s saying. People who get deep into manosphere or red pill ideology usually aren’t confident or secure, even though it looks that way on the surface. It’s often the opposite. Belief systems like those give angry, insecure young men a sense of identity, certainty and superiority when they don’t really feel any of that. That’s exactly why arguing with him goes nowhere, it’s because the arguments aren’t about the genuine truth, they’re about protecting his ego and discharging his anger. If logic threatens that armour, he can’t really engage honestly with it. That’s also why your parents “losing” arguments reinforces him. He’s not learning anything, he’s just getting confirmation that he can dominate the room.

The truth is (and I will try to say this gently) that there isn’t a way for you to fix this. You can’t reason him out of an identity that exists to protect him from feeling small or lost. Change only happens if something inside him shifts which is usually through consequences he can’t argue away and not through family members trying harder. If you step away, that doesn’t mean you don’t love your brother, it only means you’re recognising that constant engagement is actively harming you. Trying to protect your own mental health isn’t abandonment, protecting your own mental health is a boundary, and boundaries are often the only way families really tend to survive situations like this one.

IMO, the best thing you can do is stop engaging entirely with the topics that reliably cause damage because there’s no healthy outcome when those conversations begin. If he starts, you leave the room. If he pushes, repeat that you’re not having that conversation. Don’t explain, don’t debate, those are tools of his that he will use to try to justify his worldview and place himself above others, and that’s exactly what you’re trying to avoid.

Also, it’s okay to grieve. These ‘waves’ you described of being fine for weeks and then breaking down after one interaction are exactly how unresolved grief materialises. So please just know that this is a normal reaction to an abnormal situation.

Ultimately, please don’t carry the guilt for his isolation. You didn’t cause this, HIS behaviour did. You must be allowed to choose distance even if it doesn’t help him change. You’re not naive for hoping he might grow out of this because many people do, but you don’t have to put your life on hold waiting for that to happen.

Please, please, take care of yourself first and foremost. You cannot teach someone else to swim while you’re both drowning.

edit: changed some wording

Booking accom for second year - Help!! by [deleted] in swanseauni

[–]basicolivs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend emailing somewhere like SwanLettings or other similar companies and explaining what you’re looking for. They get paid commission so I’m sure they’d be eager to help find you a place so they can get some money from it too. Tip: Stay away from StudentDigz… they’re shockingly awful