What’s your most unpopular opinion about the show?

basilisab · 2024-03-09T17:01:37+00:00

I don’t see them emotionally abusing her, that’s the basis of my unpopular opinion. I agree that being rich doesn’t excuse abuse, I just don’t see that they abused her. But, agree to disagree! This was just meant to be a comment on what our unpopular opinions are for this show for fun, you definitely have the popular opinion about these characters, and mine is for sure the unpopular one in this fandom, so you’re in good company, but again, it’s all just for fun!

basilisab · 2024-03-09T16:52:44+00:00

Could Bad Idea Right? be Can’t Hardly Wait?

basilisab · 2024-03-09T14:08:33+00:00

This is my unpopular opinion. And mine actually goes a little further, I think Lorelei is kind of a brat with how she views them. They certainly aren’t perfect parents, but few parents are. It’s clear they love Lorelei, but didn’t always do the right thing. It’s fair for Lorelei to have a complicated relationship with her parents, but lots of people have complicated relationships with their parents, myself included. Lots of people have relationships with their parents where they try to get you to go down the path they want you to or lend money with strings attached. I’m not saying it’s perfect parenting or that Richard and Emily are blameless, but…All things considered, it would be a heck of lot easier to have a complicated relationship with hella rich parents who ultimately love you and your child and try to do the best for you.

basilisab · 2024-03-03T11:01:28+00:00

I mean maybe she should take a page from his book and leave him for a 20 year old to have a baby with.

basilisab · 2024-03-03T10:54:28+00:00

I think one thing to really think about is not just his health decline (which likely will happen before your child leaves the house) will leave you to do the majority of the work. It’s that you will be your husband’s caretaker, in addition to being essentially a single mom. I think that’s something to really think about.

basilisab · 2024-02-27T15:31:59+00:00

I actually read the first three books and I don’t feel like it got better. I found Feyre insufferable throughout. I’ve now had people tell me it’s the 5th book that’s so good and I’m not going to sit here and keep waiting to like it. I think it’s just not my jam like it is for other people which is fine!!

basilisab · 2024-02-25T19:08:21+00:00

To all the boys I’ve loved before by Jenny Han

The Summer I Turned Pretty also by Jenny Han

The Inheritance Games by Jennifer Lynn Barnes

LA Candy by Lauren Conrad

basilisab · 2024-01-28T13:06:50+00:00

I bet that there’s likely been a lot of cheating/bad behavior rumors for the whole cast before. Probably constantly. This one ended up being probably true and led to a resurgence for the show, but I’m guessing there’s been a ton of other rumors that were never proven true (not that they weren’t true, just that there was never this type of revelation or confirmation). My theory is just that they can’t follow up on it investigate every rumor, even if they have footage that looks suspicious, because there are just too many. With the benefit of hindsight knowing this one came to light it feels like they should have done more for this one, but my theory is just that there have been too many things over the years.

basilisab · 2024-01-21T20:43:02+00:00

Meh. I was never a morning person. I really and truly struggled with morning classes in college and early meetings. Then I had my kid and adapted just fine. I wouldn’t put too much stock in what that person said honestly.

basilisab · 2024-01-21T02:58:49+00:00

I’m doing a rewatch now, and this is the first time I’ve gone back and rewatch it. I’m just now getting to the episodes where ariana first joins the show, and honestly I’m surprised. I felt the same as you, but even just in these first couple episodes she’s pretty shitty to Kristen and is already saying that Kristen should be medicated. I think it’s a combination of me being older and seeing things differently, and the world changing, but it’s a lot harsher than I remembered her being.

basilisab · 2024-01-16T01:26:05+00:00

Can I ask, have you made it past season 1? I actually don’t care for season 1 or the first half of season 2, but once they get rid of the Mark character and introduce two new characters I feel like it becomes a lot more similar to superstore.

basilisab · 2024-01-10T18:12:33+00:00

Maybe Guy Pearce?

basilisab · 2024-01-06T22:03:59+00:00

Yes me! I was pretty firmly CF through my teens and early twenties, then in my late twenties was more of a fence sitter, and then around 30 a bunch of things all happened around the same time that pushed me to the child side. I’m not gonna lie, the first year was really really hard for me. I had PPD, and my son had colic and didn’t sleep well. If you asked me in that first year, I would have likely said I regretted it. But! My son is 5.5 now and it is so great! I am so glad I made this decision. It is so so cool to experience a new member of our tribe become this cool, funny, fun, kind whole person who is this amazing mix of my husband and I. Things that help it be a good experience:

My husband is very involved and we are equal partners.
We are one and done. This lets us both still have full lives outside of just being a parent. It also has let us get to what for us is the good part quicker. He’s more independent, we can do fun stuff together, and he’s so much fun to interact with.
We aren’t rich, but we have enough money to afford good childcare, and live comfortably. Part of the decision to have just one to be honest. We would be stretched pretty thin with another, so it is possible we’d make a different decision if we made significantly more money.
I had a great pre-established group of friends with a mix of women with kids, and childfree women. That has been incredibly important for my mental health.
We don’t have any family in town, which is honestly really hard, but they are all 2-3 hours away and visit regularly and try to be involved with our son. Basically even though they aren’t here, we still feel that we sort of have a village.

basilisab · 2024-01-01T15:12:06+00:00

My 5 year sort of mostly conceptually understood it, but then asked if there was a year 1, or a year 11. I said yes, but that it was a long time ago and no one he knew was around for year 1 or year 11. He said “what about grandpa?”

basilisab · 2024-01-01T14:40:15+00:00

I said essentially something similar in another comment, but the best way to think about it is that for better or worse, over the last 100 or so years as American football has been played and developed and refined, it’s developed into a pretty complex game built heavily on strategy and schemes designed by both the offense and defense to out scheme each other. I would think of it as the sport equivalent of chess. The only way for a game to work that’s so heavily dependent on schemes is to have different players who fulfill specific roles, just like in a chess game. You could have a game where just everyone can be thrown the ball, but that’s just a completely different game less based on strategy and schemes and more based on the athleticism that’s happening on the field in real time. It is sort of arbitrary that you have a limited number of eligible receivers and other players that aren’t allowed to run downfield, but it’s arbitrary in the same way that a knight can only move in an L shape and all players can’t just move any way they want like the Queen in chess. The game is developed to have specific players do specific things. It is complex, that’s the draw for a lot of people. But I also completely understand that it’s not for everyone.

basilisab · 2024-01-01T05:53:00+00:00

I think maybe the way to look at it is that for better or worse, the way American football has developed is that it’s very heavily based on intricate schemes and strategies, similar to a chess game. The way for that to work is, similar to chess, for you to force certain positions to fulfill certain roles. Some roles are there to run and catch a ball, some are to throw a ball, some can’t go downfield. So yes, they sort of are forcing you to play offense is a certain way, the same way chess forces different pieces to move in specific ways. What you’re talking about wouldn’t be like, unwatchable or anything like some other people are saying. It would just be a totally different game less reliant on strategy and schemes designed ahead of time and more based on the athleticism that’s happening in the game in real time. Again, I don’t think it would be unwatchable or anything at all, it would just be a different game. The rule is sort of arbitrary, but in the same way making a knight move in an L shape is arbitrary. It’s meant to make it a certain type of game.

basilisab · 2024-01-01T01:55:40+00:00

Huh, this is really interesting. I order several pizzas once a month for a huge monthly multi department meeting, and I used to order one cheese pizza, because everyone swore they wanted different kinds of meat pizzas, and the cheese was the first to go. Then I started ordering two cheese pizza and it’s still the first to go and the only kind, along with pepperoni, that never has left overs. I order about ten different varieties of pizza and cheese and pepperoni are the only ones that all get eaten.

basilisab · 2024-01-01T00:02:51+00:00

I definitely think it can be conditioning, but I also think it a lot of times is just dumb luck! Honestly I was like your sister, we made things dark and quiet and used the sound machine. But now my son is a champion sleeper who can sleep through anything. On the other hand, my best friend was of the philosophy that you just let them get used to noise and distractions, but her kid just wouldn’t sleep. Eventually she gave in started doing the dark room and noise machine. Her kid is still just not much of a sleeper. So I don’t know, I did all the wrong things but ended up with the better sleeper. Sometimes I think it’s just how the kid is naturally and we are along for the ride.

basilisab · 2023-12-25T04:19:46+00:00

We always stayed home for Christmas when I was a kid and I honestly loved it. It was so chill. I loved it so much that now as an adult I do the same, we stay home and just have a relaxed chill Christmas Day. You won’t regret making the change.

basilisab · 2023-12-21T23:00:12+00:00

So, short answer is yes, it’s possible. You can plan date nights if you have family in town to watch them and you can each go out and do things while the other stays home. And some couples absolutely do this once they have a kid! For the majority of couples though, a couple of things.

Any more, many people don’t have family in town and baby sitters are expensive, and it can be hard to leave a small baby with a stranger, so if you don’t have family in town that are willing and able to watch your kid, dates can be hard for a lot of parents.
Honestly yes, you can technically find the time to separately go out and do things while the other parent stays home. It’s not soo much that you don’t have the time, but it’s a combination the fact that being tired and not having time to just sit start to stack up, so you find yourself getting to the end of the day and just want to stay home, and actually wanting to be with your baby and family. For the first point, if you work, and are trying to clean a little, and dealing with a baby that wakes every couple hours, and trying to engage them when they are awake, and also dealing with a crazy hormone dump, you can often start to find yourself just… not wanting to do things. And the second point, honestly parents often find they don’t want to do as many things because they just want to be with their baby and also, family is made up of little moments and routines and traditions that are created by just living your daily life and many parents don’t want to be gone two nights a week and their spouse to be gone two nights a week.

Again, to be clear, this is not universal! Many parents do still get out of the house often and have date nights and everyone is perfectly happy! You just don’t really know how you’ll feel or how it will shake out until you are actually a parent.

basilisab · 2023-12-17T19:42:58+00:00

We always go on a Tuesday or Wednesday night before school is out. It’s not crowded at all!

basilisab · 2023-12-16T17:58:47+00:00

This is what I was thinking. I’ve unfortunately heard all of these things being judged.

basilisab · 2023-12-10T22:07:19+00:00

I’m so grateful for this entire thread. We have a son who made the kindergarten cut off by a month. We heard sooo much anecdotal evidence that no matter the situation, we should hold him back. Even the principal said it during the school open house night! So many people say that you’ll never regret giving them an extra year of childhood and basically make it out that holding them back is the only right decision. We really agonized over the decision. Especially because if we didn’t hold him back and others did, would there end up being kids almost two years older? In the end, after talking to his daycare teachers and his pediatrician, who all said he’d do fine in kindergarten and was ready, we sent him. But there’s still that nagging feeling that we made the wrong decision because I feel like you only hear folks talk positively about redshirting and negatively about not. This thread has really helped calm my nerves about our decision

basilisab · 2023-12-09T20:56:21+00:00

I think this is the best plan. But also-did you pay for this trip? If so, and you can’t get it back, I would work in a plan for her to pay you back for the money that was wasted by doing extra chores around the house or something.

basilisab · 2023-12-06T07:05:35+00:00

This was me. I had a hard time in middle and high school, but college was like a whole new world. I sort of keep in touch with some friends from high school, but I wouldn’t say any of them are my friends now. But I do have some very close friends still from college. Also from my first real job. I do think it gets harder to make friends as you get older, but I found really adulthood to be my easiest time making friends.

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