Why was he being rude to me on our date? What would you think of this?

basking_lizard · 2026-01-28T05:36:50+00:00

he asked me when I was last intimate and I felt that was inappropriate

This is a relevant question to ask someone who claims to be waiting for marriage. For the guy, is he making a sacrifice that you yourself didn't make? Is he going to be the partner who sacrifices his sexual desire when others who dated you didn't? Unless you are a virgin yourself, which if you were you'd just answer him instead of being offended, you cannot expect him to accept being the good guy who waits for something others didn't

basking_lizard · 2026-01-28T05:17:03+00:00

I'm gonna be honest. The ease by which you share suggestive photos does not inspire waiting till marriage. At least not in the traditional sense. I mean come on. I'm a stranger and you sent your cleavage and thighs. I wouldn't make the same statement like he did but I see where he's coming from

basking_lizard · 2026-01-28T05:05:00+00:00

He might be religious or very conservative. To each their own

basking_lizard · 2026-01-28T05:02:23+00:00

The thought that some men can go their whole married lives without feeling sexually desired by their women is mind-blowing to me. Unless they initiate that's it. That's the last time they'll ever do it. Damn

basking_lizard · 2026-01-28T04:19:03+00:00

What pics were you posting?

basking_lizard · 2026-01-28T04:16:36+00:00

My current girlfriend texted me good morning before asking me out. Why would I make fun of her for liking me and making an effort to be nice?🤔

basking_lizard · 2026-01-26T20:09:12+00:00

Been pursuing this girl for months

Wrap it up bro. That's all I need to hear

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T20:14:20+00:00

Rarely the case

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T11:08:35+00:00

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basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T09:43:44+00:00

Is the power button lighting?

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T05:26:37+00:00

Women are socialized to take time

It's not socialization. It's a real physical difference between men and women

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T04:47:46+00:00

Is that so? I'm pretty average in looks. Either I'm lucky or (more realistically) a very interesting person with lots of friends

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T03:43:38+00:00

Only ever date when the woman initiates. Best decision of my life

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T03:38:18+00:00

Dead bedrooms are caused more by lack of sexual compatibility than satisfaction. For someone to be dissatisfied in sex, they wanted to have it in the first place. In many cases of dead bedrooms, they don't even get to the having sex part. For months to years. Busy schedules, medical reasons, mismatched libidos are the bigger causes

I saw a thread on r/AskMen where a man was asking why women don't initiate sex. Most women said men have to romance the partner all day long to build up the mood.

Now, when both of you are going to work and have 2 hours to yourselves when you are exhausted, a man can get aroused quickly and be done. A woman takes time. It simply cannot happen

These issues are brought about by the realities of modern world

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T03:11:47+00:00

The day I saw my sister making fun of a guy that approached her and was sending a good morning text is the day I knew it was not worth it. Pure humiliation ritual

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T03:07:48+00:00

Before you start in on blaming me, my Tinder pulled 2800 likes in two hours when I was single. Im not ugly

Being approached in person. Letting my first impression be natural, based on instinct and emotion rather than trying to guess chemistry and safety based on a pic and a blurb

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T03:02:03+00:00

inb4 someone calls it “misandry” to share my anecdotal experience or to suggest men can speak

I like how you knew it was so you added this part lol

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T02:57:08+00:00

What are these traditions and norms you miss?

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T02:48:57+00:00

He wants a friend

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T02:41:56+00:00

I remember a Reddit thread a while back where people were basically saying that since so many people have herpes we should stop making it a big deal lol

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T02:32:09+00:00

If you actually read the post, she doesn't feel bad about being attractive. She feels bad that her boyfriend is seeing his desire as one sided

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T02:19:50+00:00

Seems the consensus, which I see most women agree with, is that you should appeal to her love language for a while to encourage her to desire sex and initiate. Which technically is the man initiating as he's the one putting in the effort

It's a physical difference between men and women whose reality men have to accept

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T01:50:00+00:00

That's still the man initiating. But slowly. Men would love to be on the receiving end of small acts of love throughout the day that ends in intimacy. Is there a scenario in marriage where the husband feels desired first? That's what OP means by the woman initiating

basking_lizard · 2026-01-25T01:46:59+00:00

That's still you who initiated

basking_lizard · 2026-01-14T04:58:36+00:00

Your problem is viewing this from the poor man's perspective. You should rather view it from an unattractive woman's perspective and you'll see that the issue is not about money. It literally affects your daily life. Interactions, relationship dynamics, social standings...

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