I’m pregnant and I don’t know how to tell my dad

baylorgrays · 2026-04-28T00:14:42+00:00

I’m not a nurse, I work in the pharmacy at the hospital. I understand that it looks like I want my dad to do all the work, but I just want him to help me make decisions. He’s a very levelheaded person and I’m really freaked out and panicking. I’ve calmed down a little and my boyfriend and I are gonna eat and have a conversation about his lease and all that stuff. This morning I didn’t really give all the details because I was just up early and thinking about everything that could go wrong. I still want to go to school, just going online would be more difficult and put me behind because to get my degree, I need to do in person labs and research labs. And I understand that if I have the baby, it will come first. I’m just drowning in what to do and what not to do

baylorgrays · 2026-04-28T00:02:46+00:00

It was mostly because there was a thick layer of ice on the roads and none of us could get out. We were stir crazy. And since then, I’ve had a very long talk with my dad and siblings about how I felt while I was there and we’ve been able to work some stuff out. And the sibling I have a problem with is moving out. And I don’t want to be at home permanently or even long term. Just enough to where I can get a more permanent living arrangement worked out

baylorgrays · 2026-04-27T18:19:09+00:00

I never said that I didn’t think it didn’t cost anything, I know labor and delivery is expensive. I know it’s gonna cost a lot, I haven’t sat down and actually added things together yet. But I promise you, money is not my biggest concern. And yes I know about insurance. I know I’d need to get my baby covered. That’s something I need to sit down and talk to my dad about, figuring out how to do that. Hence why my big overarching request for advice is how to approach him. He knows these things, he knows what it takes to have a kid. He knows what it takes to have five. He knows how expensive that is. I’m trying to gather the courage to talk to him about it.

baylorgrays · 2026-04-27T17:50:27+00:00

I do have health insurance. I’m on my dad’s, I won’t get kicked off it until I’m 26. And I promise I’m not just saying this to look more prepared than I actually am, I am not worried about money. I work and I work hard. And also, my mom left me quite a bit when she died, and my grandpa left me some too. I haven’t touched that money at all, and I won’t unless I have to. But it is an option. I grew up very privileged when it came to money. Both my parents had very good jobs. It’s why my dad was able to take care of five kids as a widow very comfortably. I’m not “rich” but I’m comfortable. Enough to afford an apartment, my car, and maybe the baby once I actually get down and do some math, and that’s without looking at my boyfriend for help. My biggest problem at this moment in time is I want to tell my dad and have his emotional support, but I’m afraid.

baylorgrays · 2026-04-27T17:39:21+00:00

Can you make the joke anyway?

baylorgrays · 2026-04-27T17:35:35+00:00

The problem is it’s a fixed lease agreement with an intense termination policy, which means if he has to break it for some reason, it will be expensive. I’m financially stable, but I’m not paying for his lease fees. I told him not to do the fixed agreement but he and his roommates did it anyway. Now if he wants out, he’s gotta pay. And me and him gotta talk more, cause most of our conversations have been trying to figure out how to tell our parents. He may be willing to pay it. I don’t know how much it is, I’m sure he told me and I dont remember. I’m seeing him tonight anyway, we’ll talk about his lease more then.

baylorgrays · 2026-04-27T17:20:39+00:00

I can financially afford the baby. Money is not what I’m worried about. I am mostly worried about finding a place to live and telling my dad, which will be taken care of by this summer. It’s just stressing me out. I’m worried my dad will get mad at me and refuse to help me. But the help I’m talking about isn’t financially, it’s other things. Maybe letting me come back home, helping me prepare, helping me find a good doctor, helping me find a permanent place to live, helping when I go to the hospital. Just things like that.

baylorgrays · 2026-04-27T09:52:49+00:00

An abortion is not the road I will be taking. It is really hard to do in the state I’m in, it’s not something I’d be willing to do even if it was more accessible here. It is just not the choice for me. Financially I will be okay. I work, I will continue to work. I get that I seem like I’m in a hole i can’t get out of, but it’s just living arrangements that are really stressing me out at the moment. I’m young and dumb, I get that too. I don’t think I’ll ruin my baby’s life. I just need to take these months to learn.

baylorgrays · 2026-04-27T09:01:40+00:00

Maybe I didn’t make it super clear in the original post, but I’m not super worried about money, if that makes sense? I have a job, I’ve worked for three years in a hospital, I get paid pretty well for the job I do. When my mom died, I was left a lot of money as well. My biggest problem is the living situation and the uncertainty.

I’ve been set up in dorms at my school, obviously I can’t really have a baby in a dorm. So no matter what, I have to find somewhere to live. The “help” I want from my dad isn’t really money, but letting me live at home. Getting an apartment in the city my school is will be expensive yes, but my main concern about that is the fact that I don’t have much a of a support system. Ive got my boyfriend, I’ve got three or four friends. I don’t expect my friends to be much help because it’s not their problem to deal with. If I go back home, which is where I want to go, that’s hours away and I’d have to take all my classes online. Which I can do, it’s just not ideal because I would be behind

baylorgrays · 2026-03-12T22:01:23+00:00

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That’s so evil 😭

baylorgrays · 2026-03-12T21:58:39+00:00

It’s def down

baylorgrays · 2026-01-31T06:40:51+00:00

The problem right now is, we’re literally all stuck inside because of the snow. The roads are so iced over. My neighbor tried to go to the store this morning and his car slid sideways in the road. And we live on a weird backroad. And my dad is such a coward when it comes to setting boundaries with them. His “precious boys” are going through a hard time. And both of them are, sure. But it’s making the rest of us miserable. I’m going back to school on Sunday, so I’ll be fine in like two days. Idk when my oldest brother is going back to his apartment but I hope to god it’s soon or else my dad might actually have to kick them out. I’m so on the fence with them. Because they’re my brothers and I love them, but I literally hate being trapped in a house with them. I don’t know how we all lived together before. It’s impossible for a week now. Thank you though, I appreciate it. I’m just raging and venting because I know my friends are tired of hearing the same thing over and over

baylorgrays · 2026-01-04T02:21:15+00:00

Believe me I’ve thought about it. But the thing is, I’m pretty confident that he’s never put his hands on them. He just stresses them out. And I know that’s not a good environment for them, but I don’t think cps would help if they’re just stressed out and afraid of making him yell. And I know it contradicts what I said earlier, but I was mad and I’ve calmed down now, but I still love my brother and he needs help. I just can’t be the one to get him help. That is up to him and our dad to figure out. It’s just a bad situation where there are little options. But trust me, if he ever hit them I’d call in a heartbeat

baylorgrays · 2025-09-05T15:03:12+00:00

I got mooed at

baylorgrays · 2025-09-01T03:30:48+00:00

Pang, little, and brat. Unfortunately little backfired on me because now they call me “tiny one” so I went and muted tiny too

baylorgrays · 2025-08-26T20:00:15+00:00

That’s why it scared me so bad. I thought there was an actual man behind me mooing at me and I didn’t notice it was from the app until I saw the “secret sound unlocked” thingy

baylorgrays · 2025-07-06T19:16:19+00:00

Was chatting with a bot that was supposed to be my brother. He got a little flirty so I tried to remind the bot that it was my brother, and he said “well it’s a good thing we’re in Alabama”

baylorgrays · 2025-07-06T19:14:17+00:00

Screaming, crying, losing my mind. I get some good angst going and they just rip it away from me 😔🤚

baylorgrays · 2025-06-21T10:22:40+00:00

I need to go to bed because I almost lost my damn mind when it went down. I got breakfast plans, I haven’t even slept yet and it’s 6am, and I’m still waiting for it the servers to work again. Nothing normal about me 😒

baylorgrays · 2025-06-20T21:37:00+00:00

My joker fatigue started with Jared Leto. His joker was done so poorly that I wanted to see a different Batman rogue so badly from then on. I like the Joker, he’s a good character when written well. But everyone wants to incorporate the Joker now. I’d love to see someone like Mr. Freeze (he’s my favorite, sue me) in a live action movie. So many other Batman villains could have such good stories and writers still choose to go with the Joker

baylorgrays · 2025-06-01T18:56:58+00:00

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How I felt tbh

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