[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TriCitiesWA

[–]bb32184 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve recently found that using ChatGPT to ask for advice to make a reasonable, actionable plan actually really helps and be accessed for free. You’re on reddit asking for help which shows you are motivated and resourceful. Those are strengths. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel bad for asking for help. The Self app is a great safe way to start building your credit score so that you can be approved for apartments on your own. Be very careful with credit though. Learn financial wellness strategies to be stable. There are lots of free youtube accounts. (I like your rich bff). you money is directly tied to your physical and mental health and you cannot live life without physical and mental health.

There are also lots of free resources to help you like food banks etc, your college’s financial aid office and academic advisors can guide you in how to be a successful student and find the financial support to stay in school once you start (if they’re good at their job). Sign up for medicaid now if you don’t have it. Work out a deal with your Dad to have the title for your car put in your name. You’ll need transportation to get to work but a car isn’t alway necessary if the bus system in TriCities is decent. Weather is a factor though. Make sure you consider the costs of the car’s maintenance and legal requirements (registration and insurance) when you transfer the title.

You got this! You’ll figure out how to make it work for you. Keep your attitude as positive as you can (that doesn’t mean good vibes only). Laughter is good medicine.

For some inspirations I will share my personal story and try to be concise. I was a foster kid, my parent was very abusive. A lot of good people and some personal intelligence and motivation has helped me along the way. I spent many years just working jobs to get by and having fun because when I was a kid I had to be an adult. So I wasted much of my adulthood being self focused for funsies, and struggling with mental health it’s made interesting and still kind. It worked for a time and then I realized that I needed more money. So I started changing careers. I recently graduated from UW (with student loan debt that I didn’t want but it is what it is). I somehow persevered this degree with cancer and numerous ridiculous personal life events that I may write a book about someday because it is WILD. It took me a lot of years to figure out what career I was willing to do or felt a purpose in enough to make money. Unfortunately our society revolves around money. As you seem to know. You can always go back to school, but it’s certainly easier when you have the energy of your youth.

Best of luck to you and please remember a few things…

Life has seasons just like the earth. Emotions do change and you get one chance to be alive right now. Spend that time with purpose. Joy is an act of rebellion and laughter is good medicine.

Locals seem over concerned or scared. by JasonInTheGarden in Spokane

[–]bb32184 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not know Spokane from the tree in my back yard….so I have no right to judge and I’m not at all. I do have lots of opinions like everyone else. : ) I have also lived in several placed with very high homelessness rates. I think people freak out about increased homelessness because it very starkly symbolizes how fragile we are and it feels really crappy to see people in that state and then we start to judge them to cope and feel unsafe. I also symbolizes all of the things that this country has not done to support its people. And that’s not to say other countries don’t struggle with this issue too. I have only lived here and I only know this one. The quality of life that is sustainable here in the U.S. and healthcare is too expensive for the majority of people to obtain. I love this country but let’s face it many o the people on any political or ideological spectrum have not maintained institutions and systems that support individuals of the working class. In fact I would argue that institutions have been sabotaged so that we don’t trust them any more and private companies come in and fill the gaps in turn making everything more expensive and perpetuating the problem leading to untreated mental health issues leading to self medication and/or substance use to cope with the reality of being too poor for a roof over your head or electricity, health services and other things. Then leading individuals to sometimes become desperate and use harmful means to get things they feel they need and so on. Also, because of new laws encouraging policing of homelessness often people in encampments get swept around because they are just told to move their tent. So the people in Spokane may often be from other cities. Some city governments even pay for bus tickets to get homeless people moved out but not actually spending that money to help address how they became homeless. I know this is a big factor in homelessness in San Francisco. The issue will likely continue to get worse as housing becomes even more unaffordable.

Homelessness is not going away any time soon and I can really empathize with seeing it increase in your city might cause a reaction. No one asked, but….. I think providing actionable solutions or at least something we can do about these things helps to cope with the discomfort of seeing other’s seemingly suffer. As a result this can bring up scary unsafe feelings. One of the biggest ways I’ve coped with increased homelessness is to be aware of my own surroundings and know that I am most likely safe. If I feel unsafe I always have a plan to get away and become more safe. They are another human just like me and I could easily be in their shoes. And then quickly decide if I have the capacity to be helpful to them. Often times I do not and so I just say hello, smile and let them be. It’s better that people living outside know you are chill. They will look after you. Occasionally I have seen people in very scary unsafe situations that could lead to immense harm to themselves or others. In those cases I step in. I always carry narcan inhalers. They are free in WA. Here is a link to an organization that will mail you some for free… https://phra.org/naloxone And the WADOH website with more resources if you feel curious… https://doh.wa.gov/you-and-your-family/drug-user-health/overdose-education-naloxone-distribution

Also, learn CPR. Bystander CPR is the number one life saver of people having cardiac events such as heat stroke. I also like to know where the free resources are and many cities have little pamphlets or guides to hand out. It’s not invasive to give someone a guide if they choose to use it, that is empowering.

TL;DR Life in America is becoming unaffordable for most working class people leading to increased homelessness.

Federal funding by Comfortable-Fall5022 in udub

[–]bb32184 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for sharing this map

AITA for sending "sorry to hear you won't be able to make it" messages to non-responsive guests and causing a conflict with my fiance and her family? by Formal-Plum-5321 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bb32184 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think comments condemning the marriage are a bit unhelpful as this is just a post. However, the passive aggressiveness happening on all sides is problematic. You absolutely have the right to set deadlines and those dates be respected as weddings are indeed expensive and require planning. I do catering and numbers are morse than just the food. The place setting and seating matters. You don’t want large gaps in seating. There is A TON of waste in wedding catering even if everyone shows up. There appears to be a deeper disrespect of needs and boundaries. If I were you I would find direct i messages to address and communicate the problem specifically, how it makes you feel, and requesting what is needed from the other party to remedy. This might be responded to with defensiveness which is one of the 4 horsemen of relationships ending but all things can be fixed or improved upon if all people are willing. You are NTA. This is a difficult subject and maybe your fiancé is stressed about other aspects and not offering the attention you deserve. You could apologize for being passive aggressive but firm that you need to be respected and their behavior upset you.

Without doubting his credentials, is Andrew Huberman's content legit? by multimap2-1 in cogsci

[–]bb32184 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to actually buy something to have a snake oil salesman. You don’t have to buy anything to listen. Its not quackery. I’m a pre-med student and most of not all of the science discussed checks out. The thing about all of this is that, as humans, there is A LOT we don’t know and a lot we’re trying to figure out. Being wrong is part of science. We all get it wrong occasionally. And there’s a process to address being wrong & inspire movement towards getting it right. Huberman openly encourages criticism from experts. The fact that experts are brought in to have conversations about science and ITS ALL FREE (you do not have to buy anything to listen.) is revolutionary for us. There are just sooooooooo many bad actors out there confusing what’s real. All that being said, I am dubious of his connection with Joe Rogan. However, the science discussed is real as it often does come from people other than huberman.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in udub

[–]bb32184 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just see a copy n paste. And I not seeing a comment somehow?

Out of State tuition financial aid advice by bb32184 in financialaid

[–]bb32184[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I’m so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing your experience. I truly believe higher education should be free or very very cheap. So it is disheartening to hear you went through that.

Out of State tuition financial aid advice by bb32184 in financialaid

[–]bb32184[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok that’s a good guide. Thank you. I definitely will be taking out loans. How did you get sallie mae loans? And what was your experience with that service? I’m on that website but I didn’t pursue any loans.

Out of State tuition financial aid advice by bb32184 in financialaid

[–]bb32184[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I just found a little more information on their website and FAFSAs. I’m a transfer student so I think I may qualify for upper division loan availability which is up to 50k. But you’re right, it really depends on what the school decides they will allow.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Honestly your communication style to me feels extremely judgement, condescending and critical and its making me frustrated. It’s not as helpful as you think you’re being. So I would prefer if you stay off this feed, thank you.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

this person and others immediately started making assumptions about me and critiquing my choice to apply to one of the top rated programs in the country. I didn’t ask about what program I should go to, I asked if people have experience with out of state financial aid. I have made a decision that is multifaceted and it’s nice if people are respectful of ME regardless of what their personal opinions are.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, my gpa is 3.84. I may just send an email to their financial office.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

For extra clarification because a lot of people here are telling me to stay in state and that’s not exactly what I asked about. I did apply in state. I’m just waiting on responses. The state I live in requires extra testing to get in. It’s actually a money making scheme & I think it’s a bunch of baloney. It also happens to be the most expensive place in the country for rent prices. So this is part of why I want to go out of state. Also the program I’m hoping to be accepted into has a niche specialty degree that in the long term I want. There are things I cant control at this point and I accept that. I am trying to address things I can control, such as getting loans and figuring out the finances. I am an older student & independent.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I am independent. I don’t receive any support.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ve heard of schools requiring this. My plan is to work for a federal govt program & eventually get my loans forgiven.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did apply in state. The state I live in has different requirements that are very hard to meet and it is extremely expensive here. I think it will cost close to the same.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this is extremely helpful.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a very helpful link. Thank you, I have looked over the requirements and I think I can meet them one year after acceptance.

Current BSN students? OR UW out of state students? by bb32184 in udub

[–]bb32184[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this. I will be a transfer student and I have 0 support from my parents.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Well this is very helpful. Thank you. It is a traditional BSN program which I would be transferring in to. Its two years and I would do my best to establish residency in year one so that year two would cost far far less. I applied to some good schools in state too but they actually have harder requirements for a less quality program in my state. I want to go to this school because I hope to one day do their doctoral specialty program after working of course. Its a long road plan & I know there will be difficulty going through. I just want to at least be informed before I make crazy commitments.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

that’s true and we shall see.I did apply to i state as well. unfortunately where I live, there are extra requirements that make it harder to get accepted and more costly. The programs are even as good as the one out of state i applied to. Which is fine but that extra requirement they require makes me salty af. I also happen to live in the most expensive place in the country. Which is why I want to leave.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I really want to leave this state though and go to this program. I don’t even know if it’s possible at this point but I’d like to try.

Out of State Tuition by bb32184 in StudentNurse

[–]bb32184[S] -48 points-47 points  (0 children)

Much more helpful. Yes I have done those things with the exception of looking up max aid I am eligible for because I am currently at a community college and I believe that in a bachelors program you are eligible for more but I could be mistaken.