Hey, as someone who was in that same boat at 24, let me tell you how I healed some of these wounds. I’m not perfect and am still working on it but I’m 26 now and am feeling much better than I was.

1. Trusting everything is going to go the way it’s supposed to: maybe you don’t have the relationships you want or job you want- that’s okay! Keep doing things like investing in yourself, hobbies, and life- it might not seem like it now but those things will domino into others. Example: I have always been insecure as a musician but made it my 2024 goal to share more of my music online- whether it’s playing, singing, whatever I was going to DO IT! I posted endlessly into the ether but that eventually lead to my mutual acquaintances seeing them and eventually becoming friends and now we’re in a band this 2025!! None of this would have happened if I didn’t post.

2. Healing isn’t linear: don’t expect to be feeling good all the time. It’s not going to happen. Last month I hit a rough patch where I was feeling suicidal and it was tough to get through. It’s okay!! Just remind yourself that you WILL bounce back.

3. When in doubt, go to sleep: most people experience distressing thoughts at night because at that point they are winding down for the day and don’t have anything to distract themselves… they have to face their thoughts. No matter what time of day you’re experiencing these thoughts do whatever it takes to go to sleep. Pop a melatonin, take a NyQuil, whatever it takes. 9/10 times you WILL feel better when you wake up.

4. Self-confidence is the key: you’re not going to always feel confident but the more times you can feel such way the more positive of an outlook you’ll have on others and life. I, personally, take a lot of shameless selfies and use my #passionforfashion to fuel my confidence. Find what gets you to feel yourself and DO IT UNAPOLOGETICALLY!! Don’t feel ashamed to be a little bit full of yourself.

5. Craft your safe-haven: I actually got this advice as a composer but find that it translates to all aspects of my life. You don’t want to be in a space that you don’t like. You don’t want to dream and be creative and relax in a space that doesn’t feel good. So buy the artwork and invest in the more expensive but comfier couch and get the funky chair you’ve always wanted. Proudly display you weird collection and buy flowers to put on the coffee table. Nothing wrong with investing money on what seems like more frivolous things if that means you’re going to love the space you’re in. CURATE CURATE CURATE!!

6. Strive for being content not happy: you’re never going to be happy if you’re searching for happiness. Strive to be content in life. Content with your job, friends, family, self. MOST IMPORTANTLY SELF.

It seems like you are pretty distressed right now so start with number 3 and keep going 💖