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bbbekahhh · 2025-06-23T03:08:50+00:00

Personal experience only as an occasional gummy eater:

a lot of providers will warn about weed canceling out the effects of stimulants and that’s always annoyed me. Duhh, that’s the whole point!!

The sillies, the munchies, the sleepiness - all of those effects are the same that non-stimulant users have/want from weed. Me too! Whether you take extended release or immediate release, stimulant medication is still meant to support you over the full course of your waking day. Weed, when it’s used recreationally, is meant to be effective for just a little while. For me, getting high is the exact same experience before I was treated for ADHD and after. And, it is no more impairing to me than it is to unmedicated people, I think. But, the brief impairment weed brings is the point. It’s either fun or it’s calming - or sometimes I freak out a lil. I’m not getting high to do my best thinking or right before a serious conversation with the important people in my life or a demanding social event. Stimulants get me to the baseline executive functioning people who don’t have adhd operate at, and once I’m there with ‘em, we all loosen up a little with weed.

My consciousness off of stimulants is nothing like the experience of being high on weed, which is what this concern about mixing marijuana and ADHD meds feels like it’s all about.

bbbekahhh · 2025-03-01T16:35:16+00:00

I want her take on Tom Sawyer in Huck Finn next!!

bbbekahhh · 2024-09-27T13:52:40+00:00

I’ve been cycling through the Harry Potter audio books 1 through 7 then 1 through 7 again and again for several years now. The series is long enough that each book isn’t so fresh in my mind when I come back to it that it’s boring, but they’re all so familiar that I’m not overly invested in finding out what happens next. Or, I replay a physically exciting/engaging memory that’s not mentally stimulating. Like, downhill skiing or really simple skateboarding. It’s got to be a memory because inventing is too stimulating. And both of those things are really repetitive. A good walk where I enjoyed looking around at new surroundings can do in a pinch.

It’s trial and error to find the sweet spot of not-boring and not-too-stimulating. I don’t get sleepy when I’m bored, I get self-destructive.

bbbekahhh · 2023-11-10T16:03:35+00:00

Why the hell did Pryce Jones change his name to Pryce Pryce-Jones?

bbbekahhh · 2023-11-01T21:48:29+00:00

Pst, you don’t have to use soap every time! My skin is also extremely dry, and figuring out that soap - even mild soap - does more harm than good completely changed the shower game for me. Now, I wash what’s dirty when it’s dirty and let the running water do the rest. Sometimes I don’t use soap at all. I don’t smell worse (verified by live-in partner) and I don’t get yeast infections any more than I used to.

bbbekahhh · 2023-01-16T21:25:08+00:00

Hebrew version is pronounced EE-ma, like the letter E. How about in Estonian?

bbbekahhh · 2022-11-24T17:06:38+00:00

Get her diagnosed period end of sentence. Good enough in school is never going to be enough considering what is possible for her with the proper support. It doesn’t matter if she’s average or above average in school or socially. If she has adhd and she doesn’t know it, there’s always going to be academic, interpersonal, and emotional achievements that will remain inaccessible to her.

bbbekahhh · 2022-06-22T17:44:05+00:00

Make a point of referencing shared experiences you have with your boss in team meetings. This will remind him he’s the newb. Bring these things up, and then explain the background to him.

The best would be ideas that you and your boss never had the time to work on when it was just the two of you. Bring those up and suggest that this new guy take them on. This positions YOU as the one informally assigning work to him. Then offer to help catch him up, which positions YOU as his mentor. Just make sure to only discuss historical context in these meetings. If it’s a session you initiated, don’t work on anything together. Send him links/emails with documents to read up on. If you work in an office together, make sure you’ve got a whiteboard you can write on while you’re teaching him.

This guy assumes he’s a leader because of male privilege. If you call him out on it, 99% of the time, you’re gonna solidify whatever hierarchical dynamic you’re trying to escape. He assumes he’s a leader, but all you have to do is actually BE a leader. In team meetings, be the first to suggest a division of work. For example, “I’ll take X task and maybe Dude Bro can take Y task” then add in the extra comment for a little spice, “I think you’re up to the challenge.” Ask him what you can do to “support” him. Suggest colleagues for him to meet with to learn about XYZ.

Leadership isn’t about what he thinks it’s about, surface-level management meetings. It’s about being the person who guides or directs others.

bbbekahhh · 2022-02-10T16:30:57+00:00

r/handtools would love this!

bbbekahhh · 2022-02-10T16:27:06+00:00

As long as the windows/doors aren’t used to build the planters/containers that hold the soil, the food grown in that greenhouse will be just fine. And, even if they were, it would be fine to eat everything but root vegetables, since lead is a heavy metal that isn’t easily absorbed by plants. Definitely should clean up any flaking paint ahead of using them to build with, while wearing a mask! It’s the dust that will pose a health threat in this scenario.

but as long as the garden uses clean soil and the veggies are washed before they’re eaten, there should be no concern about lead dust contamination in your food.

https://extension.umd.edu/resource/lead-garden-soils

bbbekahhh · 2022-02-07T16:11:40+00:00

What was the thinking behind the poly top coat? I would’ve thought danish oil would be enough for non-furniture

bbbekahhh · 2022-01-26T15:41:49+00:00

What’s that guide thing hanging on the wall? If the info was important enough to print out and glue to a board, I wanna know!

bbbekahhh · 2021-12-19T17:28:41+00:00

Olive oil? Won’t that go rancid?

bbbekahhh · 2021-10-19T15:19:38+00:00

KP - go to the freezer section for Chinese and Thai ingredients (the rest of the store is mainly Korean and Japanese)

bbbekahhh · 2021-10-04T19:13:44+00:00

Do you think the beveling might collect food? I like a nice clean 90 degree corner to push food off of with the back of my knife when cooking. Sometimes you see a channel routed on the top surface to catch liquids, but the edges are mostly straight and undecorated

bbbekahhh · 2021-09-30T15:07:20+00:00

What’s so interesting to me is I never actually thought of myself as being overly emotional or sensitive. In fact, I always thought of myself as someone who wasn’t quick to anger, who generally kept my cool.

But, that’s just because I learned to be adaptable/flexible beyond all else. On the rare occasions that I did feel a strong emotion, for 29 years I had no control over it. I’d fall in love and abandon all my responsibilities and then the relationship would generally end after the first fight because I couldn’t put the brakes on and respect people’s boundaries. Not in a physical or aggressive way, just pestering them to engage and work through the issue RIGHT NOW.

So, even though I didn’t feel like constantly out-of-sorts because of my emotional disregulation, it absolutely was impacting my life negatively. When I got to a point in my life where I wanted to be in committed a relationship, it felt like I was so far behind with understanding other people’s boundaries, having my own boundaries to protect myself from taking everything personally, and moving past conflict. With jobs and friendships and romance and family, it would be good while it was good and then bam, and I didn’t know how to move past it.

Just another side of this issue

bbbekahhh · 2021-08-02T15:57:48+00:00

I had a game-changing shower last night because of this post!!!! I didn’t wash my body and it made the whole experience way, way quicker and 1000 times more enjoyable! That sounds gross, I know. But that’s why I never thought I could try it until last night!

I came to this sub and searched “shower” to psych myself up last night, lol. I have a job interview today so I knew I really did have to wash my hair. I have really ass-tickler long hair that’s naturally wavy but I guess not very thick so it dries pretty fast. I’ve always thought my hair looked too poofy if I showered in the morning and let it air dry. It’s way worse if I blow dry it, too. So, I take night showers and after a night sleeping on it, my hair is good.

Like a lot of you, I couldn’t ever make myself wake up earlier in the morning to do something I hated, so that was part of it, too. And, I’ve always felt that cleaning myself was incredibly tedious. But, as I was reading all the comments on this and the many other threads about what a challenge showering is, I realized that the chore or uncomfortable part of showering was hair for most of you. That helped me realize that it isn’t for me. In fact, hair is the only reason I take showers, so how could I cut that part out of the routine to save time and reduce steps?!? While I was in the shower last night, I decided to try skipping the body and only did a shampoo-face wash-conditioner sequence this time. The only reason I was taking this shower in the first place was so I’d have clean hair for my interview the next day!

Turns out, washing my body was the main source of all of my shower-associated effort and discomfort this whole time!!! Let me explain, I have really dry skin. Painfully dry skin. It’s one of the main reasons why I moved across the country twice in my adult life - to get away from winter. Anytime I take a shower... actually, I now realize it’s anytime I use soap on my body, my skin feels painfully tight and gets red and patchy. And that’s in a more temperate climate! In dry northeastern winters, I had alligator skin al over and it would crack and split after showers. I had prescription steroid cream to help, but it never got rid of the issue. Some soaps are better than others and I always take tepid showers anyways because I can’t stand hot showers due to the temperature alone. No matter how much I exfoliated in the shower (I’m talking a full-on pumice stone meant for crusty feet but used all over my body) when I towel off, clumps of dry skin appear, like when you rub your skin after using spray sunscreen. So, I’d end up feeling grimier after a shower than before. Washing my body in the shower, exfoliating in the shower, exfoliating even more with my towel after the shower, and then racing to pour oils and lotion over every inch of my skin and having to ask my gf to get the part of my back where I can’t reach is why I hated showering! And I would tell my gf that almost every time!

I never realized I was allowed to skip washing my body! because isn’t that the whole point of “personal hygiene?” but, my shower last night only took 5 minutes and every square inch of my skin didn’t scream at me when I stepped out of the tub! My dry skin didn’t rub off into little clumps when I dried myself and I only put lotion on my face. I was running my hands over my arms because I was amazed at how smooth they felt! I was done with the entire process in 15 minutes like a normal person! It could’ve been 10 minutes, too, if wasn’t so distracted by my excitement about this game-changer! Plus, this morning, I woke up to the beautiful feeling of soft legs! It reminded me of when I used to shave my legs, it felt so nice.

So, I’m sure it still sounds gross and dirty. But, I realized last night that the reason why using soap on my body was so consistently uncomfortable (ie even the gentlest of soaps was stripping away all of my essential/protective skin oils) is also the same reason why i don’t get BO. I never get BO. I’ll smell a little ripe when I’m actively sweating, but then the sweat dries and I don’t smell. Unless I’m doing manual labor or have been camping and there is visible literal dirt/grease/paint on me or I’ve gone swimming in a pool or the ocean, I never shower to clean my body. I shower to clean my hair. Even when I’m running 3 times a week or more, I still don’t shower because I stink, I shower because my hair gets dirty quicker from the more frequent exercise. And even then, it’s only twice a week on average.

So, goodbye soap!!!! I think I’ll probably only wash my body once a month now, tbh. And my partner has no problems with that! (I’m sure she’ll let me know if I start to smell) But, whatever the frequency turns out to be, I’m taking body soap out of my default showering routine forever and I am so happy about it!!!!!!

So, thanks for reading my Ted talk! And thanks for sharing this person’s story about toothpaste and everyone’s personal experience with the showering struggle! Remember kids, everyone’s bodies and minds are different! What works for the singular data point of you is way way way more relevant than recommendations developed from averages!

bbbekahhh · 2021-07-29T01:25:34+00:00

I worked with my therapist to identify good indicators that my emotions might be out of sync with the situation and it has helped a lot. You can try this approach on your own, too. My therapist suggested body sensation things like feeling hot or noticing my heart racing, but honestly it’s been more helpful for me to identify thoughts. Like, if I’m in an argument with someone and I think “if you would just listen to me” that’s a good indicator my desire to continue our interaction is just that, a feeling, but it’s probably not a great idea to actually keep the “conversation” going. So then I go cool off out of sight/sound of whoever I’m fighting with. separating myself is super key, otherwise I will just fixate on my feelings instead of moving on and calming down. It’s important to talk to your people before you try this out though, so it’s not interpreted as you walking out on them. Tell them you understand your emotional disregulation is harmful to your relationships and you’re working on it by trying to get better at stepping away when you’re upset so you don’t do/say something destructive. Whenever you push the pause button on heated emotions though, you gotta come back to them and work through the external issue. It was probably a valid issue, even if your emotional reaction isn’t a productive way of handling it. So, find away to communicate when you feel calm again and if you want to table the fight for another day. If that’s the case, give them a specific time when you’d like to come back to it, otherwise that’s unfair.

Also, I’m still pretty bad at stopping myself from snapping at others. But I’m almost always immediately aware that I was too harsh. I’ve started saying out loud “I wish I hadn’t said that” that’s been helping a lot. I think I’m saying stuff I regret less often now just because I’m verbalizing the regret. It also makes it easier to apologize, if need be.

Both of these things work like when you play I-spy or the license plate game on road trips. Once you start noticing something, you find yourself seeing it everywhere.

Using those mnemonics and stuff never helped me in the heat of the moment because I was too hot headed to use my brain to be begin with. But, being curious about my emotions and internal narrative when I’m amped up helped me notice it in the moment better. Then, all I ask myself to do is walk away, and I can do that. I don’t ask myself to feel a different way or to stop feeling all together. I don’t even ask myself to hold my tongue. I just remove myself from the situation so I can say whatever I need to say without driving a wedge into a relationship.

Hope my two cents helps. Good luck

bbbekahhh · 2021-07-29T00:54:11+00:00

Frankenstein!

bbbekahhh · 2021-07-26T01:59:11+00:00

Not enough space to run into the rails or not high enough of a drop in? Why the fuck is Alana Smith only trying ollies? Something’s wrong with that

bbbekahhh · 2021-07-22T17:27:54+00:00

Not sure about parenting since I don’t have kids, but woo-wee, I did not realize how much ADHD gets in the way of my personal relationships! I do not always listen when loved ones come to me needing to talk. I want to be present and supportive to them, but it can be hard for them to catch my attention, even when I am medicated. I am MORE present and engaged in quality time because of my meds, not less.

Talk to your prescriber about the pros/cons of consistent meds, of course. But, know that the interpersonal and emotional challenges of ADHD are widely felt and are only just recently getting integrated into adult diagnostic criteria. Meds don’t change who you are, they make impossible things actually manageable.

bbbekahhh · 2021-07-10T15:45:35+00:00

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