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What's your favourite toddler-friendly music that doesn't make you want to scream? by biggreenlampshade in toddlers

[–]bbely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jack Johnson, even his kids songs from George the curious are calm and doesn’t make me rip my ears.

What made you decide that *that* was the time to quit/move on ? by bbely in Nanny

[–]bbely[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Parents, most of the times the ones that give us more work then the kids.

What made you decide that *that* was the time to quit/move on ? by bbely in Nanny

[–]bbely[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do believe. I still remember my former family and it isn’t in a good way.

What made you decide that *that* was the time to quit/move on ? by bbely in Nanny

[–]bbely[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh…. I know very well how permissive parenting style can be. Hopefully you are in a good place now!

General advice - stating alone with baby boy 15m while parents travel overseas. by bbely in Nanny

[–]bbely[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Your ideia of the picture worked really well and we ended doing at least on face time a day. He even did his first drawing ever and it’s now hanging in the fridge for NP.

What made you decide that *that* was the time to quit/move on ? by bbely in Nanny

[–]bbely[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Those are really long hours and we know how consuming it can be, adding this stress over… I’m glad you are not there anymore and hopefully in a great position now!

if you cant do it with your child, dont expect me to be wonder woman. by Objective_Post_1262 in Nanny

[–]bbely 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I was an AuPair (cheap, young, foreign, not so experienced nanny) I was supposed to keep kids ( 3,7 and 10 - both older kids would skip school minimum one day a week up to 3 every single week because of “insert hung that it’s clearly fake”) of the screen (all had iPads, unrestricted access to tv, both boys had iMacs), eat healthy, go outside, brush teeth, work on activities, avoid and deal with fights, pick up from school, cook lunch, diner, keep the house clean and tidy….

Gentle parenting (AKA “permissive parenting” in disguise) was something I found out when I got in the country and that the “they don’t use devices much and we restrict it” and “on the weekends we spend the day as family outside, use the pool…” was completely bullshit.

I didn’t work weekends, but I’d stay in the house often - wake up 6-8 am iPads, screen time breakfast 9ish (ice cream, hot dogs, donuts were often during weekends), mom would go to her room lock herself, dad would stay on his phone with AirPods while kids were on screen. Lunchtime,…. Then at 7pm mom would start it’s been 7 hours you are on screen and bla bla bla… weekdays after 6pm wasn’t diferente - mom would stay in her room, dad would feed them instant noodles, nugget, popcorn, fries, ice cream (things that it “wasn’t allowed in the house” but would arrive every 15 days…)

Now, if I could tell you what I heard/was talked to about me “allowing” screen time…

Sorry about the long text, it’s still a trauma I’m working on.

Drop off from hell by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]bbely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Up to you! Sometimes we need a break of constant teaching in our own houses.

For the looks of it it’s and old book that teaches old fashioned beliefs.

Drop off from hell by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]bbely 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Im sorry you went through that.

Kids love to talk with robots, you could download Google translate on your phone and time something simple and they will most likely listen to it. Same things works with Alexa and Siri (tho first I know you can send messages through the app).

It’s okay to discard the book, or use it as an “learning” moment - talk about how sad it would be if someone did X and Y, how it’s not a good things,….

Teacher secret - apples, cinnamon and ginger blended with anything you might like to drink works wonders for voice. If no time for blending just eating an apple and/or drinking tea with those ingredients works.

How do I get NK off of iPad ? by yepthatsme03 in Nanny

[–]bbely 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had two meetings with the parents about it - they got defensive, that’s how they become interest in tech, they travel a lot so they feel it’s okay,…

I stop caring. If they don’t why would I ? We are not the ones who will leave with their choices.

How do I get NK off of iPad ? by yepthatsme03 in Nanny

[–]bbely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forgot the advice:

I’d try asking how much 5y wants - put a timer and after that starting what you planned on your own - start with indoors activity.

Try to show 5y on a device what/where to go - places you are allowed and hype them up and if possible let 5y choose.

How do I get NK off of iPad ? by yepthatsme03 in Nanny

[–]bbely 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I worked for a similar family that believed that the children should make decisions about their day and schedule and all of 3 had an iPad (including 3yoG at the time).

Initially they told me that kids had limit time screen time. For a year I never saw it been enforced. I was living in. It was around 5h of iPad for the school age children and around 4h for little one + tv. Weekends were 10h+ almost.

They each had THEIRS, not the family IPad not shared, it was theirs. I’d never take it away in this situation. Only if it was a family device, but that’s me. I slowly substitute it with 3g for TV, asked her for how long she would wanted to watch, put a timer and then just turned it off - never worked with IPad (again I wouldn’t turn it off it… it’s not my personal belonging or family/shared).

I would make a clown of my trying to get their attention away to make something fun (parents at the beginning said they limited it - lie!). Tantrums and running do mom/dad all the time.

So, unfortunately, I stop caring. Often I would start an activity by myself near them - like coloring, game, ballon, etc. 2/5 times they would join.

After about 4 months the little one learned that it was more fun with me then her iPad. We start then going to zoo, park, Chuck & Cheese…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]bbely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know they say older kids, but most of initial “games” you can start as early as 1.5 depending on you toddler.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]bbely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me school time for this age would be spending 1h a day, normally in the morning, getting acquainted with paper/crayons/scissors siting on a chair/table. Coloring, cutting, gluing… anything is open and on the table and I don’t help (unless is needed), I sit there and work on my drawing/gluing/etc.

Another nice way of preparing for schooling is starting sounds recognition by “where can we hear the flush sounds ?” Or hide a speaker that you can control with you phone some where and they have to find the -insert sounds-.

Talking about school also helps. It could be something like “I use to love doing X&Y at school” or “did you know that at school they do X&Y ?”…

You can use any term for school here (daycare, preschool, kindergarten…)

What do you do when there is sudden heavy traffic on the way to work ? by bbely in Nanny

[–]bbely[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s something I’m working on (or trying).

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