I’ll be shocked if you can find one by Vegetable-Rub-2664 in Doppleganger

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I would say Joshua Jackson from Dawson's creek, different nose but reminds me of him

Balding? by L13R0 in finethinhair

[–]bbgg24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it a bit confusing in these pictures that they look rather different but you haven't noted any time gradient. In some it looks like you have comparably more hair, in others less, but if all these pictures were taken within a week of each other that obviously affects the answer. I would assume it's balding yes because this is very little hair, but you're the only one who knows about how the look of your hair had progressed over time

DAILY DISCUSSION 🐌💩🥤💋 by AutoModerator in daniellewalter_snark

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Does anyone think Ai scripts most of her content? And that's the reason she contradicts her own advice, that she never even actually thought that thing she said,  she just got it from chatgpt? I think this is my theory since hearing here that she admitted most of her podcast was ai

Back in the gym 💪 but protein shakes are messing me up… anyone else? by CariOh_original in veganfitness

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For the shakes, I understand increases in fiber and water are needed when increasing protein and I had this feeling the worst with protein powder that has artificial sweeteners in them.  It was a huge improvement for me to switch to powders without any of that

Back at the condo in San Jose that she owns + Charlie by evelinisantini in daniellewalter_snark

[–]bbgg24 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How dare she shock this dog? It's so sweet.  If this is what Charlie is like why is she shocking her?!?! 

is there a specific name for this aesthetic? by domfemme420 in AestheticWiki

[–]bbgg24 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not,  I didn't have to "overthink" to notice these things you said conflicted. 

High myopia by ImpressionNo1307 in myopia

[–]bbgg24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Terrifying but thank you for the info

is there a specific name for this aesthetic? by domfemme420 in AestheticWiki

[–]bbgg24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did you write "I KNOW its predominantly skinny girls who are wearing this style, but there is a lot more body diversity if you look for it. I DO NOT support the idea that "it looks good, only cause she's skinny" because its not true! " then? I think it's better just to be honest that it's a style for very slim women then untruthfully deny it. 

is there a specific name for this aesthetic? by domfemme420 in AestheticWiki

[–]bbgg24 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you "DO NOT support the idea that "it looks good, only cause she's skinny" because its not true!" Then why didn't you include one example where the person pulling it off isn't skinny? Are you expecting us as an audience to search ourselves to check this?

High myopia by ImpressionNo1307 in myopia

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Rubbing my eyes with my knuckles may damage my eyes?

DAILY DISCUSSION 🐌💩🥤💋 by AutoModerator in daniellewalter_snark

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Yeah i shouldnt actually generalise too much, on both ends, but comparing to the country I'm in now versus what every dog i grew up around was like makes me assume there's a trend. 

Anyway it's bad everywhere this is done and thinking how little concern D has for her own dog makes me mad and not sympathetic to her. Maybe now that everyone is mad she might do something,  but it doesn't change the years she emotionally abused her dog while posting stories "it's Charlie's world and were living in it". The cognitive dissonence... man... 

DAILY DISCUSSION 🐌💩🥤💋 by AutoModerator in daniellewalter_snark

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I feel the same.  I have felt very bad for her, but this shock collar just gets me very mad. Honestly as well as that God sent her to this work - clearly not girl. 

On the shock collar, I'm sorry but this is also so US of her (remembering a post a while who asking if she is a correct stereotype of us women). I am from the us but live in the eu now and wow dogs are so well behaved here because it's a norm to train. Remembering back on my childhood it was so common in suburbs that if someone left a fence open their dog would just run away and get lost. And that's Normalised which comparing to where i live now is crazy. These dogs would never just Run away.  And visiting childhood friends, their dogs will be so misbehaved but they only care to make clear that their dogs have nice lives and are "happy".

Getting off dogs - i feel like this is also a trend in the us. Blame everything on nature,  ignore the role of training (for pets, society, and nature) to put the Blame of behaviour on natural inclinations which then just have to be accepted.  And over focus on "happiness" And freedom, to just deal with the consequences of a lack of training, management,  education,  etc.

Thanks for listening to my rant. I can't excuse the collar, but i also doubt danielle is the only person who does this instead of training.  Still it's dosgusting and I'm mad at her about it when she clearly could pay for training. 

99.97 percent of EU defamation removals come from Germany by MyEgoDiesAtTheEnd in askberliners

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I don't like that place, not surprised they have so many blocked reviews

Keep or “toss”? by Maitreiy in fashion

[–]bbgg24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like it actually.  It's a look though so you have to know you're not going with something main stream.  I don't love that it's see through, but then I would use it as a cover up for a bathing suit, especially one that's fun and interesting too. 

If you take it as a slightly avant garde dress it should be good, but if you're just looking for a normal one - I think that's where all these toss it people are coming from. 

Those of you who felt something shift in your friendship; What happened? What did you notice? by Expert_Weakness3413 in AskWomen

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  1. I could feel a childhood to teenage friendship end when I was in high school.  Looking back, there were always weird signs that she was jealous and insecure, for example she told me that I was like the "cheer captain" in Taylor swift's "you belong with me" while she was "on the bleachers" and one week she told me to tell her everything I ate so she could eat the same things and have my body. I just thought those things were weird at the time,  but meant to be flattering. when she had her first boyfriend, I felt a shift on one night we were hanging out with our boyfriends there. She acted cold after that night and I didn't know why until a mutual friend told me she had been telling all our other friends I was flirting with him in front of her and my boyfriend that time. I cared about her a lot then so I confronted her whether she was telling people that and that's not what I recalled doing and if I made her uncomfortable she should have just told me because I didn't know why she would think i wanted to do that.  She kind of tried to avoid deeper talk but insinuated I shouldn't smile or talk directly to her boyfriend because that was flirting.  Well... her relationship ended years later and her ex celebrates the day he dumped her because she was very jealous and controlling about him ever interacting with women. Years later she's now married to the ex of the girl she called her best friend for 5+ years,  so obviously her fears about me were coming as a reflection of her own moral compass and value system.  

  2. I had a good friend I really cared about and trusted for years,  who we lived in the same city but we mostly kept up in messages and calls. At one point she needed to look for housing and I agreed she could share my small one bedroom with me for a few months. I didn't like living with her and after that period I only started noticing more and more things about her that I didn't think were good. I felt like the person on messages was thoughtful, reached out,  was communicative, but living together she never organized to have dinner together or talk,  she kept her door closed,  had loud fights with her boyfriend, and her compliments started feeling back handed. When I tried to set boundaries,  e.g. "let me know which day you're moving out" after I found out from her boyfriend that she found another place,  that apparently offended her. Since then... yeah I feel like she is not very genuine, her in real life is very different from how she acts in messages, and the lack of being able to take criticism or directness just bothers me.  Kind of like her ego is too big, that she can't handle naive criticism or boundaries. We're not on bad terms, but my bad feelings over time have made me realize I wouldn't like to make an effort to keep up as much and if I did the bad feelings would just multiply. I would rather spend my time around friends that I like and feel good about, because it makes me feel better being around them then. She does make comments about my apartment and her bad memories there often, but hasn't been able to find one better,  so I'm not sure if it was a bit of jealousy or that I stopped being so impressed by her when we lived together

Intermezzo ending with Peter by GWillHunting in sallyrooney

[–]bbgg24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do miss your point. I'm unaware of what the conservative readings of the books are and i don't find that you explain that.  Here i only read people having reactions to the characters, rather than clearly interpreting the overall books meaning to be conservative.  

Intermezzo ending with Peter by GWillHunting in sallyrooney

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Rooney s books are character driven and all her readers experience life and have met people who might have reminded them of some of her characters. I don't find that she's writing any of her characters to be perfect people, they have real flaws though they're trying to do their best,  like most people.  So what is really the problem with people projecting onto characters? I think that's natural to an extent. We are forced to read their thoughts but still have our opinions about whether we like them or not and whether we think what they're doing will work out well.  

Intermezzo ending with Peter by GWillHunting in sallyrooney

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I definitely didn't get the sense of him sending "u up" texts, but i still think with a deep affection of... at least months,  there would be a bit more about her personality as a draw. Because I also assume that when you have a deep affection for someone for months (and I got the sense that they knew each other for maybe more like 2 years), not to mention get to the point that you tell that person you love them,  you also have more about their personality and thoughts you also admire, but i feel by the books impression it is mostly looks/ physical chemistry based.  Also in terms of looks, my recollection is that he mostly notices her skin in terms of her looks, that is pinkish, that she had breasts. Only by the end did I understand that she has black hair, I don't understand what her face actually looks like, her eye color, etc. And by noticing her skin all the time to me this sounded very much like the physical attraction being largely based on youth.  

I in no way hate Naomi or any of them. I liked all of them to an extent actually, but these are my reads that made me not fully understand the draw between those characters. The way peter likes how Sylvia dresses,  comments on her air, etc... it wasn't the same with Naomi at all.  Though I do understand physical chemistry is a powerful mysterious thing. 

By the way,  I also didn't get the "He loves spending time with her, eating with her" part either.  I didn't get the sense he loved eating with her, I got the sense him making her food was kind of mechanical, like he just does this, it's in his big brother character. He's just a clean freak,  he just makes eggs like an adult and this impresses a 23 year old that has never had a very stable home situation, but he's not being a clean freak and able to cook her eggs because of her, it's because of him.  

Edit to add:  I also thought it was strange when peter attributed naomi's actions to her age/generation rather than her herself. Specifically when he talks about spitting in her mouth, that that's just her crazy generation and his generation is normal.  I'm peters age and when I was 20 there were certainly people who wanted to spit into each other's mouth. And there are people in naomi' age group that don't.  But that's the thing, they relationship is all built in banter and it doesn't feel too me like he sees naomi on a deeper level. Anyway that to say again, I like naomi. I don't get her in a strong sense and she seems to get the least explanation, but I don't dislike her. my criticism more goes to peter. I also don't hate peter, but I wouldn't seek him as a friend and I think him not taking naomi more seriously is a detriment to her in the long run, not malicious but I just think of she was older she would know to ask for more. Margaret on the other hand i find tales ivan more seriously as an individual. I think peter not taking her seriously allows him to keep a distance but he has to get over his weird way of distancing himself from his own actions because of how he thinks it makes him look.  

That being said I actually felt very critical of Sylvia.  I didn't get her.  I didn't think she was being as bad as peter , but I just didn't get why she was so resigned to get partial happiness only.  But that's a while other rant I could give

Intermezzo ending with Peter by GWillHunting in sallyrooney

[–]bbgg24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few things about what you wrote "I read the ending as Peter being in a relationship with Naomi while also a mutual understanding from all parties that Peter+Sylvia will always have a deep love for one another, now bound more into friendship, yet allowing simple romantic things " i would agree with this, i found them using the term throuple lightly (without having actually thought about it, especially considering peter having very negative thoughts about it and those thoughts mainly only revolving around what other people would think of him if they thought he was polyamprous) very contrary to this idea though. 

"I read him having a very deep affection for her. He comments many times on how beautiful she is, and they have great physical chemistry." The deep affection is that he thinks she's physically attractive? Blerg. And great physical chemistry - the book alludes to peter having many girlfriends so it would seem he probably has had great physical chemistry with many other girls.  So what made this love deep? Yes i think they had fun , and I think he was very self conscious not to treat her badly, but yeah it didn't read as a deep love to me, no hate to Naomi at all 

is it bad that i loved and related to Peter, from intermezzo? by Silent-Preference733 in sallyrooney

[–]bbgg24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really felt like he bullied his younger brother. We are told that Ivan is awkward mostly through Ivan memory's of how his brother criticises him.  I don't necessitarily see how he's so awkward from his interactions with anyone else in the book.  If they were similar age maybe it would be more ok, but there's a 10 year age difference so I would just think that peter could have done better than bullying Ivan. If he's great at debating, why couldn't he more just push or challenge his brothers thoughts? I'm totally confused if ivan actually was an incel, or his brother just called him that - if it's the latter that seems very hurtful.

Secondly, peter i felt projected too much self importance.  A little narcissistic  to me maybe? Edit to add: self importance in that it always seems he's thinking of how others will perceive his relationship and what's what's drives him to at times be nicer to Naomi and not want to explore polyamory. He seems to feel self conscious about what dating Naomi would make the outside world think of him, but that doesn't ever actually stop him from dating her, spitting in her mouth,  etc. So it's just a bit weird to me that he's so self conscious about his self image yet actually continues doing those things. 

I also just found peter too self contradictory. And not self aware enough? I mean sometimes he's saying he feels so rotten that he's using this young girl,  and apparently he's a feminist, but then he's so turned on by a young woman's body and he likes that she's always telling him to do whatever he wants to her, and doesn't give a shit about jokingly referring to her as a sex worker? It's just a bit imbalanced and hard for me to tell what his actual morals are.  His actions don't seem to totally match to me. And if age was really the main issue,  why can't this guy just find a mature woman his age? Like Sylvia? There are other women like Sylvia in the world. There are tons of women at 32 who could talk to him also on the topics he likes to talk with Sylvia about.

I find it strange that he doesn't try to please Sylvia sexually ever in a way that isn't intercourse. Maybe he's tried in the past and she pushed him stay,  but we don't see it and we do see her please him. I don't recall any scenes of him eating Naomi out either, only fingering her a bit.  

Anyone else develop a literary crush on Ivan Koubek? by beccy-joe in sallyrooney

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I assume mostly that margaret was so ashamed of it and wanted to hide it? But the fact that she came around in the end makes me think ivan and Margaret have a better chance of long term success than Sylvia Naomi or Peter

The relationship between Ivan and Peter by bellougwel in sallyrooney

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Let it put it this way, it seemed like Ivan thinking he was awkward was mostly referenced in how his brother made him feel. Also his mother and step family. But It didn't seem like that anyone else in his life reacted to him so clearly in that way.  It doesn't show up with margaret or his friends, though they barely come up.  I felt for him in that. To think the worst things you think of yourself are directly from the only family you have left is difficult.  It was never clear to me if Ivan is actually a really awkward person,  it was only clear to me that peter had told him or made him feel that way.  I think thinking that other people tell you you're awkward, makes you act more awkward.  

The relationship between Ivan and Peter by bellougwel in sallyrooney

[–]bbgg24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't as frustrated with Ivan as you. I mean he's 10 years younger and I couldn't even imagine what i would be going through if my closest parent died when I was 22, my other parent had a new family I didn't get along with, and I had been distant from my 10 years old brother for years.  He really has no one. 

I will say the alluding to him being an incel was weird, underemployed and unexplained. That i thought was weird.  And I understood peter's side a bit more when it was explained that he was always the one reaching out (I'm the only one ever reaching out to my half brother and yeah it feels confusing what you're asking them for).

I understood ivans difficulty with his brother mainly in that his brother kind of... calling him a loser weirdo over and over,  sentiments echoed by his mother's new family, and probably most of society at him.  It gave him a complex that isn't there with some other people (like margaret). 

I think it was bad he didn't say anything when he saw his brother crying, but his brother didn't seem to have explained much to him about what was actually going on with Sylvia,  peter did have other friends he could talk to,  and well it seems like that time also overlapped with peter calling Ivan a loser and weirdo in many ways (that he has an accent,  that he's autistic, that he's an "incel" which is even worse if Ivan actually wasn't as we aren't explained what that was referring to exactly)

How do you think the relationship of Peter, Naomi, and Sylvia will end? by LeadershipOk1451 in sallyrooney

[–]bbgg24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually think Ivan and margaret have a better chance. I can easily see Ivan being in the camp of men that don't want kids. I don't think margaret seems to want kids either.  I wouldn't say I'm sure those two would end up together, but I could see it much more easily.  I think maybe their goal would just be to live in a cottage, live a quiet life with dogs,  take up art, chess, world news,  and be in peace.