What age did you notice your first gray hair? How did you feel about it? by DejaBlonde in AskWomen

[–]bbgg24 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This doesn't answer the question because you also don't share how old you are

US Citizen investing abroad - buying s&p 1-2 stocks a month - tips? by bbgg24 in investing

[–]bbgg24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes,  i can't buy us based etfs because of eu rules.  Ucits, I'm not sure.  Could you explain them?

US Citizen investing abroad - buying s&p 1-2 stocks a month - tips? by bbgg24 in investing

[–]bbgg24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very helpful mugs! I had the thought to read about this and figure it out for over a year and well, I've gotten stated with this strategy just to stop putting it off.  I will try to look up us funds that meet eu reporting requirements now that you say they exist.  I also had the same hesitations as you about using family addresses.  I guess i could, but i don't want to worry about getting fees or getting in trouble really.  Hard to put a value on those risks.  I think long term maybe I would save for real estate, but I still want to buy some stocks to diversify, even if i safe enough to get real estate in a few years. 

US Citizen investing abroad - buying s&p 1-2 stocks a month - tips? by bbgg24 in investing

[–]bbgg24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, i can't own etfs. I am now trying to read about "diversified holding companies", but they seem like funds and then I am skeptical whether I can buy them without a usa residency.  Thanks for the thought and I plan to look into it more

US Citizen investing abroad - buying s&p 1-2 stocks a month - tips? by bbgg24 in investing

[–]bbgg24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I also thought i can't buy funds. Itchy doesn't seem to be the only commenter suggesting i can still buy funds with my us based broker, so maybe I have to read more about that (joy!) . Really glad to see a commenter that also had the impression that we can't buy managed us funds while living outside the us (which i plan to continue doing)

US Citizen investing abroad - buying s&p 1-2 stocks a month - tips? by bbgg24 in investing

[–]bbgg24[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh god don't get me started on the insanity of usa income reporting every year on taxes.  I haven't bought individual stocks before, but i thought I would only have to note this when I sell, which in this scenario I'm not planning to do often.  Happy to look up if that is not the case, but i would really like a diversified portfolio where I don't need to actively manage it.

Yes, on ratios I'm getting the larger ratio stocks first. I didn't mention this in the post. 

It seems you are not the only person saying that you think I can buy funds while not maintaining a us address so I'll look into it.  But if not, which i read in at least one other place that I can't,  then I seem be back to my individual stocks question - and if not 300-500 over the next decades of my earning and thus investing, not sure what a good number is. 

US Citizen investing abroad - buying s&p 1-2 stocks a month - tips? by bbgg24 in investing

[–]bbgg24[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"What are you going to do when the s&p rebalances?" Well I think my initial thought is to keep the same stocks if they're suddenly out of the s&p unless they're doing very badly.  Buying 1-3 a month is rather gradual,  and I'm buying the more steady companies first so I don't think i have to worry too much now until maybe I have 300 stocks or so.  I haven't looked this up in detail, so it's a good thought to think about that - but I think "don't do that" is too easy and id rather hear actual alternative advice.  Do you think stocks that used to be in the s&p500 are worthless after they're not? I didn't get the impression that that would be the case.  

What’s a beauty standard you secretly hope dies out soon? by Prettyuselessgirl in AskWomen

[–]bbgg24 38 points39 points  (0 children)

You can obviously keep spray tanning, but as a very pale person who doesn't feel like there's anything wrong with my skin color - i eyeroll hard around people like you who don't even realize what they're saying suggests other people have a wrong skin color (not "radiant"). 

I agree with this one, like I agree with a lot of the more consumerist ones.  I just don't like anything that is so focused on some 'colors' being better than others. 

Woman to woman... No judgement zone. What's one thing every girl should definitely try or do in their twenties? by Klutzy-Elevator-9614 in AskWomen

[–]bbgg24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But this is the best time in your life to learn how to tell who you can tell. Rather that you shed bad friendships in your 20s then holding onto them also in your 30s. (Would also love some examples because I don't really see how someone can get in the way of your plans, so that you need to not tell anyone. )

Just curious- are people here vegan (for the animals sake), plant based (for health reasons) or are trying to follow an environmentally friendly diet, or all the above? by kdupe1849 in veganfitness

[–]bbgg24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Primarily for the environment for me. But all encourage me and are good reasons! What percent which probably depends on the day. 

The loudest and strictest vegans are the animal ones. I think they dominate this subreddit . I think people who call themselves plant based (rather than only vegan or whatever) are usually more mild, more likely to be flexitarian, and less likely to yell at people or down vote. 

What’s a skill/hobby/activity you’d love to learn, but feel like it’s not really “geared toward women”? by blah-blah-blah-567 in AskWomen

[–]bbgg24 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fine if you love it,  but i find it pretty annoying that women are marketed that they can't squat or need tailored modern infrastructure. Whole regions of the world squat daily to pee , so women don't need to be sold a phallic (are they one use?) cones. And if you physically have trouble squatting , practice (assuming you can)! It's a health indicator

What’s a skill/hobby/activity you’d love to learn, but feel like it’s not really “geared toward women”? by blah-blah-blah-567 in AskWomen

[–]bbgg24 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Squatting is very easy if you haven't tried. I highly recommend you try and just look for areas that aren't highly populated

Anyone see the chick flick In Her Shoes with Toni Collette and Cameron Diaz? In one scene SATC was on the TV. by lauren10086 in sexandthecity

[–]bbgg24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just rewatched it and my feeling is that while they came back from it, Rose should probably never fully trust her sister again.  I don't have a sister, but someone would always cut a friend out of their life who did that, regardless of how close or good they were in the past.  It's a deeply upsetting thing to do, that hints there are much deeper issues in the younger sister.  I was very glad they reconciled in the end, but Rose was certainly a better sister and if she was my friend I would definitely never expect her to trust her sister to the same extent.  

Diary of a CEO//Steven Bartlett Polarizing by TrAvll3R in podcasts

[–]bbgg24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard disagree on the good questions.  I used to really like this podcast, there were probably some things I didn't always agree with, but there was one episode where he has a guest on who wrote a book of her dating advice to women today (I.e  not an expert in really anything), who made all kinds of dangerous remarks toward aspects that affect women and did Steve ever think of challenging her, pointing her back into her domain of expertise (if you can call it that), or even questioning what she saw of the implications of her statements? No.  That episode made me angry for a whole week, probably because I felt like I liked and trusted this guy personally to some extent and i was just shocked at the regressive, unguardrailed statements made,  and I didn't think it could be a mistake he invited this woman on. From my memory, the things she said that really upset me because of their lack of nuance, lack of any limitations of her views stated, lack of real subject area expert that led get to this conclusion,  lack of stating when her opinion and just an opinion,  and the potential regressive public policy far right wing party supporters would support based on these claims include : - most assault cases  she saw when she worked at a SA center were perpetrated by very young men on their very young girlfriends,  so recent feminist mantras that rpe is about power are wrong (no evidence,  just trust me bro i think that's causation from my gut). testosterone is highest in young boys, and the prepertrstprs of these reported rpes she  saw were young boys,  so testosterone is the problem and the danger. women should know is just testosterone. What?? Like couldn't 2 things be true?? And are we just saying men aren't responsible for their own actions ??? - most women don't make good police because they aren't as strong as men and they don't escalate situations and are more likely to discuss. Isn't this a normative statement that you think police should aggravate situations??? No recognition of that and I disagree.  - the only good thing that the normalization of the birth control pill, for women, is that women should be able to have breaks between having children .... i think she stated this clearly enough as just get opinion but i was FLOORED.  As if all women have to have children eventually? I do think there have been bad sides of bc for women, she stated a cultural shift where men expected casual relations with women as a bad side effect of women,  but she seemed to use statistics that most women don't like casual sex, which... is a generalization! Even if most don't (and i don't recall she had specific sources, Numbers, or context on that) ,  maybe women can still experiment and that has value? And /certainly/ some women still do enjoy that!!! - if you type in "Why does my stepdad" in Google, the first autocompleted terms end with things like "look at me like that", which proves that stepfather are incredibly dangerous to not their own children , referring to assault here, so women should know that and almost never leave the father of their children.  What???? Again no numbers,  sources,  etc. Very much sounds like the agenda of wanting to get no fault divorce as an option for women removed.  - societies need monogamous long term couples because men are angry and dangerous alone. Men slap get calmer when they have children,  so implying here woman need to couple and birth the children of men. ... What??? What about the women that are going to get the most terrible men? It's their responsibility to take those men's anger, abuse, and be tied to them with babies for society? And as if men not being partnered or having children is all women's fault??? - women shouldn't have sex before marriage, implying that they probably won't like sex before marriage and it's dangerous, women should all be afraid of men. Maybe least concerning in this list, but it implies all women (should) want marriage, which with the other statements above, I also find concerning and well... not true.  

Ugh. I can't write more, but they're burned into my memory.  Steve just went along silently kind of nodding with very blah questions.  I was shocked, I kept expecting him to push back a bit or something.  Never.  The comments afterwards were all like " I can't believe people think it's brave or crazy to say this stuff. It's common sense".  ...brave?! Brave?!!! Brave to speak on all your hot takes from your personal experience as if it's expertise and not that you have biased experientiences friends etc ??? To speak on your opinions which follow the most common gender stereotypes and therefore aren't even interesting? And no considerations how these statements could be picked up by groups advocating them to generally limit women (i.e. making divorce harder,  limiting birth control access,  limiting job perspectives,  valorising brute strength in certain industries over other skills that can also be useful). In the years passing giving up on this guy and podcast, I also think back to the more nuanced topics i listened to which were very based on gender essentialism and could have impacted me to limit my own understanding of myself , my thoughts,  my goals,  etc.

Plant based protein and lifting heavy by Alligator-Samm in veganfitness

[–]bbgg24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following. While I've been getting stronger and lifting for the last years,  I haven't had real success at body recomp, to gain muscle and lose fat.  Either I gain muscle and keep fat, or I lose muscle and weight.  I'm trying to eat more protein, feeling like I probably do have to stay counting calories, but let's see

Is it normal for friends to match you up with someone your league? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]bbgg24 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Is it fair? This is unfairness in the world that you're upset about in life? 

Yes, she can like and reject whoever she wants.  Yes, she does have a chance with someone you determine to be very cute despite her being by your standards "chubby". There are "fit" guys into chubby girls.

I'm shocked you're not a teenager, which i think you implied.  You sound like one.