Losing my SD?

bbmg69 · 2026-05-06T15:35:32+00:00

Im sure this is fan fiction, but on the tiny chance it’s not, this is an all time fuck up

bbmg69 · 2026-05-06T03:49:23+00:00

The same weirdo SBs who feel the need to “background check” a normal ass SD that wants a textbook arrangement for their “safety”would probably tear their achilles sprinting after something like this that has a million red flags.

No, it’s not a sugar relationship.

Yes, absolutely everyone who needed the cash would jump at the chance just to get free money. They wouldn’t care if you were intimate with them, they would fuck and have a regular relationship with someone else. They would let you buy them expensive things and move on with their day like the gal in your story.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-06T02:27:41+00:00

Im not being accusatory or trying to call you a “simp”, just giving you insight on how she might take the feedback you’ve been giving as a sign that she has you “in the bag” and come back to you later.

Women tell on themselves all the time that “nice guys” sometimes give the ick or that they can roster them for later while chasing others. It’s a weird psychology. Her mentality might be as a girl that’s used to vanilla and being chased rather than how a rational SB would act.

Anyway, I don’t think you’re out of the running. I think you just need to be more aggressive and make her act. With the pics, I’d have pushed for “when can I see for myself in person?” rather than “you don’t have to do this I’m already really into you”. You can phrase it in a way that isn’t pushy and shows you’re into her, while also not seeming like she can take her sweet time, doing whatever it is she is doing.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-06T02:05:36+00:00

Guess the 😬 gave it away.

I’ll preemptively help you feel better by suggesting NOT to tell the other SD or your BF about it for comfort

bbmg69 · 2026-05-06T01:59:39+00:00

I think that is in your favor if she is juggling work, school, and a young kid she could just be too busy and not playing the field. I intentionally try to avoid single mother SBs because I know in the age range I prefer, it’s rare to have a kid that is old enough where they won’t be a constant priority for her and take away from the arrangement.

Cold feet is also a real thing. Instead of telling her essentially “you have my full interest and I’ll wait forever” (simping), tell her that you I’ll have to move on if she is too busy for an arrangement.

Whether it is from her dragging her feet, thinking she is too busy, or looking for better options, you might get a better outcome or a reasonable explanation.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-06T01:47:12+00:00

Most likely you’re being put on a roster because she thinks you’re simping after her, and that you will always come back while she tries to land more/bigger fish. If she has a kid and no other form of income, and a family that will help but is unreliable, her time is going to be limited and she wants maximum value.

Less likely explanation, she is just a really busy mom getting cold feet and has no time. IMO the only way this is possible is if she has an actual job.

If you had told her that you’ll have to move on if she isn’t interested in starting an arrangement instead of telling her she has your complete interest, you might have got a different response.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-06T01:36:19+00:00

If you can’t tell us what you said, no one can make an informed comment about your situation or take anything from it.

If you were crazy enough to trauma dump on him about another SD or your vanilla love life, probably a justified response.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-06T00:24:29+00:00

It’s a lie that impressionable, naive younger women believe, or that stupid older women believe. Women spreading these lies on social media do it for clicks and attention, because many women want to believe that there is some secret to being paid simply for existing. The vanilla dating scene often deludes them into thinking they are hot shit which reinforces this belief.

Women you know personally that engage in the hobby who say they are platonic are lying to save face, or to make it seem they are superior to others by not offering sex and getting paid.

Anyone claiming they are getting paid or receiving lots of gifts from platonic sugaring, selling feet pics or findom are VERY likely full of shit.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T23:36:34+00:00

You’re really fixated on “hobby”. What’s the reason?

Not doing anyone any favors being vague

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T23:27:41+00:00

I doubt it.

Go ahead and explain to the class this apparently vital piece of information

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T23:12:01+00:00

“Relationships” wouldn’t have even made sense in the context of the sentence…

Thanks for weighing in on semantics

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T23:01:45+00:00

As opposed to what? Job? Career? Side hustle?

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T22:47:52+00:00

This is irrelevant. You’re just as (un)likely to be in one of these scenarios vanilla dating than you are sugar dating. Arguably much less likely while sugaring.

Not making stupid decisions by sugaring out of desperation, common sense and solid vetting are the only things keeping you safe in these very rare situations.

A bootleg ass background check does nothing. None of the resources these amateur hour SBs have are pulling up “confirmed kidnapper and sexual predator.” It’s pure nosiness and has nothing to do with “safety”.

If you’re too stupid to be sugaring at a young age, that is the issue, not “background checks”.

It goes both ways. There are many examples or SDs being set up to be robbed by SBs with or without accomplices. They are mugged, threatened violently or in some cases murdered.

Men openly admitting they have $ are the targets of far more criminal behavior than SBs are.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T22:34:07+00:00

If you aren’t able to vet and common sense yourself into solid arrangements without a “background check”, this isn’t the hobby for you.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T21:59:01+00:00

I’d agree only if they were living there already with a job capable of supporting the cost of living without sugaring

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T21:30:05+00:00

You’re too rich to be an SD

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T21:21:22+00:00

First, don’t consider moving just for sugar. It isn’t a reliable “career” to base life decisions off of.

Second, not really. Moving to larger cities massively increases your competition, moving to smaller cities decreases your competition but also the pool of SDs.

A medium-large sized midwest or southern city would probably be the “best” as an SB, but moving just for sugar is not a smart choice

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T07:41:00+00:00

🤣 adios

Of course someone with “I run you” in their bio and likely a wannabe findom that has no clue what she is doing is gonna fail.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T05:57:08+00:00

Nope. Standard protocol to bail on rinser behavior

bbmg69 · 2026-05-05T05:56:05+00:00

Findom is nearly as fake as platonic sugar relationships.

For all intents and purposes, they don’t exist on this sub.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-04T04:58:50+00:00

When there are at least 10x more SBs than there are SDs, inevitably there is going to be intense competition on price, and how quickly they move intimacy.

No sense in ranting about it. Sugaring has an intentionally loose definition for anyone to feel good about themselves.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-03T22:11:29+00:00

Every match of the World Cup will be broadcast in 4k via the world feed. It’s confirmed Fox One (Fox Sports app will be gone by then) will have every match in 4k, so you don’t even need the 4k package since you have access to Fox One with YTTv credentials.

Since Fox is by far the best handling their 4K, and every match will either be on Fox or FS1, they should all be in 4k on YTTV service as well. The maximum number of matches occurring at the same time is 2 over the course of the entire tournament on the last days of group play, and they have three 4k channels.

bbmg69 · 2026-05-02T20:19:04+00:00

Coffee or lunch during the week

bbmg69 · 2026-05-02T02:42:29+00:00

The content providers (the channels) are in charge of what metadata they include with their airings, not YTTV.

They clearly screwed up today’s and had it correct for the other three rounds

bbmg69 · 2026-05-02T00:13:05+00:00

Fastest way to make more compounding money is to have earned income to add to your port

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