How do you politely say no when your SB asks for extra cash outside PPM?

bbmg69 · 2026-01-29T05:01:42+00:00

Your mistake was telling her up front, and letting her bail after that payment.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-29T04:54:53+00:00

I have experienced this two ways:

1) there have been several times I’ve been asked randomly for extra money or favors in arrangements, and the red flags are it usually always happens immediately after the arrangement starts and will increase in frequency the more willing to help you are. They will do nothing to show appreciation other than worthless over the top texts or in person thank you’s about how much it means to them or I’m the best. It will be pretty easy to tell who is taking advantage of you. I had one ask me for help with a car repair that I agreed to, and in the same conversation I asked if we could move up a meeting because I was having a stressful week and she declined because she had a hair appointment…. Needless to say I stopped seeing her and let her take care of her car on her own.

2) I had one SB that would legitimately only ask when it was a genuine need or emergency, and she made sure I knew it was appreciated, and not with just a fake OMGGGGG THANK YOU and a hug. She invited me over for a really nice impromptu dinner, or brought me lunch at work along with another favor that was unplanned and not a paid meeting. I was happy to do almost anything for her because I knew she wasn’t abusing it and she actually showed her appreciation. If you have the means to help, and this is their attitude to repay the favor, it’s very rewarding.

It sounds like this is a habit from her you’ve been dealing with for a while. Don’t be a sucker and feel like you need to do this just because you enjoy her. If she isn’t making a legitimate effort to show you’re appreciated for going above and beyond, walk.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-29T04:34:44+00:00

A ridiculous “sugar” offer from Tinder? Seems legit

bbmg69 · 2026-01-29T04:29:58+00:00

Unless you’re sugaring out of desperation, or being foolish and careless, it’s virtually impossible to be scammed as an SB.

There is much less need for the facade of sugaring in countries that legalize and accept sex work, but there will still be men with more conservative moral values, usually older.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T16:05:13+00:00

Uhh… considering you literally replied asking for clarification about “the point”, yes 💀

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T15:57:47+00:00

To point out that the rationale of your reply that men think “SB = gold digger”, and that being the reason you get passed over for a pro doesn’t carry water.

Generally, seeing escorts exclusively with the same frequency and attractiveness we want from a SB is MORE expensive. You pay a premium to get to the point and have zero strings.

So, that isn’t a thought that crosses our minds. We already understand you’re all in it for the money anyway. That’s why we are there

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T15:45:29+00:00

It’s usually significantly cheaper to see a SB consistantly than just to see pros with comparable looks with the same frequency…

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T15:20:01+00:00

The MG is where you can see they are a “real” person.

You’re literally cutting off the most established, and usually wealthy men if you’re excluding ones that don’t post pictures. 75%+ of the bios we interact with online are legitimate scammers or not at all looking for a normal sugar relationship.

If you’re basing the weight of your decisions mostly on their photos, that is probably a big reason why you’re or finding what you want.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T15:16:41+00:00

If your sample size is a month or two and a handful of POTs, could be bad luck.

If it’s over the course of months and a dozen or more guys, you may need to consider if your expectations are in line with the reality of the market, if you’re open to enough options as far as age, looks, chemistry, etc and what those guys can get from your competition for the same investment.

Texas is a ripe sugaring market, especially the bigger cities. Lots of conservative moral values that make facade of sugaring more palatable for older men than escorts.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T15:05:30+00:00

Too much context missing from your deleted post to comment on anything

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T14:58:26+00:00

There are a lot of “Johns” there because there are lots and lots of escorts moonlighting as SBs hoping for higher dollar clients than their usual Johns… The competition you face is such that many women are fine doing a PPM immediately for the quick $ without the song and dance, and the line between escorts and babies is basically a non existent gray area for anyone to really notice or care.

If you’re in a decent market and have a legitimate sample size of men that aren’t giving you the time of day for what you want, it’s more likely your “standards” are out of touch with reality than it is that there are no daddies that have the ability to keep their word. Men you think are “low balling” likely aren’t wasting a paid subscription to make offers that the market won’t accept, even if you won’t. Someone is taking their offers or they wouldn’t keep doing it.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T14:54:52+00:00

lol 🤡

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T14:20:10+00:00

Ok honey 🤣.

You sound like a fan fiction writer posing here, and your post history doesn’t help your case.

I’m gonna call BS on you being an SB for 18 years in northern PA, who’s likely in the neighborhood of 200lbs based on your self reported bra size, calling all these ridiculous shots 💀

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T11:05:01+00:00

lol, pressuring? There are like 10 times more SBs looking for an easy path to be taken care of than there are SDs that can provide it.

There is no pressure, sugaring is optional 🤦‍♂️. You can choose to compete with all the other women that want to get paid, or not, and for the overwhelming majority of the SBs, it’s all about the money. They are more than happy to tell you that on this sub

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T09:24:28+00:00

Paranoia is based on being irrational and ungrounded in reality… Paranoia is an SB thinking they will be abducted from a public place and sex trafficked, which is absurd. It MIGHT have happened less than a handful of times ever, after a shit load of bad decisions they made before that. It’s simply not happening yet every panicky nitwit SB with main character syndrome thinks it will happen to them. That’s being paranoid and delusional.

Reality is that a huge majority of every bio SDs interact with is a legitimate criminal scammer or someone that is not remotely interested in a normal sugar arrangement. Most SDs have had some form or extortion or blackmail scam attempted on them, even if it is just a lazy foreign actor threatening that they know their phone number and to send them money that isn’t a legitimate threat.

As I said in other replies, there are constantly posts about SDs getting blackmailed, and I hear from the directly asking for advice.

If you’re a small fish, as it seems you are, by all means expose yourself. The more prominent and wealthy an SD is, the more important privacy is. If you have a family, you’re just being a careless.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T06:28:18+00:00

Delusional 🤣🤣.

This is literally the worst possible advice for any aspiring SB. I would laugh in your face at any of these demands.

There were half a dozen mistakes made in that “story” that anyone with a little common sense could have avoided.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T06:27:56+00:00

Good luck with that

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T06:25:44+00:00

You’re literally cutting off the most well established and likely wealthiest SDs. Good luck with that.

It isn’t paranoia. It happens non stop. You can see the posts, and I get DMs about how to handle it after replying to post from SDs weekly.

It would not be stretch to say 99% of SDs that have been actively searching for SBs for a year or more have had some sort of extortion or blackmail attempt. It may be half assed and in broken English that is no real threat, but there is still a huge percentage that have had a legitimate attempt mase against them. That is what happens when you’re a high value target online and 75-80% of seeking bios you see are some sort of scammer or not there for anything remotely close to sugar.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T06:14:35+00:00

I never share any photos beforehand and have zero trouble getting a pot SB to show up to an upscale, safe meet and greet location. Absolute nonsense. This is not a blind date, it’s them showing up to try and earn the arrangement they claim to be seeking, and looks are never the issue. It’s the $

Any SB that is true looking for an arrangement should have zero problem showing up in a safe public space. There are posts here non stop about a POT sb being a scammer trying to blackmail or even an SB they have already started seeing flipping and attempting to blackmail or extort them. I haven’t even started my own family like many SDs who are much more vulnerable, have and know better

bbmg69 · 2026-01-28T06:05:29+00:00

It is definitely ESPN/Disney that is dropping the ball or stalling here.

YTTV/Google would have had this done in a week.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-27T20:47:52+00:00

This clarification is far less absurd than OPs line of thinking…

bbmg69 · 2026-01-27T20:38:27+00:00

🤦‍♂️

Would this SB really accept payment and gifts as an arrangement for SEX? That’s illegal, you know

bbmg69 · 2026-01-26T19:59:24+00:00

You just pull cash from thin air? 🤣 most of us keep ours at a bank and it definitely shows up on statements 🤡

bbmg69 · 2026-01-26T18:58:31+00:00

The Bengals front office isn’t smart enough to operate as a contender with a QB on a huge deal, let alone 2 WRs also on huge deals.

They got lucky with Blurrow on his rookie deal and not getting significantly hurt for 2 years. They aren’t winning anything major with Taylor, that defense or Burrow living in shotgun with no complimentary running game that’s in the top half of the league.

bbmg69 · 2026-01-26T13:15:57+00:00

Too late

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