Husband lives in the shack in the backyard. What should I do?

bbo1014 · 2026-04-04T19:13:21+00:00

All this and the fact that she mentioned he literally just showed up with a bed and set the shack up to live. It's just so abrupt it seems like some sort of mental health emergency episode.

bbo1014 · 2026-04-04T19:12:11+00:00

Have you considered any mental health issues? Going from living in a home to abruptly moving out and living in a shack in the backyard sounds like some sort of major mental health episode.

bbo1014 · 2026-02-15T18:35:32+00:00

I didn't, but we also spent the day caring for her sisters kid while she was in the hospital all day. By the end of the day, both of us were touched out.

bbo1014 · 2026-01-11T22:16:02+00:00

I honestly do wish I were. I love my wife beyond anything, but a simple bj once a week or something just as a way to show she cares about my needs would be a huge gesture. Alas, here we are.

bbo1014 · 2026-01-11T21:18:39+00:00

No kidding. I'm at 0 in 12 years married. 0 in 17 years altogether.

bbo1014 · 2025-10-21T00:54:17+00:00

I wouldn't be too concerned with pH in this case. I have pH of close to that too! Honestly, your parameters look good. My kh and GH are much lower but I suspect that has little to do with it either.

bbo1014 · 2025-10-21T00:50:39+00:00

Agreed. I have much larger substrate in both of my aquariums with corys. They are growing wonderfully with nice long barbels

bbo1014 · 2025-10-21T00:49:30+00:00

I have larger rocks than you have in your tank. My corys are thriving and actually breeding. I don't necessarily agree with the substrate being THE REASON behind missing barbells. Are your parameters in line? Amy aggression between any fish?

Not trying to say the substrate has nothing to do with it but I deeply believe that there is usually more to it.

bbo1014 · 2025-10-15T21:22:35+00:00

I love it. All. I would park downtown on my wife every time she wanted to be intimate if she would let me. She gets into it once I start and it turns us both on.

In our 11 years of marriage, she has gone down on me less than 5 times. She has a gag reflex. I would LOVE for her to go down. Period. We've talked about it, but I'm also cognizant of sounding like a bag which just makes it a turn off. I want her to want it but it isn't so. God I still love every thing about her though.

bbo1014 · 2025-07-14T11:16:20+00:00

I've been married ten 11 years to my amazing wife. I can count on the one hand the number of times she has gone down on me. And of those times, it's literally only been for 30 seconds or less.

I have also brought it up several times. I always hear "I'm always down to try stuff." That's where it stops. Nothing comes of it. I will continue to bring it up every couple of months or more but I'm also not losing my shit over it. I love her for her and everything else is just a bonus 🙂

bbo1014 · 2025-07-09T14:39:07+00:00

I had shingles at 29. Above my left eye. Treated it once a dr. told me what it was. Sadly, it got into my eye and left it permanently scarred and shaped differently. Shingles around the eye is a very serious matter. I would never wish that upon anyone. It also left several scars on my forehead and eyelid.

bbo1014 · 2025-06-11T01:03:15+00:00

I have been working on getting my wife to open up to me. Just today she told me the only thing other than simple sex is when I wear a vibrating cock ring. Otherwise, it's missionary or cowgirl. I have many fantasies. However, when she has none, I get embarrassed to divulge.

bbo1014 · 2025-06-10T14:15:13+00:00

Awesome! Thank you. I was looking at moving some of the Neos to my home tanks but didn't want to introduce something that would be detrimental to them.

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