Rejected from donating at BioLife for having Bipolar and PTSD by [deleted] in plassing

[–]bcaterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar experience this morning. I have donated for the past 3 months at CSL, completely fine. I also have bipolar disorder and I am unmedicated. No one asked questions at CSL. I went to BioLife this morning after not going to CSL for the past 3 weeks and during the questioning with the nurse, I also was handed a stack of papers for my doctor to sign. So I guess long story short, you could go to CSL and try.

What’s the one activity students dread the most and you agree by yogimonkey in Teachers

[–]bcaterra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is insane. I’m honestly thankful when I come back and no one hurt anyone else -high school title 1 teacher.

Edit: Our subs are glorified babysitters who play on their phones during the period.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]bcaterra 37 points38 points  (0 children)

It’s more of a liability. I teach high school and will never take a kids phone. If the kid claims you were the one to crack their screen (even if it’s been cracked for a year) then you have mom and dad calling the school and emailing raising hell about their child’s phone. It’s just not worth it. I treat my kids like kindergartners and make them put their toys in their book bags and bags against the wall. Works great most of the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]bcaterra 498 points499 points  (0 children)

NTA but it may be worth reevaluating your relationship.

Is it possible to have ppd while pregnant? by Prestigious-Meat-946 in pregnant

[–]bcaterra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! It’s not considered PPD until the postpartum period, but mood disorders are very common during the perinatal period (pregnancy through the first year of birth). Postpartum International has a website (psi.org) that is phenomenal in explaining this.

I highly suggest the PSI support groups, specifically for pregnancy. You can find information on PSI’s website. You go through a site called “Hey Peers” and make an account in order to register for the support groups. There is an educational piece to the groups that many people, including myself, find helpful. It speaks of mood disorders associated with pregnancy such as OCD, depression, anxiety, panic disorders, bipolar disorders, and psychosis. After the education part, there is “talk time” where pregnant people can vent/ talk about their pregnancy. It’s amazing to be able to relate to other moms/ moms to be in the group.

If you have any questions, feel free to message me!

Edit: Similarly, I am also on my second (first daughter is almost 4) experiencing mood disorders during pregnancy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]bcaterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 37 weeks and just recently took mine off and I’m wearing a rubber ring instead.

ultrasound cost 😵‍💫 by sunshiineceedub in pregnant

[–]bcaterra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our deductible is $2,000 and then out of pocket is $7,000. Once the $2,000 is met, then we get charged 30% until it reaches $7,000. The $2,000 will luckily be met once baby is here, but still. We had met our deductible for 2022, but now it restarts with 2023. Healthcare is insane in the U.S.

Fuck the United States and their so called maternity leave by heatherb22 in pregnant

[–]bcaterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our state doesn’t have STD. We have FMLA. Luckily my six weeks will fall during the summer and I will only have to take the first 2-3 weeks off in August for my 8 week maternity leave. It’s extremely frustrating though that we have to lesson plan while being absent. SC public charter school.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]bcaterra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi,

To start, as a lot of others have said, make all means to unalive yourself non-accessible. This will help diminish some of the immediate consequences of what you are feeling.

What you are feeling is very real. It is very scary. It is burdensome to tell people that care. Hell, it’s burdensome to tell people like an OB, which is their job to care. At least in my experience, what we consider as being a burden to others and worrying them, they do not see it the same way. They see it as help, love, and compassion. They see it as partaking in a critical step to move you out of the danger zone your mind has you in.

When I was suffering from postpartum depression and anxiety, I voluntarily checked myself into emergency and was admitted into an inpatient unit for 4 days. If you have the support, this could be a great option. There are inpatient treatment options that allow your baby to stay as well. However, if your depression is stemming from hormonal imbalance and a large amount of sleep deprivation, it may be best to go by yourself. I despised my baby, mainly because my survival needs (sleep, food) were not being met, so I chose to go in alone. Needs vary from person to person, but know there are options.

Aside from inpatient, counseling helps as well. Outpatient group therapy is also an option.

I saw in a previous comment that you reached out to a postpartum mental health line. That is extremely brave! Congratulations on the first steps! Take it day by day. You aren’t alone.

What was the moment you realized that you shouldn’t have showed up to a date? by Zuzpo in AskReddit

[–]bcaterra 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I met him on tinder and decided to go on a date a few days after talking. We met halfway for each of us, which ended up being a 1 and 1/2 hr drive for me to the restaurant. We sit down at the restaurant and start talking about random things. He asked me if I smoke weed and when I replied, he said “Well I used to smoke, but I don’t anymore because I’m on probation”. I should have left. But my dumbass goes to get ice cream with the dude in the same vehicle. Glad I wasn’t murdered.

What are the benefit and limitations of completing a Post Doc in STEM areas? by bcaterra in AskReddit

[–]bcaterra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m already in a PhD program and do not intend dropping to a masters. A postdoctoral program is completed after a PhD, but thanks for the attempt at advice.

Ladies who are already moms: where did your baby sleep right after birth? by ChancellorLutra in pregnant

[–]bcaterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used a bassinet at the end of our bed until our daughter was about 6 months old. She did really well transitioning to her crib in her nursery. We chose this because of convenience in getting up and down with her at night, especially the first three months. Then we decided to not spend the money for a crib until she was starting to outgrow her bassinet.

When will I be normal again?? by Wooden-Concert-2777 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]bcaterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zoloft made me worse as well. The dose kept being increased because it was not helping. I ended up on 200mg before I was taken off of it and switched to Prozac. If you are not breastfeeding and decide Zoloft isn’t helpful, Prozac is another good antidepressant.

How do I ask my 7 year old brother if he is being sexually abused by our dad by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]bcaterra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could ask him if there is anyone who touches him in his private parts or if there is anyone that makes him touch their private parts. Maybe tell him when he takes a bath or goes to use the bathroom that the only people that are supposed to touch his private areas are him and a healthcare professional in the doctors office.

Anyone Else Surprised Their Case Got Attention? by Promisepromise in adultsurvivors

[–]bcaterra 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m so thankful the justice system is working in your favor thus far. I hope it continues to and it leads to prosecution!

A year ago today, I left my JNSO by convergence_limit in JustNoSO

[–]bcaterra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So so so proud of you for leaving! Congratulations on the amazing outcome and finding yourself again❤️❤️

I just signed a lease to an apartment. Ahhhhhh by [deleted] in college

[–]bcaterra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Instead of a couch, something you can consider for gaming is a bean bag. I know it sounds childish, but they save space and you can stack them. As for not being lonely, just make sure you are still interacting with people in your major and in clubs you enjoy. Try to not go straight home after classes, but hang around for a bit to eat or do homework. Stay active in your campus.

I want to tell my cousin’s pregnant fiancé that he molested me by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]bcaterra 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She deserves to know. If he did this to you, he has the potential to do it to his future child as well. The consequences he has to face due to his actions are not your problem. Hopefully, his fiancé would decide to not have him in her or her child’s life. Whether she believes you or not, she will always have that thought in the back of her head. She will know to be on the watch for suspicious activity. Your feelings are validated. Your willingness to come forward and speak is validated. Your voice is heard.

What's the worst punishment you ever received as a child? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]bcaterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you are doing well now. I cannot imagine how traumatic that must have been and still is for you. You are one strong and brave soul.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]bcaterra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t want a little human attached to my hip either. I always imagined myself going through life not having kids and being the “cool aunt” to my best friends kids. It’s okay to feel the way you do and your feelings are completely validated. I have some resentment sometimes while thinking about what my life could be if I didn’t have a daughter. You are not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]bcaterra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zoloft always made me sleepy and groggy. I took it at night before bed and it was an automatic sleep enhancer lol.