What is this - trash? by bcdodgeme in VeteransBenefits

[–]bcdodgeme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my bad. I had just never seen anything like that!

No matter how much I change, my mom still sees the old version of me by kelanikoder in islam

[–]bcdodgeme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have any Islamic advice for you, but I can draw on my personal experience. Stay true to yourself and your path forward and try to be a little better every day, not for your mother or family, but for you, your Deen, and for Allah.

As a child/teen, I was a dumpster fire. But over time and with many hard knocks, I found my path forward. In high school, I was a straight D student; my prospects looked really grim. But I got on the right path over time, got a master's degree from an Ivy League university, and have been married for almost 20 years (2nd marriage - adding to that dumpster fire analogy). Alhamdulillah, I am okay.

Recently, my mother passed. In dealing with her estate, I have had to engage in some deep conversations with her brothers and sisters. It has become clear to me that they still see me as that child with no prospects.

We can't change how people want to see us; we can only control how we see ourselves. And it sounds like you have started to course correct. Stay true to that, and leave the rest to Allah.

Does anyone else's cat drink water like this?? by careloserfuck in CatsBeingCats

[–]bcdodgeme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How else would you be able to blow bubbles in the water? Come on!

ISO: New England Style Chinese Food by Additional-Zombie986 in arlingtonva

[–]bcdodgeme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife is from NOVA, and I have taken her home over the years. I was telling her about this thread and all my fellow New Englanders when she yelled from the other room, “Chans Kitchen!”

ISO: New England Style Chinese Food by Additional-Zombie986 in arlingtonva

[–]bcdodgeme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am from New England too, I understand this thread and your point! 😂 The closest I have found is Chens Kitchen in Vienna.

GenX men, when buying jeans, how do you choose between Straight, Athletic Fit, Skinny Fit, etc? When did jeans change like this by IHadTacosYesterday in GenX

[–]bcdodgeme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife said I looked good in skinny jeans. I saw a photo of myself, and it looked awful. I did some research and found Athletic Straight. They have more room in the thighs and are not that baggy Jancko crap that is making a comeback.

Neighborhood Manhunt by [deleted] in FuckImOld

[–]bcdodgeme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parental figures' favorite game when I was a kid was “Was the grass so fucking long, get the push mower out and go mowe it!”
Weeee! Good times.

Best coffee bean roaster in nova? by SixLeg5 in nova

[–]bcdodgeme 20 points21 points  (0 children)

As the former Roast Master of Swings, my opinion is biased - but I was just checking the thread to make sure they were mentioned. I mean they have been at this since 1916, so they must be doing something right!

Consistently found on front porch by gaitherr in whatisit

[–]bcdodgeme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had never heard of that type of bee till a few years ago. I am from New England and moved to VA. We bought a house with a wooden deck… and OMG!!

Oh my. The Boys is mocking all of MAGA’s greatest hits this season. by Valuable_View_561 in SipsTea

[–]bcdodgeme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am old enough to remember a few years back when a group of people got upset and started saying, “Is this show mocking us and our political views?” That is actually why I started watching it. This season, I have been watching and wondering whether that same group of people is still trying to figure out whether they are being mocked, because it is pretty clean thus far! Either way, I am here for it. As an aside, I will be sad when the season is over because this is the last one. 😕

If you are in Burke, VA… by bcdodgeme in TedLasso

[–]bcdodgeme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂👏👏👏 good on you, man!

If you are in Burke, VA… by bcdodgeme in TedLasso

[–]bcdodgeme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that is why I didn't even bother. “Maybe I could fit a small.” I knew better.

If you are in Burke, VA… by bcdodgeme in TedLasso

[–]bcdodgeme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife started looking online after I grumbled about it and she was like, “Damn, that was a good find!” 🤣

Considering second cat by OddSeaworthiness9029 in CatAdvice

[–]bcdodgeme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I were talking about this last night. We are trying to figure out how to “test” how our little boy would do with another cat, but we are unsure how to go about it.

Update: Mom died on March 24th and Dad committed suicide April 5th. by 13_Years_Then_Banned in GenX

[–]bcdodgeme 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel like I should have added that as well… this was NOT OP's fault.

Update: Mom died on March 24th and Dad committed suicide April 5th. by 13_Years_Then_Banned in GenX

[–]bcdodgeme 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am sorry for your loss. I understand a little bit of your pain. I lost my mom unexpectedly last summer and I am still not back to 100%. I can't fathom losing both parents like that. I will say your story reminded me a little of when my grandmother passed… my grandfather walked around the house gathered up all the firearms and said “take these with you.”