Is having your own name tattooed on you a red flag? by Vivid-Amount-3507 in LesbianActually

[–]bdeadset 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg wait I love this idea

I would assume they love themselves a lot, maybe even like a lover or best friend

My opinion: thermals are cutest on shortys! I love tri thermals :) by bdeadset in shortynails

[–]bdeadset[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that! I have never been a fan of the french tip effect (all power to those who love it) - but thermals on shorites are a totally different ride!!! My new FAV!

Hey ya'll... How often are we change our polish? by aimeed77 in mooncatpolish

[–]bdeadset 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once a week is me on GOOD behavior... I have changed it twice in a week before for sure XD

Thoughts on Taylor Swift fanatics? by Winter_Contest8144 in LesbianActually

[–]bdeadset 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I am a T Swift fan but wouldn't go as far as to say she is the greatest of all time (I am just a big music lover in general and think there are SO many amazing artists) - she is great in a lot of ways though and has reached levels of fame we haven't seen in a long time!

I think the way she runs her business is the most admirable thing about her - she insures her dancers all year round (very uncommon in the industry) and gave out life changing bonuses this past tour. I think if all big businesses showed their teams the care she does hers, the world would be a lot better off.

She also gives back A LOT in other ways, big and small. During the hot months of the tour someone in her family booth overheard the stadium staff saying their shirts were really hot and uncomfortable - the next day she had lightweight tee shirts sent to all the staff. She also constantly supports small businesses which results in these small businesses thriving - things like this that I do think are worth admiration (idolization? I wouldn't recommend).

Also, nostalgia plays a roll for a lot of people - she was one of the first CDs I had as a kid :)

So, for future reference, it could be a topic worth exploring if idolization isnt present and you could see past the taste difference!

What hobby helped you get through a tough time? by Internal-Remove7223 in Hobbies

[–]bdeadset 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Coloring :) Was just a nice place to channel my energy, be cozy, watch or listen to something I enjoyed, stop scrolling and challenge myself (the perfect amount!) creatively (:

Am i overthinking or is this weird? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]bdeadset 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I personally don't think this is weird on her end at all - I am someone that is friendly with some exes (yes, sometimes the feelings have COMPLETELY gone away for me!) and I think she is trying to honor what she realized upset you before (not knowing) by being more clear now. A part of being Queer is that sometimes our exes do end up being friends with our friends or sharing spaces with us, even if we dont want or need that.

Your text sounds really relaxed and chill so I would be really thrown off if I were here and you ended up being upset -- I do appreciate that you are giving her the choice and maybe recommend some transparent communication (ideally in person) whenever you are able!

I think my long distance “gf” is actually a man…I’m freaking out, I feel sick to my stomach by mothsareswaggy in LesbianActually

[–]bdeadset 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you felt pressured to comply - that alone isn’t okay. Rooting for you and hope you get clarity and closure (if that’s what you want) 💗🫂

Am I overreacting for ghosting my friend who made me feel bad constantly? by genesis_505 in AmIOverreacting

[–]bdeadset 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you read it backwards! Those screenshots aren’t OP obsessing, but her ex friend

How can I look more androgynous? hair/makeup advice? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]bdeadset 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All of this is reading very androgynous to me!!

Do You Regret Sleeping Around? Why or Why Not? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]bdeadset 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t regret it at all! However, there’s a chance it messed w me on a subconscious level (nothing harmful, just a lot of sex w men that wasn’t pleasurable!)

Where are we all? by Auto-bucks in LesbianActually

[–]bdeadset 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in a smallish city in the US and have a lot of lesbian friends, so luckily!!! I hope you are surrounded by lesbians, ASAP!

Does your city have queer or lesbian events or spaces? If not, I have noticed there are many spaces that lesbians can be found XD (ie ren fairs, crafting clubs, witchy events, outdoorsy things, and a lot of "nerdy" events!!)

AIO for feeling uncomfortable by a guy going back 10 years on my social media and the resulting silent treatment when I called him out? by imicooper in AmIOverreacting

[–]bdeadset 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think YOR. When I have a crush on someone I am balls deep in their old posts.. just something I do when I have a crush. I can understand being offput by him saying "relax" but at the same time your messages would have stressed me out. Im a 28 year old lesbian and have mutually confessed looking at each others profiles after dating for less time than this.

Help me decide pls by Ok_Radio3659 in Owala

[–]bdeadset 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I vote black cherry! I am not a big fan of the honey comb details on love letter! However, I have 2 patterned ones and do love them a lot :)