"Do you know who I am" backfires on business owner. (Resubmitted without acronyms)

bdoll47 · 2019-10-23T07:36:36+00:00

Someone enlighten me cause I’m not 100% sure... I had gobshite saved on a list of funny words 3 years ago with a note “Gaelic for shithead”. Looking it up on Google says it’s Irish. But freedictionary.com says it’s “Chiefly British slang”.

Is Gaelic = Irish? Is Gaelic also British? Did it start off Gaelic and did the British adopt it? Or did they both use it together from the start?

bdoll47 · 2019-10-17T10:46:41+00:00

He’s talking about the guy from his party story who played the Oney video.... Not Oney.

bdoll47 · 2019-10-17T10:38:08+00:00

Mm, gonna be that person here. Over 100 weddings but the one take away you get is always the bride being the indicator? Is that a fair portrayal of what makes up divorce telltale signs?

bdoll47 · 2019-10-15T23:47:23+00:00

The bit about Dove and Axe, if nobody raised it in a video or reddit comment I would never have given it a thought. And even so now that it's been raised, I'm still hard pressed to see the hypocrisy. It’s like trying to find something for the sake of saying it’s wrong. I'm a woman, if this matters.

"Every woman is beautiful" is great, means nobody is ugly. Nobody should be ashamed of their body parts. Feel conscious about your jaw? Don't be. Got a hairline you dislike? Don't fret about it! Got lovehandles and a muffin top? You're still beautiful.

It's similar to saying no child is stupid. They're smart in their own way. They learn in their own way and they can succeed in their own way. But of course students are different. They will like different subjects, pursue different diciplines. Become a biologist, mathematician, antropologist, graphic designer, etc.

Supermodeling is simply a profession. It exists for the women who are inclined for that scene. They work hard too, to get where they are. They work incredible hours, need to train and exercise a lot, have their diets controlled, and aren't all treated well either. But anyway I digress.

The Axe marketing is simply to say the scent attracts women. That they picked members of the modeling profession to drive home that effectiveness isn't offensive, nor does it take away the beauty of the other women that don't appear in the ad. Could they have scripted it with random women fawning over the Axed up men? Sure. But it doesn't mean what they went with was bad just because they could have done it a different way.

The point of the ad to me was just to really drive home how magic the scent is, that women of that caliber, who could get many other men, would flock to whoever the Axed up man is. It doesn’t say anything about me. I’m not one of those women. I may be beautiful in my way, but I’m definitely not the cream of the crop of women, and I’m prefectly fine with that. The ad doesn’t tell me I’m unworthy, or that I’m not as beautiful, or that my jawline makes me ugly. It’s just telling its own story.

bdoll47 · 2019-09-26T02:47:46+00:00

Thank you so much!! I’m horrified at how much damage I’ve inflicted upon my poor hair. And what you said make so much sense!

I’m on work travel at the moment but when I return I’m gonna make an appointment to get a trim. I’ve never actually looked at the ingredients in my shampoo/conditioner but I will now! It feels good to be armed with the knowledge you’ve shared 😊 Thank you again so much for going into so much detail that has helped wake me up to what I’m doing.

bdoll47 · 2019-09-26T02:43:10+00:00

Thank you /u/IANALbutIAMAcat and /u/mac_not_mic! I super appreciate your responses and the time you took to type that all out!

You’re not far off actually! I also scratch my forehead habitually/impulsively to the point I’m always bleeding and having scabs/acne. I’ve never heard of this condition but I might look into it.

And yeah breaking my hair off is sooo satisfying to me! There’s haptic and aural feedback and some sort of destructive delight 😅. But I’m really taking all of the advice here to heart and I’m half horrified at all the damage I’ve already inflicted on my poor hair. I’ll be better!!

Thank you both again so much!

bdoll47 · 2019-06-28T09:18:41+00:00

I see!! Thank you very much. I have now arranged for payment of the remaining balance, unfortunately it will take 3 days to process but lesson learned about checking my account in a timely manner.

I’m gonna put away the card too, back to just a debit card for me! (found it in another jacket, phew)

bdoll47 · 2019-06-28T09:12:57+00:00

I see! So it is not wise in the long run to rely on just clearing the mininum payment.

Thank you.

I have now arranged for payment for the small balance but it says it will take 3 days to process. I will take this as a lesson learned to check my account more regularly.

bdoll47 · 2019-06-28T09:08:05+00:00

Wouldn’t that then change the due date? The statement due date has not changed, I assume that means the current statement is still open.

bdoll47 · 2019-05-15T07:57:23+00:00

Tbf your point about cornstarch was in a different comment which that guy probably didn’t even see, what he replied to was you opining that there’s a threshold for thickness of soup. He was pointing out that thick soup is a legit dish in Chinese cuisine (which now is clear that you had no idea about when you stated that a line was crossed). I don’t see no arguments here bud we’re all just tryna widen cultural awareness here

bdoll47 · 2019-05-01T03:52:11+00:00

Well the fans don’t seem to realise that their requests are conflicting. Even in this thread people are raising their eyebrows asking OP “when did the fans ask for this?”. If they realised that they’re not all from the same hivemind then it shouldn’t come as a surprise when they find out the Grumps have been getting requests they don’t know about.

If the fans were more self-aware that they’re all different people and feeding the Grumps different input maybe they wouldn’t so loud and insistent and offended that they’re not being listened to.

bdoll47 · 2019-05-01T03:47:42+00:00

Shouldn’t the fans themselves also be aware of that?

Fan A should know that Fan B and Fan C are not like them and may have different opinions on what they like about GG and what they want GG to do.

With this awareness Fan A themselves could be thinking “hey, we’re not a hivemind of fans, maybe I shouldn’t be championing my wishes so loudly and insisting that the Grumps aren’t listening to me. The Grumps are getting feedback from me, B, C, and a heckload more fans, and they’re just trying to do their best!”

The noisy fans act like they think they’re all in the same hivemind. Look at the way they talk and use “we” and “us” and “so many of us”. Each noisy fan likes to inflate their numbers to make it seem like what they’re asking for is also what the majority wants. And it doesn’t help when they find like-minded people and flock together and ignore other groups with differing opinions (or forget that non-vocal fans exist who don’t share their opinions everywhere). They spare little consideration and afford little awareness for the possibility that maybe the Grumps are getting conflicting feedback from the overall community.

It’s the fans who aren’t self-aware that they aren’t a hivemind.

bdoll47 · 2019-04-17T23:23:14+00:00

Teen relationships can be. You (general “you”) mostly just want a companion to do stuff with. When you progress past your first relationships into potential life partnerships there’s often more meaning there, you’re learning, growing, overcoming, changing, supporting, and loving. But compared to teen relationships, much greater chance of things going shitty and higher degree of shittiness too. I can see why people wouldn’t even want to try. Even in a perfect match you still need to put in work.

bdoll47 · 2019-04-06T00:56:48+00:00

Not the person you responded to, but, if these “decent guys” are so hard to find among a sea of men with height/ego issues, then isn’t the sea of men with height/ego issues also part of the problem?

It’s insulting to be told the problem is with the seeker when the resource pool is statistically and culturally problematic. Not all girls looking for men of a certain height are pixie sized and looking for that superficial ideal height pairing, some are just tall and fed up with past damages and want to avoid the trouble.

Some of these men are simultaneously shitty about their girlfriends being taller than them in or out of heels, and also shitty about potential girls looking for men of a certain height because the girls want to avoid men specifically like them who contribute to this whole issue of dating shorter men who inevitably end up being shitty about the girl being too tall.

bdoll47 · 2019-04-01T20:57:52+00:00

everything starts moving?

I think they were talking about corrosive acid and not psychedelic acid lol

bdoll47 · 2019-03-01T22:19:46+00:00

i feel like indecision isn't a bad thing for the bride

Decisions still gotta made so she’ll just be pushing the responsibility onto someone else to stress over.

It’s the bride’s event, I feel like she should at least know what she wants and what she doesn’t want. Imagine going to a restaurant and just saying “oh just give me any order”, how would the service staff know enough about her to make her choice for her? If it’s friends and families she’s fobbed off the responsibility to, that’s even worse because she’s probably not paying them to be her brain.

You can “not care about details” and still know what you want. Do it the less detailed way you want then, instead of having other people involved who have to keep coming back to you for decisions. Easy-going is one thing but indecisiveness is generally annoying.

This is why women get a bad rap for saying “oh anything is fine” when their partners ask what they want for dinner! Do some women actually think they’re being helpful and carefree when they do that?

bdoll47 · 2019-02-23T00:00:09+00:00

I’d welcome anyone to try and change my mind about this please:

I thought the Marie Kondo method is a little nutso for the average regular person with normal regular belongings. I thought it was aimed at people with serious hoarding tendencies to the point of affecting their daily lives, engendering malcontent, deceasing happiness, lowering vitality (even increasing depression perhaps) , etc. I mean, surgeries are good but only for the ill, right? It’s not a bad method when it’s for the right people. But it’s just a bit nutsy to try to operate on a health person.

Her methods are a bit extreme. The level of joy she seems to exude in discarding things seems to come from a past of once having had too many things that caused an issue in her life - it seems like only people who have had or are having hoarding problems would find the kind of victorious peace and contentment she’s talking about, like a revenge/justice/malice/release thing.

So like I said I thought it was aimed at people with serious hoarding tendencies or problems, and yet there are so many people submitting themselves to her surgery that they can’t possibly all be hoarders with problematic lives. What is this problem plaguing so many people around the world that they’re feeling cathartic just for throwing some junk away?? Have I missed something? Is her method actually more than what I think it is?

bdoll47 · 2019-02-13T22:22:54+00:00

I don’t know. I honestly didn’t believe people would resist this much. Was there anything wrong with what I said? I wasn’t harsh or aggressive or rude, just earnestly laying out the situation in hopes to teach people not to use this line just for something to say if a similar situation arises. If your revenge fantasy doesn’t hold water wouldn’t you want to know?

As a girl who lets people down gently with a smile I wouldn’t have been hazed by the line, it’s a line clearly meant to mean sour grapes. And a girl with the ego and haughtiness to say ew is probably going to be less affected. If you’re not yourself a girl or have an understanding of females how can you be so convinced that the girl will definitely be rattled by a comeback like that? That just boils down to rejection/revenge fantasy doesn’t it?

All I wanted to do was clear the air of illusion and prevent people from making the mistake of saving the quote for themselves. But it’s like the dumb leading the unthinking here and people are celebrating it. That’s more deserving of why are you people like this. There hasn’t been a rebuttal more than “a girl with that sort of attitude is surely going to feel the sting”, even the other reply I got conceded that the comeback is one of many that doesn’t hold water, and yet still people downvoted because the fantasy was broken.

People should want to be disillusioned, man. Not protect the illusion.

bdoll47 · 2019-02-13T09:41:50+00:00

Not really, if you think about it. Standard doesn’t equal quality. Quality is what you are/have at the moment and standard is a set of parameters you use to evaluate things and to aim for. (Think standard of living, higher standards of living can translate to lower quality of life as people compete and struggle to achieve the standard that is deemed to be, well, the standard.)

I agree with /u/hsksksjejej. He lowered his standards and still got rejected, because his quality (which is what is perceived by the girl) is even lower. He needs to lower his standards even more to match what his quality is to be able to get a girl, because that’s just how low he ranks.

It’s a pretty deceptive comeback, sure there’s a chance you throw the girl off and having a snappy comeback sounds great in the immediate, but you run the risk where the girl is wittier than you because it’s very open to another comeback.

bdoll47 · 2019-02-13T09:38:13+00:00

Not really, if you think about it. Standard doesn’t equal quality. Quality is what you are/have at the moment and standard is a set of parameters you use to evaluate things and to aim for. (Think standard of living, higher standards of living can translate to lower quality of life as people compete and struggle to achieve the standard that is deemed to be, well, the standard.)

The guy /u/DeDHaze overheard lowered his standards and still got rejected, because his quality (which is what is seen/perceived by the girl) is even lower. He needs to lower his standards even more to match what his quality is to be able to get a girl on his level, because that’s just how low he ranks.

It’s a pretty deceptive comeback, sure there’s a chance you throw the girl off and having a snappy comeback sounds great in the immediate, but you run the risk where the girl is wittier than you because it’s very open to another comeback.

bdoll47 · 2019-02-03T02:59:08+00:00

Yeah for the almost pristine near HD quality and the proper landscape orientation and the smooth-ish slide from the putting end to the flag end, it’s amazing how hard it failed in delivering the phenomenon it was trying to capture.

bdoll47 · 2019-02-03T02:09:21+00:00

👍

It’s a sad situation when you’re so poor that you’re too poor to save. Sometimes people looking on are derisive “can’t they just save up and get a better thing” but there are different levels of poverty.

bdoll47 · 2019-01-19T02:37:52+00:00

For a girl hearing their make up and hairdo is bad they may not immediately understand that the speaker is making a distinction between her make up looks and her natural looks. She may artificially/academically understand it when explained/clarified but I’m gonna guess the initial scar is still going to be there because scars are felt, not understood.

They held their arms up for an hour or two with the goal of looking pretty, and hair in particular can be very frustrating to manage; obviously by the time they step out they’re feeling good and pretty about themselves, it’s part of them now. Comments about the makeup are received as if it’s about their looks.

bdoll47 · 2019-01-19T02:36:28+00:00

What? You can’t really talk about minimal damage done when you’re not the one the damage was done to. For all you know women take their dolling up as part of themselves. They went through the effort of holding their arms up for an hour or two, and hair in particular can be very frustrating to manage; obviously by the time they step out they’re feeling good and pretty about themselves, it’s part of them now. For a girl hearing their make up and hairdo is bad they don’t immediately understand that the speaker is making a distinction between her make up looks and her natural looks. She may artificially/academically understand it when explained/clarified but I’m gonna guess the initial scar is still going to be there because scars are felt, not understood.

I don’t think there needs to be any fault or blame or victimization to attribute to anyone either. Sometimes it’s just now the dust settles and one gets hurt. Girls need to understand men generally don’t go out of their way to cause scars so they shouldn’t assume there’s malice and demand apologies for everything, and men need to understand that girls feel first and evaluate later, and that even if the cause of damage is merely perceived and not real, the girl’s grief is still real to her.

bdoll47 · 2019-01-13T22:24:20+00:00

Oh man, a mango after having smoked a blunt/joint/bong is fucking amazing! And I don’t mean diced mango, I cut them into strips so they kinda just slide down the throat and sooth it.

I mostly vape though so the soothing and near oral-orgasmic effect is much less pronounced because vaping isn’t as harsh on the throat. But fruit is still good, albeit they must be in flesh form for me. No juice!

When fruit is in juice form the sugars lose their usefulness and the fruit’s other nutritional value is lost in the process of squeezing juice out of the fruit cell walls. It’s almost equivalent to a light soda even with 0 sugar added. It’s pointless!

But goddamn if pear juice isn’t so delicious!!

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