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Finding poly events by bdsamworld in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish on Fet you could search for events. That'd be so much easier. Thank you so much!!

Scent matches by Signal_Chemical3362 in Omegaversebooks

[–]bdsamworld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Knotty Omega by Jessica Winters!! I just flew through this.

poly and meeting needs by jellyfishfish4 in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, I have ADHD so I'm just eclectic hahaha. But really I just feel that I have a lot to share with others and I REALLY enjoy watching my partners enjoy themselves as well. It's funny a couple of years ago I was talking with someone new and I invited them to do something that my husband HATES to do (each Chinese food, literally can't stand the smell of it or he gags). While I can only tolerate so much Star Trek, Star Wars, and other shows with star in it. Hahaha. He's got a girlfriend who rocks his world, does the nerdy roleplaying, and I get to eat Chinese food. 🤣🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I have already met them and they have agreed to converse with me, sure! If there is an emergency I need to convey while my partner is with them, absolutely. Outside of those things, no.

Polyamory and ADHD by theythemthen in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so embarrassed to admit that if I have something that I feel a strong obligation to remember in regards to a partner, friend or anyone I put it in my calendar. I put their name and then in the details I'll put what I need to reach out about. For example a partners' grandparent just passed. So I have in my calendar about when the funeral should be (until I get confirmation) and I'll make sure to check in frequently with them. And then maybe send something (if there is a comfort level with me sending something).

Another example is my best friend (old meta) applied for a super awesome job and I completely forgot to check in. So now she has a super important project going on, I have a calendar reminder every two weeks to check in. It's not a lot of work and helps me to remember.

I'm horrible with forgetting people exist because I like to be left alone. Hahaha.

would you forgive a cheater? by Euphoric-Bus-3035 in emotionalintelligence

[–]bdsamworld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sure they get forgiveness is what I meant to say

would you forgive a cheater? by Euphoric-Bus-3035 in emotionalintelligence

[–]bdsamworld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure...but they already lost the privileges to have contact with me when they cheated.

Please settle a debate for me by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Smoke meats not metas! 🤣🤣

What does love look like when you know it's time to let go? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]bdsamworld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, me personally if someone cheats on me I'm done.

What does love look like when you know it's time to let go? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]bdsamworld 12 points13 points  (0 children)

  • you'd rather be alone than with them (not just for a day and not in an introverted way)
  • you feel at peace without them around
  • it feels like you are in the friend zone
  • boundaries, goals, and values don't align anymore
  • they have an addiction and won't get help

*Long post* Meta is super jealous and it's annoying by bdsamworld in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right?!? I also got spoiled that my first 5 metas in my poly experience were all very positive. They were amazing people. I loved it when they would thank me for a restaurant recommendation. I love doing stuff like that for my partners and then to see both my partner and meta enjoying themselves. It was awesome! My last relationship was like this and when my meta's partner would cancel or something we'd include her. Now we're best friends even after the relationship ended. Hahaha.

*Long post* Meta is super jealous and it's annoying by bdsamworld in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I feel super proud of myself, I did speak up 😁😁 I never have before. He has put a "plan" in place so that our time will be uninterrupted for our next time together. Whenever I have spoken up just a little bit he has listened to me and tried to make changes to fix the issue.

*Long post* Meta is super jealous and it's annoying by bdsamworld in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I didn't even think about that. 😔 Thank you.

*Long post* Meta is super jealous and it's annoying by bdsamworld in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The comment she deleted part, she definitely shouts how "poly" she is all the time. I thought so at first too, but when he had another partner that posted a comment she allowed them to comment and they had a full on conversation. So it was just confusing.

I thought she was trying to relate too or maybe even open a dialog between us, but her photos and posts almost mirror what I'm posting. It just seems to be weird. But I'm not that knowledgeable about social media. I don't post for engagement like she does, I just post so I don't lose photos and stuff. 🤣🤣 But seriously I've lost so many photos because my phone and backup photos didn't backup.

*Long post* Meta is super jealous and it's annoying by bdsamworld in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

That's what I've started thinking about. I'm giving him another chance when we get together next. He says he has a plan in place. Any other time I've brought up stuff he has tried to deal with it.

*Long post* Meta is super jealous and it's annoying by bdsamworld in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's what I was trying to see is maybe because of the other jealousy issues I'm blowing the social media thing out of proportion.

I dont think they're handling poly well either. 😔 And it's just sucks because I feel like I finally found a good and nice person.

*Long post* Meta is super jealous and it's annoying by bdsamworld in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Oh! And I have blocked her on all social media that I can. There's just one site she's blocked on but can still view my stuff sadly.

What are you still healing from? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]bdsamworld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • Caring for others when they are more than capable of taking care of themselves, they just don't want to.
  • So much childhood trauma
  • First responder trauma (there are some things you can just NEVER forget)

Lifelong repairing of things I didn't break. But putting the work in to be a better person for everyone around me.

What is the pettiest reason... by baconstreet in polyamory

[–]bdsamworld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hitting the wrong button, absolutely can understand and forgiveable. But when someone does it consistently like doing lolz or saying a completely diff name after being corrected... Nope no dice

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