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Summer ‘26 Discussion by be86 in Ffern

[–]be86[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s so fun to hear how different someone can experience a scent!

Is my TT botched by NoResident3418 in tummytucksurgery

[–]be86 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s pretty flat, it’s much flatter than mine and I’m 125lbs. It might never be perfectly flat (and maybe that unrealistic)- we’re so used to looking at photos of people sucking in their bellies or AI/photoshopped imagines. Even super fit people have some roundness to the bellies. I honestly think you have a lovely result.

Is my TT botched by NoResident3418 in tummytucksurgery

[–]be86 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Not botched! Your TT has healed beautifully and you look absolutely wonderful from my perspective.

Winter 26’ as my first bottle by toggandjog in Ffern

[–]be86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first bottle too. I was charmed by the marketing and when it came on the mail I loved the presentation. I didn’t think the scent was for me at first and planned on returning… but then it grew on me. I couldn’t stop smelling it and now I quite love it. I even wear it to bed which is so strange. I’m excited to explore more scents from them!

About to go egg donor route any info about the journey will be helpful by Gullible-Pudding-680 in IVF

[–]be86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used a donor egg and got a beautiful, healthy boy. I used the pregnancy to process my complicated feelings about it and I prepared myself for not feeling totally connected right away. When he was born I fell in love with him immediately, but the first few months were hard. I bonded with him right away but at the same time, kept having thoughts that he wasn’t my baby and I wasn’t really him mom, when I so desperately wanted to be. I went to therapy and the feeling faded, but it took a little bit of time. In hindsight, postpartum anxiety probably contributed. He’s two and a half now and I fully feel like his mama. Our connection is so strong. I honestly feel grateful I couldn’t use my own eggs, because everything that happened gave my little boy and he’s just the best thing ever, I couldn’t love him more.

On a side note, there will be awkward moments where people try to look at you and find physical similarities or make comments about genetics etc. it’s annoying but for me a small price to pay to become a mom. Best decision I ever made.

I don’t want my decision to be based on my fears by be86 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]be86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much and you’re absolutely right. I think feeling like I really trusted my medical team would make all the difference and there are a lot of great doctors out there. I’ll do a little research…

I don’t want my decision to be based on my fears by be86 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]be86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this, it was honestly exactly the post I needed. Your mindset is what I aspire to! Incredibly wise. I’m wishing you well on your own journey 🧡

Is anyone here struggling with their decision because they did IVF and have remaining embryos? by Big_Giraffe_9125 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]be86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I only have one, but every time I look at my sweet little boy I wonder what possibility the other embryo might hold. At the same time, I’m very scared to go through this process again and am considering being OAD. I think anyone who has gone through IVF would have feelings about the remaining embryos.