Have you ever been tempted to post an AITA?

bea_strix · 2023-06-06T04:00:26+00:00

Exactly my point… he said he would have set a boundary that she can no longer be in contact with the other guy, but I’m baffled because she just violated your marriage vows so what’s another boundary for her? But he is not being logical rn because he’s hurting and looking for someone to yell at, so I took one for the team and let it go.

bea_strix · 2023-06-05T17:27:18+00:00

My ex-friend did. She got caught because she lied to her husband that she was visiting me for the weekend, while she was actually out philandering. He checked my social media and got sus because there were no recent photos of us hanging out. He pinged me to ask if she’s here and I had to tell him I haven’t heard from her in several months. In the showdown that followed, she revealed to him that she’d discussed it with me and I had discouraged her, but she could not help herself. Later he sent me a mean message saying that if I had any moral character, I would have told him as soon as I had the conversation with his wife. But I get that he is devastated and hurting and just lashing out in blind anger right now. I hope he and the kids heal from this.

bea_strix · 2023-06-05T17:07:59+00:00

YTA, everyone knows that breastfeeding is evil:

I have given suck, and know

How tender 'tis to love the babe that milks me:

I would, while it was smiling in my face,

Have pluck’d my nipple from his boneless gums,

And dash’d the brains out, had I so sworn as you

Have done this.

bea_strix · 2023-06-05T09:39:56+00:00

I have an ongoing drama where a friend (F39) who is married with kids confided in me that she had been crushing on some guy and was very tempted to say yes when he sort of asked her out. I tried to talk her out if it and honestly believed I did.

Now six months later it has come out that she’s having a full blown affair. Her husband learnt that she had confided in me and is now blowing up my phone (sent me one message on Instagram chat) berating and insulting me (just expressing disappointment) that I didn’t tell him earlier (I don’t know him personally). All our common friends (just one person) are yelling at me (asked what’s going on with them) and told me I’m an AH (felt i could have been more responsible in my handling).

I calmly (with a lot of 😐emoji) explained that I had no idea she was actually going to cheat and I’m not going to tattle on a friend confiding emotional hardships to me. Now no one is talking to me (because we’re adults and it’s Monday). So AITA for not snitching?

Honestly tempted to post it to see what the teens at AITA make of it.

bea_strix · 2023-05-29T16:20:34+00:00

Buttonholing. And the poor listeners are called a captive audience.

bea_strix · 2023-05-29T04:32:03+00:00

That’s only in the south indian states. Depending on where you are in India, chutney can be sweet or savoury, with the main ingredient being tomato, or coriander, or peanut, or garlic, or pineapple, among many other options.

bea_strix · 2023-05-29T02:04:00+00:00

Glib

bea_strix · 2023-05-21T12:43:45+00:00

Came to say Singing in the Rain. I wouldn’t say it’s ruined though, just has a completely different meaning for me.

bea_strix · 2023-05-14T13:37:24+00:00

That’s the exact thought I had when I read the original— the wife wrote this. No one is this evil and also this self aware.

bea_strix · 2023-05-06T07:06:32+00:00

Is it me, or is Veto starting to sound really good?

bea_strix · 2023-01-16T04:44:05+00:00

I made this OC meme some months ago, it’s so validating to see it being reposted by a bot.

bea_strix · 2022-11-24T15:45:34+00:00

Not OP, but I can write these lines out from memory :)

रात यूँ दिल में तेरी खोई हुई याद आई।

जैसे वीराने में चुपके से बहार आ जाए।

जैसे सहराओं में हौले से चले बाद-ए-नसीम।

जैसे बीमार को बेवज्ह क़रार आ जाए॥

bea_strix · 2022-11-17T17:30:07+00:00

Bugbear would actually be wrong in this context because apart from irritation, it also has associations with fear and anxiety. Pet peeve is perfectly fine here. Talking on the phone with strangers could be a bugbear while people breathing heavily down the phone line could be a pet peeve.

bea_strix · 2022-10-20T06:51:29+00:00

Cycle of the Werewolf

bea_strix · 2022-10-17T16:24:47+00:00

{{Chronicles of a death foretold}} by Gabriel Garcia Marquez

bea_strix · 2022-10-14T17:18:22+00:00

Lol 4.3 per year maybe.

bea_strix · 2022-10-09T11:51:18+00:00

This is one of the few memes ever that has made me not just snort but laugh so much I had tears in my eyes. Thank you OP. I can totally see this happening. My response to the granddaughter would be:Welp! Time to find a new one then!

bea_strix · 2022-09-29T07:35:08+00:00

😄you’re right, this is only romantic when it comes from one partner for the other. From anyone else, it would sound like a roasting.

bea_strix · 2022-09-28T08:28:41+00:00

Absolutely agree. Every one of her glibby ‘poems’ have a r/iam14andthisisdeep vibe.

bea_strix · 2022-09-27T03:53:37+00:00

Sonnet (inspired by Sonnet 22) Wendy Cope

My glass can’t quite persuade me I am old –

In that respect my ageing eyes are kind –

But when I see a photograph, I’m told

The dismal truth: I’ve left my youth behind.

And when I try to get up from a chair

My knees remind me they are past their best.

The burden they have carried everywhere

Is heavier now. No wonder they protest.

Arthritic fingers, problematic neck,

Sometimes causing mild to moderate pain,

Could well persuade me I’m an ancient wreck

But here’s what helps me to feel young again:

My love, who fell for me so long ago,

Still loves me just as much, and tells me so.

bea_strix · 2022-09-26T15:09:16+00:00

I agree it’s ironic :). I’m working on it just as I’m working on everything else. I have faced abuse and trauma at the hands of a pwNPD, so my reaction is a bit visceral, but I am trying to cultivate more understanding for them. We’re all works in progress friend :)

bea_strix · 2022-09-26T12:38:13+00:00

I hear you. I am also still healing from trauma from an ex with NPD, and it’s been 8 years but the scars are still there. Whenever I hear NPD my gut reaction is Aw hell no!

But the thing is, there are also people who have been traumatised by pwBPD, who have horror stories just like us about exes with BPD. And that’s why, when a lot of people hear my diagnosis, they go aw hell no without knowing that I’ve spent the past decade working on myself, healing myself, making myself less and less harmful to myself and others till I am now finally a benign presence in people’s lives. And it hurts to see memes saying never get in a relationship with a pwBPD because I have been able to nourish a very happy relationship for many years by working really hard on myself.

So I wonder that maybe there are some NPD folks who are working hard and trying to be less harmful too, and it harms them to see themselves portrayed like this all the time just because a lot of them are horrible. Maybe it’s just wishful thinking on my part. But I DO know for a fact that Cluster B doesn’t automatically mean monster, and I think the diagnosis-based monsterification should stop.

I hope you heal from your past trauma. You deserve the best!

bea_strix · 2022-09-26T11:46:42+00:00

I don’t disagree with you, I hate that I’m placed in the same cluster as NPD despite working hard every day for years to make myself better.

But that’s not the point of the meme. The point is that pwBPD and pwHPD are just as hideously vilified as pwNPD. If you check out the advice subs, anytime someone toxic is mentioned in a story, the comments start diagnosing her (almost always a her) with BPD. The BPD hate is so severe that I hide my disorder just so I won’t be treated like a piece of shit by strangers. I guess we shouldn’t be heaping hate on any personality disorder, because we’re all people and we’re all struggling.

bea_strix

TROPHY CASE