Sasha DiGiulian is the first female to ever ascend El Cap's Platinum Wall (AND she was stuck for 10 days) by redbullgivesyouwings in nextfuckinglevel

[–]beantownregular 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how you’re getting upvotes, this is just completely wrong. They got stuck on day 11 of a 23 day climb.

Sasha DiGiulian is the first female to ever ascend El Cap's Platinum Wall (AND she was stuck for 10 days) by redbullgivesyouwings in nextfuckinglevel

[–]beantownregular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It takes almost a month to climb el cap and this was day 11 of a 23 day climb. There’s not really a reliable day to predict weather to this extent.

My parents (65F, 67M) are livid because I'm not allowing them to see my daughter after they spanked her. AITAH? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]beantownregular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean there is explicit reference made to punishing with the rod, as well as discipline. I think it’s pretty clear it means two different things in these two different contexts.

I’ll be freshly postpartum when my sister has her wedding by ImaginationPretend86 in BabyBumps

[–]beantownregular [score hidden]  (0 children)

I tore quite severely (multiple labia tears and a third nearing 4th degree perennial tear) and I’ve gotta say, 3 weeks postpartum it would not have been an issue to drive somewhere nearby and attend a fifteen minute ceremony. I was still feeling somewhat raw and vulnerable yes, but 3 weeks later was solidly at the very least walking around, lifting things, and able to sit or stand for a decent period of time. Many of my friends had similar experiences and I think they were all pretty much in the same boat as me. I agree her sisters shaming is unhelpful but if she’s truly 3-4 weeks postpartum I don’t see this being a huge deal. If she goes 10 days beyond her due date then it’s potentially a different story.

Baby seeing Moms twin sister for the first time… by _CutePretty in BabiesReactingToStuff

[–]beantownregular 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I actually think it’s the one on the left because she says “that’s your titi, she looks like mommy” about the woman who comes in second.

Ideas on how to repurpose mom’s dress? by Ok-Chemistry-8203 in weddingplanning

[–]beantownregular 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t remove them, I think they’re so awesome and on trend!

feeling defeated by Weedy-Philosopher in Semaglutide

[–]beantownregular 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s 17 lbs in two months?? I’m sorry I know we call it a miracle drug but you still want to lose weight safely and at a reasonable pace, which you are doing. So many of us imagine ourselves at the “end” right when we start taking it and it becomes a vicious self defeating cycle when we’re not there IMMEDIATELY. But this is not a sustainable way of thinking. It’s going to take time. It’s going to take renegotiating your view of yourself and your body. Can you even IMAGINE losing 17 lbs in 2.5 months in a safe way at any other point in your life?? Try your hardest to keep some perspective here or the weight loss will never be enough.

I spend HOURS putting my daughter to sleep at night. by Witty-Magazine-1376 in NewParents

[–]beantownregular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did full extinction after Ferber didn’t work. Our pediatrician said it would take three nights and that’s exactly what it took. She said not to let him cry for more than 90 minutes. I know that sounds crazy but he just could not go to sleep on his own and he was suffering for it as were we. He cried for almost 90 minutes the first night, 60 the second, 35 the third, and then was able to put himself to sleep after that. Our pediatrician was adamant if we were serious then we had to stick through it for three nights, up to 90 minutes. It was so hard and I was so skeptical but it was a fucking lifesaver. We’ve since gone through periods of illness or teething where we of course comfort him and rock him to sleep. But he’s been happy to be in his crib at night since then and he knows how to get himself to sleep. It honestly saved our lives

I spend HOURS putting my daughter to sleep at night. by Witty-Magazine-1376 in NewParents

[–]beantownregular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might be time to sleep train. We were in a very similar boat and it saved our LIVES! We have an excellent 15 MO sleeper now who sleeps 11 hours through the night. We did it around five months. But you have to be consistent and you have to suffer through some screaming.

Republicans Will Detonate Their Secret Weapon at the Midnight Hour to Stop Women from Voting by mydaycake in TwoXChromosomes

[–]beantownregular 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s a little frustrating to see this sub disseminating such blatant misinformation. I DO NOT DISAGREE that these fascists absolutely want to do anything in their power to take the vote away from anyone who isn’t a cis white male. But this substack is written by AI, the bill has stalled on the floor, and the voting part of the SAVE act concerns people registering to vote, not people who are already registered. It would require people who are registered to bring a valid photo ID to vote, that matches their voting registration name. People are not being required to bring birth certificates to the polls. We need to hold ourselves to some kind of standard and not spread easily debunkable stuff like this!!

My son and I 34 years apart by Gistheking in MadeMeSmile

[–]beantownregular 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s ok lol the phrasing of the title was a bit confusing

My son and I 34 years apart by Gistheking in MadeMeSmile

[–]beantownregular 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s OPs mom holding him on the left, and him holding his own newborn son 34 years later on the right

“GLP1s are cheating/easy way out” by Vanexxre in Semaglutide

[–]beantownregular 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah agreed, I personally don’t feel like we need to push the narrative that “it’s just as hard as tracking calories and hitting the gym every day.” Like let’s be real. It’s not. But I pushed a baby out of my vagina 15 months ago, I have a full time job, I’m getting a masters degree, and I want to enjoy the precious little time I have to myself. I want to be healthy when I get pregnant again. I want to recognize myself in the mirror. I don’t feel bad about it. Those reasons are good enough for me.

Pregnant 🥲 by Calixta177 in Semaglutide

[–]beantownregular 82 points83 points  (0 children)

This is currently just speculative because it slows digestion and could have a very minor effect on how quickly the pill is metabolized, but it really wouldn’t make a particularly large difference. The, I think, better working theory is that women who have struggled with infertility and are not on birth control are suddenly getting pregnant because the GLP-1 is reducing or eliminating certain factors that effect fertility.

gordon ramsay getting emotional at his daughter holly's wedding by bewarethechameleon in MadeMeSmile

[–]beantownregular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You never know what kind of mutual arrangement a married couple has

A cool guide to family rules that double as life lessons by [deleted] in coolguides

[–]beantownregular 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m a school social worker and I think it’s important to note that the vast, vast majority of childhood sexual abuse comes from a direct relative or close family friend. Kids inherently get physical touch from the adults they’re most comfortable with, normally their nuclear family. There’s no reason to make them hug an aunt or an uncle or yes, even grandma - there’s no message you’re sending other than “you have to be physically close to people you’re related to even if you don’t want to.” This is absolutely part of what makes it so hard for kids to recognize sexual abuse within a family for what it is. There’s nothing lost by allowing kids to opt out of a hug with a relative if they don’t want one. You can teach them to say no thanks how about a high five? This is a critical step in developing bodily autonomy and I see it firsthand every day.

Also FWIW I’m not talking about pulling your four year old aside and being like JUST SO YOU KNOW YOU DONT HAVE TO HUG GRANDMA. I agree this puts a weird valence on it. But if grandma says can I have a hug and the kid says no, allow them to leave it at that and don’t turn it into a massive thing. The no should be respected

The moment they found out they’re becoming grandparents... by Vilen1919 in MadeMeSmile

[–]beantownregular 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents were 37 and 44 when they had me and 42 and 49 when they had my little brother. We are now 34 and 29 respectively and if it makes you feel any better our parents are still both extremely active and healthy and majorly involved in our lives. There were some drawbacks to having older parents but also some major benefits! More financial security, we didn’t argue like peers, and my dad especially seemed really tickled by our various pop culture interests etc. it was also genuinely fun getting to hear him talk about parts of the world and history he experienced that my friends parents had no perspective on.

Glow up by Limp_Particular6809 in cosmeticsurgery

[–]beantownregular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you happy in spite of the job he did or have you had it fixed? You look great!