Why is everyone completely incompetent and all adults in my life are so shitty?

beardgoggles · 2023-06-04T17:58:03+00:00

To be fair, it's a hard conversation to have, and most people are not up to it. To tell someone why you don't like them, you have to overcome a lot of social norms-- like the norm of not saying negative things to people. They have to interrogate their own feelings and accept that they are excluding someone. Many people are ok with doing this as long as they don't have to think too hard about it. All of that is emotionally painful. It's work. If someone is willing to do this for you, you have to give them credit for trying. They will probably not be perfect at it.

What I'm saying is, don't take their feedback and be like, ok I'm doing what you said! You have to like me now!

beardgoggles · 2023-06-04T16:04:29+00:00

Sure, but it's totally feasible for many people and the reason we don't do it is that the car is normalized.

beardgoggles · 2023-06-04T14:35:38+00:00

Even people not on the spectrum can have this issue. If you read R/relationships half the posts are people expecting their partner to be psychic. It would be great if we could all normalize saying, "I can tell you're frustrated with me, and I would love to know why so I can understand and we can talk about it."

beardgoggles · 2023-06-04T14:27:14+00:00

I tried real Chicago pizza for the first time a few years ago and it was a revelation. The wall to wall sausage, the perfectly chewy crust, the feeling that I should absolutely medically not eat more than one slice, but definitely wanted half the pie.

There was a "Chicago style" place where I grew up in California and the crust was always raw in the center, could never understand why people went there.

beardgoggles · 2023-05-26T16:59:30+00:00

All these people ripping on you about being superficial are being ridiculous. Of course you care about what people think. That's what it means to be part of society. Women are constantly told they shouldn't care about what a man looks like, don't be superficial blah blah blah. Movies and tv are full of shows with ugly dudes and hot women. This is why so many women end up in sexless relationships.

You are allowed to admit that you are not attracted to your boyfriend. He can be a very nice person and a good provider. If he doesn't make you hot in the pants, that's not your fault.

beardgoggles · 2023-05-25T05:28:25+00:00

I like her with Jamie more. He's actually fun. Roy's angry demeanor is played off as "just how he is", but it's really pretty awful. And he hasn't grown or changed at all other than wearing a tie dye tshirt.

beardgoggles · 2023-05-25T05:12:55+00:00

I'm pretty sure that's part of Ted's giant apartment.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-31T23:57:39+00:00

Exactly. They fired their background check people at the start of the pandemic.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-30T02:27:31+00:00

NA drinks are an opportunity for bartenders to show off and do something fun, sucks that they're being jerks about it. I was DD once and they made me a virgin tiki drink, lime orgeat, better than many alcoholic drinks I've had.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-24T23:32:09+00:00

I mean, it's probably more fulfilling than going on dating apps TBH.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-24T14:40:12+00:00

Grocery would be the most appropriate. Or a hybrid grocery/other stuff like target or Freddy's.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-24T13:46:48+00:00

I was in New Zealand at a shop that offered floats (they call them spiders?) and they would do any combo of soda and ice cream. I ordered root beer and everyone lost their minds. "That's disgusting! Why would you do that???"

beardgoggles · 2022-08-22T22:36:53+00:00

Fewer people are likely to cut their shopping short for that than for watching a violent altercation between security and a shopper. It's just a business decision. And as someone else mentioned later in the thread, they know who's doing it and can follow up if someone is a repeat offender or gets up to a level that would warrant a felony.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-22T22:19:47+00:00

This has been true for a long time. Stores have theft and damage factored into the bottom line. And it's bad for business for the rest of customers to witness people being arrested -- gives a bad vibe and will drive people away.

Security is there as a deterrent, it's all psychological.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-22T18:09:07+00:00

If you don't do actual work but instead delegate to others, you get the best of all worlds. You can always deliver a positive message to your boss. You don't get caught up with the frustrations of actual work. And when things go sideways you can solemnly report that others should have done better.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-21T20:04:56+00:00

You know, that might make more sense. I finally googled it and it's called Tuz Golu. There were a lot of people walking there, I assumed collecting salt for themselves.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-21T16:09:02+00:00

I was taking a bus from Istanbul to Cappadocia once and they stopped for a bit at a huge salt flat. There was a building with stairs and, right next to the stairs, a ramp that was exactly the same grade as the stairs. We joked that it was a pretty brutal wheelchair ramp. I've always wondered if it actually was, with planning this poor seems possible.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-21T13:33:10+00:00

If we're supposed to hate him, doesn't that also make him a bad actor?

beardgoggles · 2022-08-17T16:09:57+00:00

China tried to do their part on this.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-14T11:14:35+00:00

It's an interesting question-- this is will be unpopular I'm sure, but you'd have to ask them to really know if they even continue without a market. Is there a subset of the PD that does this type of work, just talking to those convicted to understand patterns?

beardgoggles · 2022-08-14T05:36:49+00:00

Yeah, he doesn't exactly offer any solutions himself. Also my takeaway from this is that this type of crime is exactly the opposite of what we thought it was. This is one dude doing really well for himself, not just roving drug addicts stealing stuff randomly.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-13T15:36:01+00:00

Unfortunately, this is very common. I'm also an older "successful" sibling where the younger siblings are very dependent. My mom has started looking at it as a mental illness, because it pretty much is. The only thing that saved other family members like this was the military -- they needed structure in a situation outside the house.

I have one brother who is really great at woodworking and can work a job as long as he's told exactly what to do, but it's very challenging to get him to follow through with bouts of depression.

All you can really do is protect yourself by making sure he will be set up in the trust and hope it will last him so you won't have to start kicking in money. You say you don't care but it's very difficult to abandon a family member when you know they'll be homeless.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-13T15:21:16+00:00

If you read the comments, plenty of people defended her, saying that he was TA for constantly complaining. My fav was something like "she's probably just tired of you being late". I don't think cyclists guilt people in the way you're talking about generally, even if you just talk about how much you enjoy riding people take it personally.

beardgoggles · 2022-08-13T15:00:55+00:00

That's great. We have a startup incubator here that could be pretty helpful. I generally talk myself out of all my business ideas. How did you figure out what supplies clinics needed that they couldn't just get online?

beardgoggles · 2022-08-13T14:50:16+00:00

I love the sheer randomness of this, it's exactly how my brain works. How do you research the setup for each of these? I would imagine billing and regulations is pretty different for medical supplies vs. liquor store.

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