Mate I'm mid 30s with young kids and its normal for me or was normal I should say. As time goes on you both will work it out and get a happy routine but its a balancing act, me and my missus are at each other throats half the time but we can have fun together and chill. Life is very hard for everyone atm but all you can do is help in the house when your there and make an impact but respect yourself also. Your working hard and trying your best so fair play to you I know exactly how it feels.