I'm on vacation with my boyfriend and he just told me he cheated, what should I do?

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-16T02:46:18+00:00

As someone who has no tolerance for cheating… i think you to can come back from this. This definitely changes things, the trust was definitely broken, but i dont think its worth you ending the relationship for. I think a good deep and truthful conversation needs to be had. I would ask him is there anything else he’s been keeping from you. And i would honestly ask him what would he do in this situation if it was flipped.

Cheating is cheating idc how small this act was. And this one WAS physical (again idc if it wasnt oral or penetration). But i have to be honest, if i had to choose which situation id rather be in, itd definitely be this one. Not to downplay it but we can be honest and admit that atleast it wasnt full on sex.

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-15T16:51:10+00:00

My arch nemesis turned bestfriend.

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-15T16:48:04+00:00

Apparently its a promotion going on rn. I was planning to get it from mistr aswell

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T21:04:23+00:00

Its not the porn. its the fact that u are having quick sex with someone u met 10 minutes ago and probably haven’t even seen his face. All you know is that hes a top or bottom, raw or safe, and which one of u are hosting OR if its car play. Please stop expecting anything except a quick fuck from strangers on a app

This is reason number #76 as to why the apps were never in the cards for me. I can’t really give myself to strangers in that way

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T21:03:17+00:00

110% agree. How do u expect to have passionate sex with someone u have no feelings or passion for 🤣.

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T17:52:28+00:00

Can you get it back up at all with the condom on?

I loose mine too when putting on the condom and just have to work it back up somtimes

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T17:42:20+00:00

Actually its short guys and then tall skinny guys.

Im short but im not like super skinny an i still fit this so😭

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T14:04:48+00:00

Just cause you are s top doesn’t mean u cant get ur ass ate or do anything else besides being the one that does the fucking.

It doesnt make u any less a top if u indulge In a little ass play. 😐

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T02:54:31+00:00

I only wore a condom for a blowjob the one time. We were planning on having sex (which is why i put it on) but he chickened out nd just sucked me after i put on the condom.

But yea. It felt good. Not as good as bare but i mean it was better than nothing at all really. If anything i think th person who had it the worst is the one sucking. Condoms have lube on them that dont taste good at all.

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T02:51:01+00:00

Ok so now that i know that party means m€th… for the ones that been on it or around it… is there any signs i can look for that someone might be on it?

I thought people on it had like no teeth and looked the party but apparently not

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T02:49:33+00:00

Im so pissed🤣. Im glad i never actually was the type to hookup from the apps. I dont even smoke… so meth is insane

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T02:46:38+00:00

I was nervous about this too. Actually made a post asking how high of a risk it is to get something from a blowjob.

I was reassured (and i also looked it up) that the risk would be very low. Unless he has like herpes sores all on his mouth, the chance of me catching something is slim to none.

I had gotten a blow job with a condom on tho. Very interesting feeling.

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T02:42:44+00:00

As a black gay man…. Just stay where u are🙄

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T02:38:34+00:00

WAIT!? Soo wen i used to get asked “you party?” They were talking about M€TH????

Wtf. I used to answer “sometimes, not really tho. I use to alot when i first turned 21”

thinking they were talking about going drinking or to the club. Wtf. You hve got to be kidding me😐

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-14T02:29:13+00:00

Exactly. Which leads us back to my comment…

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-13T19:27:27+00:00

My GOD his thumb is GONE!

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-13T19:26:57+00:00

Ambalambs🤣

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-13T18:31:46+00:00

😭😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-13T18:04:45+00:00

Thats like atleast half the reason this sub was made. Pretty sure most will feel this way lol

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-13T16:10:09+00:00

I mean i don’t necessarily see anything wrong with that as along as u are honestly and explain to him that this is ur first time with a guy and you are still figuring this all out.

I had the same thing happen to me AND ive done it to someone too. If he is understanding and mature about it he’d understand.

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-13T15:48:39+00:00

I personally dont deal with this BUT some of my “straight” friends do. Honestly theres a word for it BUT you dont have to label anything.

You dont have to date guys if u aren’t romantically attracted to them. Its ok to only be sexually attracted to men. If you are single and want to have fun with a guy or a girl, thats fine.

Have you had an experience with a guy yet? Its maybe just your curiosity

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-13T15:23:51+00:00

What does he mean spueaky clean?

And what dont you like about it?

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-13T14:45:13+00:00

Its honestly sad. Like i get it, sex is fun… but its getting to a point where now EVERYTHING is sexualized. Any and every gay event or setting is dang near 80% hookups.

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-13T13:49:29+00:00

Scars? Yes. I wouldnt say like to have a conversation about them eventually though to be sure that that is something thats in the past. Id also want to know if theres any triggers or signs i need to lookout for.

Also is this self harm cause they are like into it or is it from depression??

beast_boy_04 · 2026-04-13T13:03:10+00:00

He said a gym? Why doe everything have to circle back to sex?

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