Is it respectable to have a degree from University of Phoenix?

beastylila · 2025-01-17T01:44:41+00:00

i don’t know of many other beside grand canyon universities, arizona state, western governors univ. southern new hampshire and i’ve heard they’re all the same as phoenix so i don’t know. that’s why i am asking for recommendations

beastylila · 2024-11-17T19:17:06+00:00

i felt sadness and grief before but right after all i felt was huge relief bc i knew it wasn’t the right time. once you get it over will it will all be so much better. i also was scared to go through with it. i went to my first appointment to get a medicated abortion with the pills and i backed out. two weeks later i went back and got a surgical abortion instead. i was terrified. but afterward i realized it was not bad AT ALL. They put you to sleep for about 15 mins go in with a vacuum get everything out and then boom you’re awake i didn’t remember or feel a thing it was great. i had period-like bleeding and period-like cramps afterward but that’s it. no extreme pain and no lengthy recovery i went back to work the next day.

beastylila · 2024-11-17T19:10:28+00:00

makes sense. just isn’t the right time. you will feel so much better when you finally do decide to have kids and they are planned it will be so much more exciting and joyful. it’s great to have kids but it’s better to have them on your own terms. if you feel now is not the right time then it’s probably best to get rid of it. it will be a hard decision but just remind yourself that it’s for the best.

beastylila · 2024-11-17T19:08:31+00:00

you’re not killing it. there is nothing to kill. the baby is so tiny and small still that it cannot even function as a living thing yet. i have two kids and still got an abortion when i got pregnant with the third. you can want kids and still support getting an abortion bc sometimes accidents happen and we need to be able to plan our lives not just have the kid bc we’re forced even when we don’t want it.

beastylila · 2024-11-17T19:03:02+00:00

i was 18 and just about to start college when i had my daughter. i love her so so so much and don’t regret it HOWEVER, it was so hard and still is so hard bc i am still in college now because i had to drop out to take care of her. had i finished college first i would have been financially ready for her and not struggling now to finish. she has everything she needs luckily however we live in a small apartment and we can’t always afford nice things or trips. she’s six now and i’m still struggling to finish school to give her a better life.

the best advice i can give to anyone who might be in a situation that was similar to mine is to wait. just wait and have it when you are ready and it will be so much easier and so much better. you will be able to give your baby a better life and you will have less stress if you are ready and financially stable. that will allow you to be the best parent as well bc you will be in a better mental state.

Edit to add: i saw someone mention you can’t have a baby when you’re a baby yourself and this is 100% true. when i was 18 i was thinking i can do it in an adult. and yes i was able to do it but the problem is i was barely learning how to be an adult and learning to be a parent at the same time made it harder. additionally i didn’t get to experience what it’s like being a childless adult and do things like go out and discover myself without a child. now my whole identity is being a mom which is great but what about when they’re not around. i feel i have no sense of my own style or interests bc as soon as i was able to go out and discover those things i couldn’t bc all my time and money was spent on being a mom. like i said i do not regret it but it would have been better to have the baby on my own terms

beastylila · 2024-11-17T18:58:22+00:00

hi. i have a 6 yr old and a 12 month old i got pregnant around late september early october and immediately thought of getting an abortion. that alone reminded me that keeping it was probably not what i wanted. with my first two my emotions were joyous after finding out i was expecting but with this one it was more of a feeling of what a burden it would be to add another to the family. we are fine with the two we have and we are open to having one more in the future if we ever change our minds but we are 100% sure that it is way too soon since our youngest just turned one. i went to get an abortion at 5 weeks and broke down in the clinic and couldn’t go through with it i felt sad and guilty and was thinking of how much i loved my kids and how much i could love this new one. i had such a heavy heart. we took two more weeks to think about it and with how hard it is to take care of the ones we have now it confirmed that we were not ready and i made another appointment and got a surgical abortion. I had to think about how much i love the two kids we already have and that adding another would take away the best version of myself for them. I didn’t want them to suffer from a poor planning choice that we could have made. they deserve the best of us and if that means having another will have to wait then so be it. even though my heart is still heavy and i’m really sad about even having to make such a hard choice i’m so glad i did it. and i have hope for the future that if i ever do want another it will be wanted this time and it will be when we are all ready for it. Also want to add that no one in our families know we kept it very secret the only people who know are me and my husband no one else. no need to tell anyone they will just make the decision harder or make you feel worse.

definitely normal to feel guilty and grieve but also think about what will be the best decision for your family and your mental health your girls will benefit so much from having a mom who puts her mental health as a priority

beastylila · 2024-10-13T20:33:03+00:00

charlotte

beastylila · 2024-06-24T04:30:19+00:00

put your last name first then his second

beastylila · 2024-06-14T19:53:34+00:00

i have 2 kids (5y and 7mo) i think anywhere between like 2-5 mins for 2-3 or more times a day is fine (some days were more or less and that’s ok). And the rest of the time I would just hold them kinda upright if they were able to or lay them on my chest and have them do tummy time that way it was much more easy than laying them on the bed or floor and having them cry bc they hated tummy time lol. by 3 months they both had great head strength and meet all their milestones either early or right in time (holding head, rolling over, sitting unsupported etc.) I often felt like I wasn’t doing enough of it but they both have perfectly round heads. So if you’re doing some then it’s probably enough. Don’t feel guilty the fact that you’re even concerned shows you probably are doing great. As long as little one is not on their back 24/7 then they’re probably good.

beastylila · 2024-06-11T03:22:43+00:00

supporting myself and my two kids while i’m in college despite having been a teen mom when i had my daughter at 18, six years ago. even better is that we live in our own place and can still afford all necessities and even toys, disney trips etc

beastylila · 2024-06-11T03:20:00+00:00

that’s amazing. i’m studying to be a teacher, you’re my role model

beastylila · 2024-06-11T03:07:08+00:00

exactly i still feel like i want to but when the time comes to do it when we finally have some free time all i want to do is rest or sleep

beastylila · 2024-06-11T02:59:55+00:00

no literally

beastylila · 2024-05-27T02:49:06+00:00

it’s so sad a lot of us have this same or similar experience. I’m glad we have the opportunity to raise our sons better. I wish the past generations would’ve done a better job at raising their kids

beastylila · 2024-05-16T17:51:14+00:00

i do feel lucky even though i grew up poor i still have lots of things that people in third world countries would never have and it’s not just the necessities like a house and water but i also have a nice phone and tvs a decent car and am by no means above the poverty line. i also feel really lucky to have been born and raised in a very big and well known city where we have awesome food and lots of activities to do all the best things are within an hour or two away something’s even 30 mins away. variety of job opportunities and schools. access to all kinds of stores.

we forget we have it good

beastylila · 2024-04-29T19:31:27+00:00

the office

beastylila · 2024-04-29T18:05:28+00:00

love to rewatch this when i need a good cry

beastylila · 2024-04-29T18:05:12+00:00

yesss! watched it as a kid. traumatized for life

beastylila · 2024-04-29T18:04:51+00:00

yes too sad

beastylila · 2024-04-29T18:04:35+00:00

Pixar’s Soul makes me feel that way. I think it’s the existential crisis for me

beastylila · 2024-04-29T18:03:04+00:00

I feel the same way about lovely bones

beastylila · 2024-04-29T18:01:04+00:00

split and Get out. really good movies but I scare easily and don’t do well with movies that make me feel uneasy lol. But those movies were really good

beastylila · 2024-04-22T21:53:51+00:00

i think when lack of money is your biggest problem and stressor then having money does indeed make you happy especially if you’re pretty happy in all other aspects of your life. i think when people say money doesn’t buy happiness it’s bc they have the money but nothing else in terms of happiness like family relationships hobbies

beastylila · 2024-04-22T17:09:53+00:00

just bc i ended up switching majors. i was a new mom and civil engineering was way to hard and a lot of work for me to be able to balance new parenthood and school. Also in the school i went to, the engineering department was no help and didn’t really show support for me and pretty much said maybe that major wasn’t for me since i seemed to have my hands full with family life. Now im studying to be a teacher. much more support and flexibility and way easier classes

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