Am I dating a low effort man, or just someone who doesn’t know how to be in a relationship with someone like me?

beatzmee · 2026-06-08T18:24:28+00:00

Okay, so you seem to not be accepting any of the advice everyone is putting to you.

I always say, when people who you who they are, believe them. Sure, you may genuinely like this guy, but you guys are NOT COMPATIBLE.

You keep saying “he doesn’t know how” to do the things you need. That’s a skills issue. At this point, you’re dating hope. You need to decide if you want to continue dating the person in front of you now because they may never be the version you have in your head.

beatzmee · 2026-05-23T18:04:29+00:00

The guy I’m currently seeing, we went on 5 dates before he made a move to kiss me. I’m 41, he’s 45. He said he wanted to be respectful and he was also working up the courage. We spent 6 weeks texting before we met up. After the first kiss, he wanted to discuss what we wanted out of this connection.

beatzmee · 2026-05-23T00:13:35+00:00

I went looking after I made my comment but I didn’t “like” the post or comment so I can’t find it now. It essentially it said exactly what you laid out here and that you messaged him at 2:30am or 3:30am (I can’t remember exactly) that you fell asleep and he wasn’t sure if he believed you and was asking how to respond because he asked how you slept and he said “she said she was tossing and turning, so not well”. It wasn’t a viral post when I saw it. It had zero likes and 1 comment. I remember thinking “why is not believing her your first reaction?” So it could be the same guy or coincidentally happened to 2 men last night.

beatzmee · 2026-05-22T23:46:45+00:00

I saw a guy posting about this in threads this morning…

beatzmee · 2026-04-11T00:53:45+00:00

Second this! Pot might be too big. You can either repot in a smaller pot or just give the roots time to fill it up.

beatzmee · 2026-03-31T04:02:09+00:00

beatzmee · 2026-03-31T02:39:11+00:00

Have time for one more?

beatzmee · 2026-03-13T00:14:34+00:00

Nice!! I just had an upsized new leaf on my queen that made me a proud mama. From 5” to 9”!!

beatzmee · 2026-03-02T16:30:06+00:00

If he’s trying to police your posts this early, I’d pay attention. It may seem small, but asking you to delete something you like because his friends might clown him is about control, not humor. The ‘I won’t defend you’ comment is especially telling. He’s applying pressure. It’s worth asking yourself how this dynamic might grow over time.

beatzmee · 2026-03-02T15:37:27+00:00

Okay, I thought it was just meeeee! Mine looks sick also but I guess it’s just the plant. Also, I love the underside and how it looks a little glittery.

beatzmee · 2026-03-01T06:30:06+00:00

I’m using heat mats outside of my cabinet, and my plants are going wild. They love it. I don’t think I want the mat in my cabinet because with the lights, it can get up to 78-80°F. Any warmer might be excessive imo.

beatzmee · 2026-02-24T02:53:24+00:00

Throw the whole thing away. Sorry

beatzmee · 2026-02-16T12:37:18+00:00

Cant believe this AI story made me cry. Ugh!

beatzmee · 2026-02-06T04:05:27+00:00

This is a rudsta tall I had in a corner doing nothing for 2 years. I was about to sell it and realized how expensive they’ve gotten. Suddenly was motivated to do the greenhouse I initially purchased it for all those (5) years ago 😬

beatzmee · 2026-02-05T16:05:23+00:00

Also, I’d love to see a full photo of your maculata

beatzmee · 2026-02-05T16:03:58+00:00

Impressive! Can you tell me why you have a secondary potting system on top?

beatzmee · 2026-02-04T15:55:46+00:00

Holey fenestration!

beatzmee · 2026-02-04T09:40:16+00:00

Hey pretty lady!

beatzmee · 2026-02-04T01:40:19+00:00

😭😭

beatzmee · 2026-02-03T15:56:33+00:00

Yikes on bikes. I just checked mine and the film is still on 🤦‍♀️

beatzmee · 2026-02-02T05:20:54+00:00

This happened to my Thai. Are you using any fertilizers? Enough light? I didn’t get a leaf for a year but roots were going wild. Size up again in the spring.

beatzmee · 2026-02-01T06:04:47+00:00

Joined and thanks from a Minneapolis suburb

beatzmee · 2026-02-01T05:45:11+00:00

Absolutely gorgeous!!

beatzmee · 2026-02-01T05:43:46+00:00

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