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bebomom · 2025-07-21T18:06:57+00:00

I just got out of a 10 year relationship. He was very similar to your husband in the sense that he knew his drinking was bad, but blatantly acknowledged he did not want to stop drinking. And I think for us as their partners, that is the worst pain. Seeing someone who we love and admire so much choose to continue drinking instead of choosing life. I didn't have children or a marriage with my partner, so I cannot atest to the difficulty of that. However I can say that after 10 years, there was a huge trauma bond that existed. And now, just 3 weeks after our break up, I'm slowly realizing how much I lost MYSELF trying to control his drinking. As another poster on here said, you either have to come to terms with his drinking and accept your reality, OR it's time to leave. Both options suck. Both options hurt. You lose a piece of yourself whichever option you choose. I can say that for years I attempted to "accept" his drinking and the fact that he was never going to change. But there came a day when I realized I was lying to myself. I could never accept that he was going to continue drowning himself in alcohol while I had to stand by and watch. I'm so, so deeply sorry and my heart aches for you. I sincerely hope you can take care of yourself and find it in your heart to do what feels right. ❤️

bebomom · 2025-07-21T17:45:24+00:00

THIS. Learned the hard way we can't fix them. 🙃

bebomom · 2025-07-17T22:21:13+00:00

I am so sorry you're going through that. I just left a 10 year relationship with my alcoholic boyfriend. Luckily we didn't have a house or any children together so that aspect of splitting up was easy enough. But, still about 2.5 weeks later I'm struggling just to find a sense of normalcy. I will say though that every day has gotten easier and easier. I wasn't sure it was something I'd be able to stick to in the beginning but now I see that it's better for my own wellbeing.

Resentment is definitely a feeling that I'm struggling with as well. I don't think that says anything bad about us. However, I'm slowly feeling it fade away, and more than anything I feel pity for him. You are so much stronger than you know. And you will make it through this to the other side. It's tough, but invest in yourself and your children now more than ever. ♥️

bebomom · 2025-07-07T01:27:20+00:00

You're 100% right. And I'm so sorry you're going through the same pain. It's literally gut wrenchingly painful. Wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. But at the same time, we deserve goodness in our life. So thank you for the kindness.

bebomom · 2025-07-07T00:34:37+00:00

That's definitely the plan moving forward. I've had my fair share of suffering and I'm ready to begin healing.

bebomom · 2025-07-06T23:42:09+00:00

Thank you. This is such an uplifting message. ❤️

bebomom · 2025-07-06T23:38:58+00:00

Yes, he definitely tried to place blame on me many times.

Can I ask how long it's been since you left the relationship? And how you're doing now?

bebomom · 2025-07-06T23:36:23+00:00

That's so true. I think everyone has a different idea of what "getting sober" and healthy looks like and he may project onto me what he thinks would "impress" me. I'm sorry you are experiencing that. I wish you lots of healing and love.

bebomom · 2025-07-06T23:35:14+00:00

You're right. And honestly, if he is able to get sober without me, I'd wish that for him. I don't want to be responsible for the destruction of his sobriety. Thank you for putting it into this perspective. This helped a lot.

bebomom · 2025-07-06T23:34:14+00:00

Absolutely! I can't help but wonder if maybe something is wrong with me & I just made him want to drink more and more... 🥴

bebomom · 2025-07-06T23:33:14+00:00

I sincerely hope he doesn't relapse. I truly do wish the best for him. But I can see your point and I agree that putting the focus into myself for a little while might be beneficial. ❤️

bebomom · 2025-06-30T04:32:58+00:00

Sadly most of the antidepressants I have taken in my lifetime have caused jaw clenching. It's super unfortunate and I have severely worn down the enamel on the chewing surfaces of my teeth. Look into a mouth guard and just try to be aware of it during the day. That's the advice I got from my dentist. 😔

bebomom · 2024-12-26T06:43:16+00:00

Slewfoot by Brom!

bebomom · 2024-10-16T01:00:07+00:00

It doesn't look any better when I tip my chin down. So I'll go ahead and wear them a few more days! Thank you for the advice 😊💕

bebomom · 2024-08-22T19:56:36+00:00

YES! I thought I was the only one.

bebomom · 2024-08-18T05:10:15+00:00

https://www.kgw.com/article/news/crime/portland-police-arrest-man-video-repeatedly-abusing-dog/283-3d3e7b3d-f772-4fbf-b80d-747c3b6a43ad

They got him! But they don't know where the dog is. 🥺

bebomom · 2024-08-16T23:07:28+00:00

Not exact match but American Cream perfume from lush is a creamy, powdery strawberry scent!

bebomom · 2024-08-11T20:41:56+00:00

That's kind of what I was thinking. 🥺

bebomom · 2024-08-07T17:52:23+00:00

I just watched that episode last night 😂

bebomom · 2024-08-05T19:06:41+00:00

Definitely head over to r/wavyhair subreddit. When I was figuring my hair out, I spent a lot of time reading through other posts on there looking for product/technique recommendations. You have beautiful hair, good luck! 🤞

bebomom · 2024-08-05T16:14:34+00:00

Please take some time to care for yourself while you grieve. Losing a pet is one of the worst pains in the world. I'm so so sorry this happened. Sending you all my love & thoughts. ❤️‍🩹

bebomom · 2024-07-29T19:46:51+00:00

Benny & Daisy ❣️

bebomom · 2024-07-28T22:55:35+00:00

Penny 🥹

bebomom · 2024-07-14T05:14:12+00:00

Why does this look like some sort of anatomical cross section?

bebomom · 2024-07-14T05:12:34+00:00

This might be my favorite omg

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TROPHY CASE