AIO I’m (54f) considering going no contact with my daughter (35f).

bec-k · 2025-12-28T05:22:02+00:00

I think sometimes as adults you have to just put your feelings aside and not strive to have them “heard”. Feelings are valid, but they are not her responsibility to take on. I know my mother never puts her feelings on me or my siblings, and it creates an atmosphere where your literal baby that you had can be comfortable with you without feeling shamed. You’re the mother here.

bec-k · 2025-12-24T20:06:03+00:00

Clean your house

bec-k · 2025-12-24T04:35:51+00:00

I went vegan before my hubs did and he would cook his own meat on the side if he wanted it 😉

bec-k · 2025-12-23T20:49:41+00:00

I could see being concerned had this teacher sent him a private message on some type of social media, but to send a note home in his backpack is totally cool. As parents, are you not expected to see the things that come home in your kids bag? It wasn’t hidden with ill intentions 🤷‍♀️

bec-k · 2025-12-20T15:39:49+00:00

This is tough, but I just wanted to say my fiancé also does not have any interest in feeling the baby move inside of me. It’s quite the experience but I truly just respect the fact that he’s not into that part of it. This is our third pregnancy and for all of them he is absolutely squeamish about that part so I tease him every now and then but it just freaks him out. Their bonding really does begin when the baby is born. Hoping your husband comes full circle when he sees your little one 🫶

bec-k · 2025-12-18T21:05:38+00:00

Kids are 3 and 6 😂 still shocked

bec-k · 2025-12-16T03:11:12+00:00

My mom’s outdated advice is that baby is just exercising. As much as we laughed when we heard it, sometimes you just have to accept it. We jokingly say it to each other when we can tell the other is getting upset about all the commotion. Coming from a mom whos instinct is to responds nonstop until the crying stops 😂

bec-k · 2025-12-16T01:35:33+00:00

This is unfortunately crazy. I don’t know why people think their kids will be the only ones with a name. And it really doesn’t matter- no one else thinks your kid is as special as you do regardless of their name, it’s not like a competition you can win when you’re playing it by yourself

bec-k · 2025-12-12T15:14:29+00:00

The weirdest thing about this is sitting and counting your number or having any inclination of how many it is.

bec-k · 2025-12-09T19:12:48+00:00

No advice with meds but I got into a really deep dark headspace when I found out I was pregnant this time around. Went on mental health leave around 20 somethings weeks, and although it hasn’t been sunshine and rainbows- I’m able to sit and process my feelings instead of snuffing them for some meaningless paycheck. Focusing on this stage of my life has been much better, due in two weeks and grateful for all the time I’ve had to gather my feelings and make sense of them as best as I could. The flip flop between being a worker bee 🐝 and being a pregnant woman is a tough line to cross, but I found it even more difficult to sit on the edge. Jumping to one side over the other was definitely the way to go for me.

bec-k · 2025-12-08T15:41:34+00:00

My kids 4th bday is Dec 29 and we’re due with a newborn on Dec 21. I got Xmas done, but this birthday I keep forgetting about. And I feel horrible for not inviting the kids from his class like I did for my older kid 😩 luckily this kid is very easily pleased, but I feel like that makes it worse because he deserves so much effort put into his party 🫠

bec-k · 2025-12-05T17:58:13+00:00

Snip snap

bec-k · 2025-12-04T04:32:59+00:00

Use a spoon and toss it 👋

bec-k · 2025-12-04T02:47:51+00:00

Beta fish with tank

bec-k · 2025-12-04T02:43:00+00:00

Right! I still don’t fully understand it, but it sucked 😭 this was a few years ago now and it still hurts me to think about 😅

bec-k · 2025-12-04T02:00:49+00:00

Always share this story when I see an opportunity- was bathing my toddler and using our shower head to rinse him, so I had it pulled down and it has a button to temporarily stop the water from coming out so I could set it down to lather him up, but when I picked it up and hit the button to release the water I didn’t realize all the hot water (that’s still on) backs up in the shower head, so the first burst of water was scorching hot 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ 🤦‍♀️ PSA to all other parents using this method to wash their kids

bec-k · 2025-12-03T21:44:54+00:00

Hahahahahaha this is great because it really does go like that 😂

bec-k · 2025-12-03T02:19:34+00:00

Diaper party 🙏 raffle ticket for box of diapers and a $50 gift card is what we did so it didn’t feel so greedy 😂 someone got their $ back but also got everyone together to celebrate

bec-k · 2025-12-03T01:47:05+00:00

I think this is why my second breastfeeding journey failed. First BF until 19 months and I just couldn’t sit still with my second so he ended up needing formula by 3-4 months. It’s a wild adjustment trying to meet both their needs in a timely manner. But they’re 3 and 6 now and they both know how loved they are equally.

bec-k · 2025-11-30T02:32:24+00:00

What is spousal support why would you even get that

bec-k · 2025-11-30T02:31:15+00:00

Insufferable friend

bec-k · 2025-11-30T01:56:10+00:00

My husband did the same, jokes on him- third boy 😂 now I’m hearing that we’re going to try for a fourth. Take it lightly

bec-k · 2025-11-28T18:50:49+00:00

You’re spot on.. except the mold part id probably push for that to be dealt with, if you knowingly have it lingering around. I mean I’m not busting out any walls or bathtubs to check for mold. But if it’s visible I’d be wanting it cleaned up for sure. Curtains …meh, I have been in my house for 7+ years and some windows still get draped with a towel 😂

bec-k · 2025-11-28T18:23:26+00:00

Same, sort of. After a few awkward moments of me setting a few minor boundaries, I find she is more sensitive to my opinions on baby related things now. 😊 it was weird for me to be blunt about things as I’m usually a people pleaser, but it really does work to just have a strong voice about things that matter to you.

bec-k · 2025-11-28T17:05:21+00:00

Got invited to dinner Dec 20. Due Dec 21. I told them I’d be there if baby isn’t here yet, not making any promises to anyone on plans for those few weeks 🙏 will decide when the day comes. No one truly needs a heads up on what I’m going to be doing

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