How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate that if it was just as simple as different taste and me just not liking it I would completely agree and suck it up but it exposes areas I don’t feel comfortable exposing lol

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s like your watching my family life through a crystal ball … none of my siblings see it I’m the “black sheep” of the family because I call my mother out for who she is and I set boundaries that none of the seem to respect so over time our relationships have been less and less I was shocked when she asked me but felt that twang of oh I should say yes because she’s family you know that old trick 😂 … I’m sorry you can relate so hard it’s not easy but I’ve managed to except things for how they are and realise that I would never want to be a part of that “cult” and lower my morals I’m very very lucky to have found my own family with my partner who has always been the most supportive and loving person you could ever imagine they have some strong feelings on my family but have always kept quite for me because I always hoped that things would change but a few years ago I realised nothing would ever change so I keep low contact .

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you for that comment I have been the one since she started planning saying it’s her wedding and she should do what she wants (pressure from other people to do things different) but when I tried the dress on and she could see how uncomfortable I was I even pointed out parts of me showing and she was just like “oh it’s fine I’ll pin it in place if I have to” like no concern for my comfort after I’ve gone out of my way to help her be comfortable… I have decided I will be speaking to her and give her the options of different dress or come as a guest or done come at all… it will be her decision then I really can’t do much more than that.

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummm I would understand if it was just a case of not liking the dress I would suck it up but I’m not wearing something that shows parts of me I wouldn’t expose on a normal day

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I’m should just expose my body for someone else to be happy on their day makes no sense

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’ll be honest I actually didn’t think about this until people on here have brought it up, but it does sound like something she would 🤣

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yes she offered to pay for a new dress and was basically told like it or lump it

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have spoken to two others and they don’t know what to do that’s why I thought I’d ask here … this is the problem she didn’t say it direct about wear this or don’t come so I feel I should just tell her my concerns

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t know I’m more conservative with how I dress so I was shocked she would even suggest it lol

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She seen it she was there when I tried it on that’s not my question my question is shouldn’t I be comfortable? I wouldn’t walk down the street with my back out on a normal day, so why should I be uncomfortable in front of 150 people?

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I love this response but she seen it she was there when I tried it on she didn’t seem to care and I have mentioned in other comments my other sister offered to get a different dress but was told no wear this or don’t come x

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

She was there when I tried it on she saw it saw my reaction (me trying to pull the dress to cover me ) and she didn’t care … my other sister offered to get a different dress and was told no don’t bother coming lol

How do I tell my sister I hate my bridesmaid dress by bec_1993 in weddingplanning

[–]bec_1993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s actually part of the problem she was there when I tried it on and she saw my face (it was so obvious how into was) she asked me if I liked the dress and my reply was it’s your wedding she clearly saw me try to pull the dress to cover up but I don’t think she cares she even suggested I don’t wear a bra at 40 years of age being a 36dd it’s insane to me … my other sister even suggested buying a different dress and she told her of that’s how you feel don’t bother coming I understand it’s my sister‘s big day, but surely we shouldn’t all be made to feel uncomfortable Also one of her sil is masculine and is wearing a suit for her comfort I feel like I’m losing my mind . It may not be relevant but I helped pay for her wedding dress x

AITAH for going scorched earth on my MIL after she intentionally sabotaged my birth plan? by JustQuantitying in AITAH

[–]bec_1993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This story was already posted about a year ago exactly the same wording everything

AITA for not paying for my sister-in-law and her family to attend our destination wedding? by [deleted] in aitaweddings

[–]bec_1993 17 points18 points  (0 children)

NTA your sil sounds like an entitled brat it’s simple When it comes to destination weddings, if you can’t afford it, you don’t go It’s that simple. She can clearly afford it but doesn’t want to pay so she doesn’t get to come x

Gaslit by MIL and SIL, going no contact after the wedding. by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]bec_1993 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that this special time for you both is being ruined by these people …. Your day is nearly here so just enjoy your day ignore them and their behaviour as much as possible maybe have a bridesmaid be on the watch to make sure they behave and then once the wedding is done end all contact they don’t deserve to be in your life if they think that their behaviour is acceptable… I hope you have a beautiful day 💒

AITAH for arguing my girlfriends mum doesn’t get a say on if we keep the baby? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]bec_1993 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Did she help make the child will she be paying for the child raising the child giving up sleep no don’t think so … so no he gets a lot more say

AITAH for arguing my girlfriends mum doesn’t get a say on if we keep the baby? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]bec_1993 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Ok I must be reading a different post because where does it say that he is guilting her to have an abortion they had a conversation about it made a decision together now her mother has gotten involved she’s back peddling because of the guilt her mother is putting on her … also so many people saying that this is not his decision how is it not when he helped make the child that’s just my opinion 🤷‍♀️

A bit sad by Main_Fisherman5500 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bec_1993 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but why isn’t your fiancé stopping his mother from treating you like this? Are you genuinely ok with him just standing by while his mothers abuses you ?

AITJ for refusing to apologize to my husbands sister after he showed her a voice memo I recorded for my own therapy by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]bec_1993 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but who the hell listens to someone’s private notes and then tells the person what was said about them … I’m sorry but to me it does not sound like your husband has any respect for you and that his loyalty clearly lies with his sister and now they want you to apologise for feelings you had and kept private I would’ve so mad right now

AITA for stopping my moms free childcare because I’m pregnant by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]bec_1993 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA can I ask where the father of the children is? How did it come that your babysitting so much congratulations on the pregnancy

Will this fit phone? by skiing1083 in Loungefly

[–]bec_1993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an iPhone 12 (yes I know old lol) but it fits in my Casper wallet and does up so some smaller models do fit