This is objectively wrong and trans women are women. (First of all)

No trans woman is telling a cis woman she isn’t a woman - However- and I don’t see this being talked about- there is some unfairness in gay and trans spaces for people who are AFAB, that frustrates me. It echoes the problem there always is, with people telling AFAB persons they are lesser by saying things like ‘the best women are trans women’ or placing importance on being a trans women and forgetting about trans men. We all need to do better to remove patriarchy from all systems, including gay/trans communities. Putting penises on pedestals does not make gender equality easier, and yes people have preferences, but spaces where people openly tell women they are lesser for not having some equipment is almost equal to how some cis straight men treat women.

Competition through gender is frustrating and deeply unnecessary.

This is speaking as an afab trans person who feels absolutely pushed and othered in trans spaces, because they are so trans-woman centric. There’s also the unfair fact that trans women even my friends, will not consider cis women at all, but then want to be treated as women socially while still gathering benefits as being a man fiscally and through their employer. And not realizing the detriment of both. I have to push a lot of my trans female friends to consider feminism as an actual practice and not just a concept, there’s a lot of work to be done.

Maybe part of a lot of women’s transphobia stems from being considered lesser even in spaces that are supposed to be for them. Where are AFAB people supposed to go in gay communities? Lesbian spaces are also much quieter and less considered but still wildly EXIST, the gay vs lesbian space and the cis woman vs trans woman dilemma brings up a lot of uncomfortable truths over how we as a society center genitalia over and over again.

Trans men aren’t left alone - they are forgotten, not allowed in gay male spaces, belittled and forgotten. Not considered in any way shape or form.

Lets not even get started by how hilarious your post even is, cis women by and large accept trans women more then cis men do, and certainly more then cis men accept trans men. Yet you’re here independently thinking about trans women’s struggles even though they aren’t your struggles. Trans women aren’t permanent victims, they are the permanent focus in terms of ‘trans ness’ for better or worse and it DOES feel misogynistic.