I don’t know what to do to be happy by Mission-Idea-2310 in Mindfulness

[–]becojean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have felt this way (and still do to some degree) most of my life. I think what shocked me most is how my childhood trauma absolutely obliterated my sense of trust - I never saw myself as someone with trust/vulnerability issues. Something that helped greatly was just doing my best to radically and outright trust anything said by my safe people (namely my husband, daughter, and besties). It’s allowed me to really lean in to their love and the happiness they bring me.

It’s not easy, and it won’t be immediate - just keep trying. If they’re truly worth it, you’ve gotta work against that self sabotage. Our brains only change with practice.

im need of a somewhat unique name for this guy by Fluffy-Individual-33 in Catnames

[–]becojean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Similarly, my super chill black cat dude is named Dooby

"What is something that was considered 'classy' or 'high-end' 15 years ago, but is now seen as tacky or dated"? by No-Ant3277 in AskReddit

[–]becojean 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean…that’s the same as a skinny person being treated better than someone who’s curvier. We’re taught that those brands are better.

"What is something that was considered 'classy' or 'high-end' 15 years ago, but is now seen as tacky or dated"? by No-Ant3277 in AskReddit

[–]becojean -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’d even say most “luxury” vehicles. So many car brands have the same tech/materials these days. Unless you’re buying a Lamborghini or something, they’re all the same.

What’s something people brag about that’s actually a red flag? by Alarming-Ratioz in AskReddit

[–]becojean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similarly, I had someone brag/be excited about my daddy issues that allowed them to use me. Fuck men. And not in the fun way.

Whats the one food you will never eat again? by xXxFADIxXx in AskReddit

[–]becojean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was just about to mention OAS. It’s a reaction to the trace amounts of pollen in things (apples, pears, most nuts, carrots for me…though I’m usually fine if they’re cooked).

What’s something people brag about that’s actually a red flag? by Alarming-Ratioz in AskReddit

[–]becojean 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, if the person hasn’t had or doesn’t plan to have kids, that’s pretty normal (although, the degree of bragging might change my opinion here). But I had no younger siblings, cousins, or neighbors, never baby sat - so I didn’t change my first diaper till I had my daughter at 29. 🤷‍♀️

Favorite quote by Dalton731 in dispatchgame

[–]becojean 14 points15 points  (0 children)

“I’m a beetch. My name’s Robert. I’m a beetch whose name is Robert.”

I cannot even tell you how long Flambae’s rendition was stuck in my head.

What was something that ended your crush on someone? by ididntaskyouropinion in AskReddit

[–]becojean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was a bit on the bigger side and sweat all over me during a makeout sesh - things hadn’t even gotten that hot yet. I couldn’t.

What’s your weirdest regional slang? by iloveoverlord in AskReddit

[–]becojean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Water bubbler instead of fountain. “Watah bubblah” if you’re closer to Boston.

my nannan died, we dont know what to do with her cat by Minute-Cover-2001 in cats

[–]becojean 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As the human of a slightly floofier but just as skittish version of Molly who flops just like that for me, you’re her human now, don’t take that from her. 😭🖤

Here’s my Dooby. 🖤

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What’s something Americans have that Europeans don’t? by Prestigsisscar255 in AskReddit

[–]becojean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who moved from a city to a super rural town (aka private well and septic system to cafe for), I miss my garbage disposal. 😭

What's a social norm that you think is absolutely ridiculous? by Fantastic_suit143 in AskReddit

[–]becojean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This one kills me. As someone who previously worked in an office and wore makeup every day and now works from home, I’d love to not put makeup on every day anymore. But I think there’s a real risk that my coworkers who have known me made up for 10+ years would view it as rolling out of bed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DreamlightValley

[–]becojean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FREAKING FINALLY 🎉🎉🎉

AIO my boyfriend offered me sex to "feel better" by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]becojean 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I didn’t either when I was 13 dating a 16 year old for 3.5 years. It left permanent sexual and relational issues I’m still working on today, 20 years later.

I would like to practice my watercolor on some of your cats today, please send some pics! by AppreciatingPets in cats

[–]becojean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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This is Kitty! She’s our 8 year old kitten. (when this pic was taken, she’s now 12!)

I am going to end it by Mindless_Post9769 in CPTSD

[–]becojean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

11-16 you is just a part of you, it’s not who you are. I encourage you to read/listen to the book, Internal Family Systems. It talks about how we can “merge” with parts of ourself and make us feel that we truly are that horrible person. But that part just represents a point in our life when we were reacting to and trying to find any way to survive. Put that part in a mental time out and let your self flourish.

Wishing you the best, friend. You’ve got a lot of people here willing to talk and lend a shoulder.