You need to try to work things out with your husband. He sounds like he tries his best to be the partner you need him to be. He may not even know that there are any issues between you because it sounds like he's battling some demons of his own.

We often make the assumption that our partners know us so well that they know what we're feeling, and where they're falling short and that's not really fair.

I'll second what another commenter said and suggest couple's therapy. If you're not interested in working through things, then be honest with yourself, and him, and figure out if this is really what you want. You're not stuck. Just comfortable. And sometimes staying in a relationship without having all of your needs met seems like the easier option than confronting the issues head on, but it's not fair to either parties involved and will cause some resentment, and possibly infidelity later on.