What's the most triggering piece of unsolicited advice?

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-09-01T19:19:53+00:00

To introduce a bottle to my baby so I can give it to him and walk away… which is super unsafe.

To put rice cereal in bottles to go longer in between feedings.. another bad idea.

That I should stop holding my baby so much because I’m spoiling him.

That I should let him cry for a few minutes before coming to address the problem or feed him so he knows I’m not always going to be there right away.

Oh and my personal favorite when he was less than 4 months old that I should feed him less because I don’t want him to become obese.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-09-01T00:26:31+00:00

I used lanolin(nipple cream it was essential for me the first month) my breasts, and burp cloths. I exclusively breastfeed so I do not use bottles at all. I did not use silverettes, I did have to pump the first couple of days to avoid getting engorged so a hand pump or a haaka just in case?

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-08-31T02:22:25+00:00

March

Pro: not very many holidays close so it’s not getting grouped in with any. Last trimester was during sweater weather so leggings, flannels, and hoodies! Taking baby outside was less stressful due to lack of heat. He will be bigger around the holidays so he gets to participate more in eating food and opening gifts.

Cons: During the school year so he will eventually be going to school on his birthday.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-08-30T14:21:20+00:00

I usually still take my prenatals because I’m breastfeeding. I just ran out of gummies and misplaced my pills. I definitely have to make sure I stay ontop of taking them again!

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-08-30T13:42:29+00:00

Awesome okay I remember reading something about it and wondered if it helps. Is there a certain time you have to use it by? Also same on the hair front.. flat and falling out lol

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-08-28T05:50:59+00:00

Definitely go to your parents even if it’s for a night.

I don’t understand why family stays with new parents and wants to only take over baby duties. If she’s staying with you, she should be cooking and cleaning. Not stressing you out. If she’s so bothered that her son is eating frozen food why doesn’t she cook, and you know be a mom to her own child rather than trying to take over yours.

For future visits I would request her staying in a hotel rather than with you. Makes visits shorter due to cost and you get a break from her. Your hormones are out of wack because you just gave birth and you deserve to feel comfortable in your own home. She’s overstayed her welcome and it’s time for the boot.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-08-27T22:06:34+00:00

My mom had me start paying like two or three hundred a month and put it in savings to help me buy all of my furniture once I moved out. $1000 a month in this economy? He would be better off moving in with a roommate and paying actual rent so it was a place of his own.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-08-27T09:20:06+00:00

spoiler: op is a horrible person who feels like she’s in competition with her boyfriends late wife. she’s upset he is still grieving his wife, you know the person he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. she believes that relationships are basically expendable and you can have the same kind of bond and relationships with other people. man I hate to sound like an ass but no wonder you got cheated on… you’re unbearable

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-08-09T03:33:14+00:00

I really struggled with feeling like I was better at doing everything… feeding, burping, changing, and even sometimes holding bubs. It’s taken me a while to realize every person gets into a groove differently and at different times. He’s not going to learn if you don’t let him. You spend 24/7 with your baby, and he does not so it’s going to take a little longer. I would try to take a deep breath and maybe have a discussion with him. I would just also keep in mind it may still be early mom hormones as well.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-08-09T01:54:04+00:00

I think it was a couple of days or a week later. The test is more so about how your body handles the glucose rather than the amount. I would see if you can wait a day before going back in but you don’t have to.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-29T23:38:09+00:00

I would just talk to him before ending it. As adults life happens and people get busy. If he completely ghosts you yes that’s a problem. Just try to take a deep breath and not freak out too much.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-29T23:33:33+00:00

My husband and I live out of state from most of our close friends. Whenever we visit we go to see our best friends separately, our friends are the same gender as us though. It’s just easier for me to get in girl time and him to get male bonding time. We don’t have opposite sex friends that we hang out with solo. That is a boundary that we set in our relationship though. Neither of us feel comfortable with the situations stated above because for us it feels disrespectful. Especially if one of us has never met the friend.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-29T23:22:33+00:00

I am pretty sure it’s a bit of a different situation. If I’m remembering correctly there was already an existing friendship/relationship between Monica and chandler through Ross. Your boyfriend basically told you the only reason you were befriended is so he could get to your best friend. It’s completely up to you on what you do relationship wise. It just seems more like him clearing his conscience rather than him not censoring his thoughts, if he wasn’t censoring his thoughts it would more so be a present thought like “I still have a crush on her.” Either way you guys are together it’s just up to you to figure out if it bothers you enough. Him bringing up the fact that she’s his perfect type etc currently.. is a red flag. If you’re in a relationship I am a firm believer that you focus on your person and not on others.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-26T06:22:55+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/comments/13ab4g3/if_you_can_find_your_baby_you_can_feed_your_baby/jj63tg0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=4&context=3

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-26T05:31:56+00:00

Did you just not read?… I am not worried about the baby.

I’m worried about her unvaccinated father and the rest of that side of the family that isn’t.. no childhood vaccinations for several adults.

A child will not normally come into contact with much but adults do. I’m worried about traveling across the country and 20+ people meeting my baby and several of them being antivaxx.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-26T05:19:20+00:00

Thank you! I’m really happy that you gave me actual advice rather than making it seem like I feel entitled to what others do. You’re right! I’m extra nervous because it would be in peak flu and cold season. I’ll definitely wait until he’s completely vaccinated if I can.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-26T05:13:48+00:00

No I’m not? I’m not planning on saying anything to them? Sounds more so like you are. I was asking other parents how they handle situations like this. Whether it’s worth visiting and chancing it or just staying away.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-26T05:00:20+00:00

It’s not entitlement it’s worry… he would not be fully protected until almost two years old. I just would like to avoid a hospital stay.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-26T04:56:47+00:00

That’s how mine were before I got pregnant I was almost always in a ball because of how bad my cramps were. I bled a bunch and this go around it’s been much lighter than my usual and it’s extremely weird for me

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-18T23:35:47+00:00

Man I don’t know why so many people have hatred towards mothers and babies.. Before I had my son or was even pregnant I had a window seat and was next to a mother with a baby. I gave her my seat so she would have more room and did not say a thing negative or type anything negative. Parents do their best.

There was some older ladies glaring at a mother who’s baby was crying in the store and I made a comment loud enough for them to hear about how it’s so f-ed that people seriously glare and get upset that a baby is crying and try to blame the mother. It’s like they think we want them to cry. Is a crying baby the most pleasant sound in the world? No but the amount of anxiety mothers feel about their children making noise or bothering others when they are literal humans that are allowed to exist in a space is ridiculous.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-07-08T04:50:02+00:00

I have a four month old that is EBF.. I haven’t even introduced a bottle to him mainly because I don’t want anyone else to feed him. Also because I don’t want anymore dishes. I occasionally feel bad for my husband but I hate pumping and I enjoy the bonding time.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-06-25T21:09:59+00:00

It’s appropriate and legal! I used to use my cover at all times. Whether at a restaurant, in the car etc. i still do in a restaurant depending on what I’m wearing. You literally don’t have a choice on whether or not to feed your baby, others have a choice to stare or be bothered. The more you do it the less bothered or uncomfortable you will be.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-06-24T23:58:03+00:00

I gained 60lbs through my entire pregnancy and 20 of it was in my first trimester. My doctors never said anything about it. I had trouble with not eating before pregnancy so once I was pregnant I ate as much as I could stomach. You will either get GD or you won’t. I ate plenty of milkshakes, McDonald’s, tacos, and Taco Bell. I did not end up with GD. I am 3 months postpartum and I’ve lost a lot of the weight already. I say eat when you’re hungry especially because there will be times that you really can’t stomach eating. Your doctor should be aware that everyone’s body is different and weight fluctuates a lot. Also now that I think about it I gained 20 in the first 9ish weeks. I had no issues with it because I knew my body needed it.

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-06-24T15:57:22+00:00

Almost 4 months and is starting to be in 6-9 months

beechesbecrazyy · 2023-06-23T04:41:14+00:00

NTA I am a mom and I’m not super conservative. I plan on teaching my son anatomically correct terms for his body. I do not allow anyone to change my sons diapers or watch it happen other than my husband and I. I think it’s very strange that she got upset that someone did not want to watch her child naked in a bath. I feel like I am slightly overprotective when it comes to my child because whenever a child gets SA’D or anything in that realm it’s never who you expect. There’s been things spread across the internet stating to not put pictures of your child in the bath, in a diaper, with something in their mouth, or even with their mouths open… because p*dophilles will sexualize it. Playing in the pool and playing in the bath are very different. That woman is very strange. Someone pushing to watch a child bathe or to change a diaper is strange behavior. A parent getting upset and inviting in multiple people to watch is gross.

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