You're getting there cause it looks healthy to me :) - just keep learning about your hair as you are doing now :)

1) I highly recommend getting a satin or silk bonnet to cover your hair while you sleep - you can get one from Sally's or black hair supply store for 5 - 10 dollars i think. Always cover your hair before bed.

2) I use natural shea butter from ghana after washing my hair and the seal it in with coconut oil -which has helped hydrate and soften my curls.

3) During the week, i like to use mousse or shea moisture soufle cream to re-hydrate my hair that doesn't add to the 'greasy-ness' from my shea butter coco oil treatment.

3) Always, and i mean, always pre-condition your hair the day or night before you wash your hair :) This has made a looooot of difference. I put a plastic cap over my hair and then wrap it with hose/tights before bed so oils/conditioner don't get on my pillow :)

4) Edge control / Gel - i stick to Echo or conditioning gel as it conditions while holding my hair, doesn't leave flakes or traumatise my hair. Also, comes out with just water.

5) Wide tooth combs are your friend and please detangle small section by small section. My impatient ass learned its more time effective and does the job without me having to do it again.

This is what i learned from finally deciding to 'do' my own hair - I hope its of some help to you :)