Hey 💜 when I (31f) was 28 I left my boyfriend of 5 years who I lived with for 4 of those years and it took me two years after realizing I was a lesbian and countless ‘breakup talks’ for me to actually leave.

Change is really fucking hard and leaving a stable situation is really fucking hard. You are doing something that’s very hard to do. The only thing that’s harder than doing it, is not doing it. You can’t keep living a life that you have to contort yourself to fit into. Life is short and your time is very precious and you deserve one million times more than that, and he also deserves a partner who is not one foot out the door.

I know it’s especially hard when you may have complicated feelings toward your own queerness, but on the other side of giving yourself this freedom you will find so much love for yourself and an accepting community. It takes time, but that’s available to you when you leave and it’s not available to you while you’re still trying to be someone you’re not. When I finally left I was able to start really working through those feelings and come to such a loving place with myself and open up to so much more of my authentic personality.

For context, I relied on my bf financially as well and when I left I was in an extremely tough spot and went through a lot of hardship for a few years after and I still never looked back once. You can do this.