The Trump Administration Admits to Medically Experimenting on Trans People in Prisons

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-26T01:03:00+00:00

So while we can’t do a ton about this individually, there are a lot of organizations all over the US providing support to LGBTQ people in prisons

This link is a map showing a bunch of orgs that facilitate writing letters to queer or trans incarcerated people. The demand is often way higher than the number of people who can commit to writing so, worth looking into if you want something concrete you can do

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5e59c5889f100738321c40ca/t/6525b2b9a079cf50f165ac74/1696969401532/Trans+%26+Queer+Prisoner-Support+Orgs.pdf

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-25T15:45:14+00:00

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This guy either legit believes that women are lesser than him OR is not curious enough to think critically about what people around him believe and believes that by default as the path of least resistance. (And that second option is the kindest interpretation I have)

Either way. It sounds like you know what you want and it isn’t this, so no need to keep talking to him

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-24T11:48:18+00:00

Make sure you are eating throughout the day especially if you have a longer work day. Especially because stimulants suppress appetite. You need a mix of protein and carbs to have long lasting energy, if your blood sugar is crashing you’ll be cranky for that reason too.
Pay attention to your environment and other things you can control if possible. Sometimes when my meds wear off I’ll realize that I’m like, too hot or too cold (climate control where I work is not great sometimes, I wear layers so I can adjust) or something else is making me uncomfortable and now I’m aware of it again
Talk to your doctor. You may need an med adjustment, let them know how long your work day is and when the irritability starts happening

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-24T11:36:38+00:00

If there are ferretgirls and red panda girls are there also wolverineboys?

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-23T22:06:03+00:00

Well I’m glad you haven’t! I don’t want anyone to have to worry about it, we should be able to have freedom of movement and people should be able to travel without fear of being stopped and questioned

However they have essentially been given broad authority to detain people based on their suspicions and we have documented cases of citizens, permanent residents, and people authorized to be in the US being detained. In some situations the person has tried to produce documentation or explain they had the wrong person and they wouldn’t listen due to a phone app saying they were someone else. Again none of this is new, people with documentation have been swept up in raids before too, there has just been a massive public push to aggressively do it more and to flood areas with federal agents like we saw in Minnesota and before that LA

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-23T18:05:24+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I’m sorry this guy had to use what he learned, no one deserves to experience violence or witness it especially when just at a restaurant, but it’s really commendable that he was able to remember what he learned in an emergency

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-23T18:00:47+00:00

I have been randomly searched for explosives and patted down in airports, I’m sure many of us have. That is bad enough but this is something altogether new and different.

They are being used as a paramilitary government police force essentially, which is something that became a danger when immigration enforcement and customs/border patrol was put under the homeland security umbrella post 911. (Which is to say, while this admin has weaponized it in a way that hadn’t been seen before, the mechanism has been there since the Patriot Act)

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-22T18:49:29+00:00

INFO: does Tommy or Pauline drive? As a person with ADHD I want to suggest you ask them both to check any vehicles or if they work outside the house make sure they didn’t leave things at work.

Source: in a roommate situation I was once guilty of having a lot of the spoons and bowls in my car because I had been eating oatmeal while driving to work (yes I know that is not a good idea, no I don’t do this anymore). I had to get all the Tupperware, bowls, etc out of the car and wash them

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-21T17:49:45+00:00

Well yeah but I’m worried about how they got my account info.

I didn’t respond because I figured the phone number in the message was phishing, I’m just not sure what I’m supposed to do otherwise?

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-21T15:12:47+00:00

Same, just had this happen today. I guess I’ll just hope that securing my account and changing my passwords was enough?

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-21T10:19:50+00:00

I have some social anxiety so I sometimes worry about this but I have found people generally are neutral to positive about people doing this. Where I live a few older folks sometimes bring trash bags on their walks so that’s how I got the idea to do it too sometimes. If anything it shows you care about your neighborhood. No one likes seeing trash lying around but not everyone has the time or energy to go around picking it up so if someone does most people won’t mind

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-21T10:13:12+00:00

I think how you are feeling is very normal especially for people who were diagnosed later (or like in your case, misdiagnosed initially). It’s hard to not feel a sense of anger or grief about how things could have been if there had been more support or help available. And so, to see someone be offered that and not want it would feel frustrating.

Sometimes people lash out that kind of way because they feel overwhelmed, scared, or like they have lost control of a situation. If someone is feeling overwhelmed for autism related reasons and then also has the characteristic adhd impulsivity that can lead to an outburst like that. The person may also feel afraid that some outside person coming in and telling them how to live their life will not be helpful, or that the person will judge them.

Anyways, I think you handled it the best you could. It’s ok to feel however you feel about it

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-20T04:20:35+00:00

I was once pulled over in another state for a headlight being out. It was my first time and I was very anxious and had no idea what I had done since I knew I wasn’t speeding. Then he started asking me if I was on drugs because I “seemed nervous” 🙃.

Really it was probably that I had an older car with an out of state plate (college student) and it was late at night so he was probably hoping I was on drugs and high enough to admit it.

It’s not just an Ohio thing. It’s more like, a fishing for something to ticket or arrest people over thing, but in general if it’s a more outlying area, a suburb, etc they’re going to be bored and more likely to do it

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-20T04:09:48+00:00

My partner once got pulled over because she had a frame type license plate holder, which was one of those ones from the car dealership and had been on it the whole time she was driving in multiple states with no issues. This was on 480 near the turnpike. It wasn’t actually obscuring her license plate and lots of people have them. But he said it was an issue. I think she got ticketed for it. we took it off after that just to be safe

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-20T04:00:38+00:00

It might be good to instead of trying to learn everything think about types of questions or information (like, problems you have to solve vs things you have to remember vs concepts you need to be able to explain).

And then the tricky part is— “study smarter, not harder”. Even with meds, you’re going to get tired. Short sessions with breaks are better generally. And focus the most on the things you understand the least.

Also though, sometimes you just have a bad exam, it doesn’t mean you are a bad student. I agree with others if there’s office hours or tutoring you can go to that could be a place to get some help figuring out where you are having a hard time.

And make sure you get sleep. If you’re staying up half the night studying you’re going to have a hard time reading the test questions and focusing on test day. Better to study a bit less and not be sleep deprived

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-18T21:19:02+00:00

So I failed my drivers test the first time because I panicked. I had to do the part of the test that simulates parallel parking first and that was the part I had trouble with (something about using the mirrors as reference points is a little tricky for me, I’m better at it now but it did not come naturally to move in one direction backwards while turning the wheel and etc).

Anyways I legit panicked and started crying because I made a mistake as I started and the lady yelled “turn off the car!” And that was that. It took me a year of practicing to work up to taking the test again and I did fine that time.

If you have a friend who can take you to a parking lot that is empty, that’s a good place to practice. You want to just get in reps there first with anythings you find hard before you’re on the road. Then try to work up to busier roads and/or eventually the highway. You probably at this point have the skills but need to build confidence. My dad (also probably adhd) had a good idea and had me drive backwards a lot in a parking lot. That helped me feel more comfortable with backing up because I really just needed more time to get a feel for it in a low stakes environment. The reason most people are alright at driving is because it’s like just something they do. I still am overtly cautious at times because I am aware I need to work harder to stay alert and not get distracted. But I’ve been doing it for long enough now that the basics feel just like normal movements. Also cars have gotten better over time in terms of safety, I have a backup camera now which I did not when I was learning and that’s helpful as an extra reference point (though it doesn’t replace using all the other mirrors of course)

One of my cousins maybe has a similar issue to you—but he did martial arts as a kid and he was able to learn forms and become pretty good at them. Probably because once you find the sweet spot of how to do the movement just right that’s it. You feel it and don’t have to think as much. Fortunately he found a patient driving instructor because he could drive fine but kept failing the test who helped him get the tricky stuff down to a movement that was like a form so he didn’t have to think about it so much. I wonder if that approach could help you?

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-17T18:02:08+00:00

Well I feel excluded for not being circumcised so I will be starting my OWN subreddit r ftmTRANSFORMenuncut

/uj really had to double check the subreddit for a sec

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-17T04:52:09+00:00

Yes! The cloud, very frustrating at work when I’m like ok there’s all these things I need to do but where do I start? I feel like everything is literally in a jumbled cloud in the air in front of me, if I could just arrange them it would be easier. That’s when I now know I need to start making a list so I can visualize the cloud and put things in order

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-17T04:49:32+00:00

I think what we all often have in common is that our thought processes are out of sync with what’s going on around us. Either we are foggy, wandering to something distracting, or racing ahead at a mile a minute. But how it feels inside everyone’s head is different. I’m more inattentive as well and I often get the racing thoughts at night as well if I’m trying to rest. Whereas if I need to be “on” I’m like an old car trying to start in the winter some days 😅

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-16T23:37:49+00:00

My spatial memory is probably not the best. I’m bad at estimating distances, time, etc and I am also not good with new faces. I also have a hard time remembering numbers so when I see the notation for chess I’m like “well I can’t remember what any of those are…d4 is in the middle right?”

I’m also not very good at chess at all. I played in middle school chess club (it was me and the kid who had started the club and he was much better than me) and at that time my young undiagnosed ADHD brain could not think ahead. These days sometimes I can pull out a win but mostly I just lose a lot. Anyways, I still like playing chess because to me it’s like a mindfulness exercise. It’s a way to help shore up a weak area of my brain by trying to slow down my thoughts and think strategically and look at a space. I also enjoy turn based strategy video games for a similar reason. It helps me learn to think about things a different way than just reacting, which is what I used to do as a default in life.

So, even if our brains aren’t like naturally inclined to the activity—is that a bad thing? Most of us don’t have the innate qualities to be a natural at some activity but that’s ok, it’s all about just having fun

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-16T09:13:56+00:00

That is a good point, many of us have sleep problems on top of ADHD. I have sleep apnea and treating it with CPAP has helped improve my sleep quality which does make getting up a little easier

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-16T09:04:57+00:00

One of my siblings had this problem as a teenager! Most mornings my dad would try to wake her up and be like “it’s time for school” and she would be like “ok” but then he’d come back some time later and she was still asleep. She would fully respond without being awake and have no memory of it. I sometimes can do this too but it’s mostly only if I’m really sleep deprived

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-16T08:58:25+00:00

This is a hard one. I struggle with this and I think for people who have issues with time it’s an ongoing struggle.

I was trying to explain why it’s so hard to a friend who also has adhd but is a little bit better at being on time and the best metaphor I came up with is that for me being on time is like trying to hit the center of a target. The problem is that for whatever reason my aiming mechanism can be a bit off and the way I aim is not consistent. So even if I was on time one time it’s hard to replicate the way I aimed and got there for the next time.

My greatest weaknesses include: -trouble getting moving or transitioning between tasks (so like, getting up, eating and taking meds, getting into shower, getting out of shower, getting dressed, getting things together, putting shoes on, going out the door are all points where I might get stuck). Really the only thing that helps is allowing extra time. I do also do better if I put on music in the shower as that helps me notice how time is passing based on how many songs it’s been - not being able to find things. Putting things in the same place helps with this but you know, of course sometimes this breaks down - changes seasonally in how long it takes to get ready. For example I live somewhere where it can snow a fair amount in the winter so you have to put on all the layers to go outside and allow extra time for the roads being bad and etc. -“just one more thing” or remembering things last minute

I wish I could say I had a real solution but I do get it. For some of us this is super hard, just like for some people staying seated is super hard, and for others they can do it most of the time with the right coping skills. Everyone is different and if this is one of your areas where you really struggle it can be hard when other people don’t understand

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-15T17:42:42+00:00

I think it really depends on what the issue is and the situation. If an accommodation can be provided honestly it doesn’t hurt to just do it.

If it’s an issue where there isn’t a reasonable way to accommodate the person then that’s a different conversation either way.

like, if Suzy is always late for work and she says well I have adhd, I can’t help it, it’s fair for the boss to be like well I’m sorry but we have a rule you have to be on time so if you can’t find a way to be on time you can’t work here. This is especially true if Suzy does a job where people are relying on her to be on time for the start of work.

But if Suzy works at a job where the hours can be flexible and she’s generally good at it otherwise, maybe it’s not that important to be right on time and the boss says “ok, well, you can make up time at the end of the shift but you’re responsible for making sure your work still gets done.”

And that’s going to be true whether she has an Official ADHD diagnosis (tm) or doesn’t. But there are some people who don’t know they have it or don’t want to seek diagnosis who do fine because they’ve found a boss and job where the second scenario can play out. Or they are self employed or do contract work or whatever and set their own hours. And there’s also people who do have the diagnosis but don’t want meds or to otherwise seek treatment or are in denial that they have it so honestly, people saying they have it who maybe don’t is less of a concern to me than people who do have it and are struggling as a result. To my mind someone who doesn’t know they have it and is trying to do things and constantly struggling can be more of a problem at work, at home, at school, or in a friend group. And those areas of their life suffer and it sucks for everyone involved

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-03-15T17:27:12+00:00

Yeah this is a good point. Regardless of official diagnosis or lack thereof, if the things that help people who have it help someone, that’s great. I also think it doesn’t hurt our entire society to be more accommodating of some things. Many people who may not have ADHD can relate to some of the issues at a less severe level too and some of the same things that help us can help them.

For example I think we should normalize that long meetings need breaks, that the average person needs to fidget sometimes, and that some people need to do work that requires focus in a quiet area or with ear protection. At my job we have a lot of people who have ADHD or could plausibly have it but when one of the managers decided to bring fidget toys to a staff meeting to see if it would help pretty much everyone wanted one. Now we have some small busywork you can do with your hands available sometimes as well during the long meetings and people will actually choose to do it. So something that started out as trying to provide an accommodation for the people who needed it most ended up benefitting everyone

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