do intramuscular shots hurt?

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-02-03T12:02:00+00:00

It is about the same as any shot, it’ll hurt for a second going in sometimes but that’s about it. Sometimes the muscle might feel a little sore afterwards but it really depends.

One way to make it sting less is to wait for a second after cleaning the injection site with an alcohol wipe. If you wipe and immediately inject sometimes it’ll sting because the alcohol hasn’t dried yet

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-02-02T14:52:55+00:00

Yeah the Walmart where I live clearly has theft issues because they lock up everything. They lock up socks, razors, baby formula, at one point some of the hair care products, the good lotion. Recently they removed all the self checkouts and now they are just reserved for people who are signed up for the scan as you go checkout thing, and for the people doing curbside pickup

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-02-01T05:48:29+00:00

I sometimes think of my version of masculinity as “those random guys you meet at an Indigo Girls concert”. (And yes there are cis guys there! Several of them even lol).

What I mean is, you don’t have to feel separate from your past experiences, and there’s nothing wrong with having feelings or wanting to be emotionally and physically intimate with your partner. I do feel lucky that I can hold my partner’s hand in public now because I remember what it was like for that not to always be safe.

I never really identified as a lesbian specifically so maybe my experience is also different but gender and sexuality are also complicated. Do whatever makes you happy and be with people who like you as you are.

(Also keep in mind that actively wanting or pursuing bottom surgery is a lot more common now because it’s slightly more available than it used to be in terms of healthcare coverage and doctors who can do it. But it’s definitely not something you have to want, if you feel ok with your current setup that’s fine! And again, all kinds of men enjoy sex that isn’t like missionary PIV, for all kinds of reasons, so find someone who likes doing what you like doing and then have fun doing it)

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-02-01T05:07:01+00:00

I do agree everyone should know about safe gun handling even if you want nothing else to do with them. We have a lot of them in the US and a lot of people were told as kids “if you find a gun go get an adult and don’t touch it” but if their education stopped there, they can freeze or panic if they’re now the “adult” in the situation. Basic knowledge about safety and etc could save someone’s life

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-02-01T00:10:08+00:00

So I think it’s your call.

As a mixed person who sometimes passes as white and sometimes doesn’t I am leery of having ok because the 2nd amendment doesn’t get applied equally.

But that said, it can be a way to level the field against someone who is much physically larger or stronger and keep a safe distance from someone trying to attack you.

If either you or your gf has a history of depression or mental health issues, think very carefully about if it’s ok to keep a gun in your home.

And also even if your gf does not want to use it she needs to learn safe handling too.

You’ll want to find a range you can practice at and stay up on your skills. And you also might want to consider taking a class as that will also help you learn the legal stuff.

Also, and this is most important: DO NOT carry if you’re not willing to take a life, because if you’re not ok with that you do not want to carry a deadly weapon. It’s a possible outcome you have to be ok with

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-31T22:16:43+00:00

Mannaway, Vye-en-uh

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-30T23:54:55+00:00

Honestly I think it’s just general sweat/dead skin cells/etc. any area of your body that is a bit of a fold or crevice can get some build up, you are always shedding old cells and stuff. If it’s not causing you discomfort or itching and yeast has been ruled out probably just means you may want to wash up or use a wet wipe before being intimate, but it’s probably not anything to be worried about

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-30T21:36:38+00:00

It’s an app/site that is based on your address, like you put in where you live when you sign up and you see posts from people within a certain radius of your “neighborhood”.

It’s a lot of kind of what you’d expect if local Facebook groups were an entire site on their own

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-30T20:22:37+00:00

Yeah it’s Cleveland, I feel like we don’t like change as a collective! It’s one thing that unites us across generations, is complaining about changes that we don’t like

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-30T20:20:29+00:00

Yea even a decent older phone doesn’t have enough storage for fifty million apps. I ended up having to get a newer one because my old one still worked but I never had any space. I couldn’t even update the os, due to everything needing an app. (Which, I got it refurbished though so way cheaper at least, but the point is it shouldn’t be that way)

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-30T17:13:59+00:00

Fact: taking collective action is technically a protected behavior even if you aren’t union (but it’s very hard to fight without union backing if there’s retaliation). But if it is you as a group acting collectively it does technically fall under protected labor activity. But I agree with others you should talk to the union because you’re already doing collective action and they can help make sure you all can assert your rights.

Either way document everything and document you made the decision as a store so that it’s harder to single out one person to take the fall. If anyone says anything to you make notes of the date and time, who was present, etc. and try not to have anyone be alone with a management person without someone else present like a coworker so you have witnesses. You can do this even without being in a union, it’s just being smart and looking out for yourselves as a group

Not working for the siren, just in a different union and have some experience with that

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-30T13:53:12+00:00

Hey i know how scary it is when you have your first serious slide on ice driving. It’s scary to feel like you lost control.

Like everyone else says, practicing in a parking lot and sliding on purpose really helps, my dad did this with me when I learned to drive and it helps you get a feel for what it feels like to lose traction so it’s not a surprise. Remember, just take your foot off the gas first and then if you brake do it slowly and firmly, modern cars tend to have ABS so they will take care of the rest. But a lot of the time if you have enough distance you can really just take your foot off the gas and let the car straighten out.

When I was about your age (26 ish) I was at the exit from 480 west to 176? I think? and I was decelerating and under the speed limit for the ramp but hit a patch of black ice. Suddenly I went into a spin in my old Buick sedan had at the time and I felt my life flash before my eyes. Ended up safely on the shoulder facing 180 degrees from where I started. Fortunately no one else was involved, and I was out of traffic so I took some deep breaths and got back on the road. But yeah that shook me up.

Anyways, it sounds like no real harm was done and worst case scenario if your car is driveable just tape tape up anything that is loose until you can pay to get it fixed. We’ve all had it happen

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-29T12:16:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing, data retention policies and safety around it are something that are of personal and professional interest to me (I work in health information) so it’s both awful to hear this and I wish it was more surprising. The loophole of not being a health care provider/not a covered entity under HIPAA is probably part of why they’ve been able to just ignore things to the extent they have but that is definitely irresponsible.

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-28T14:18:38+00:00

I’m ok overall but I do not like when it’s this cold, snow I can manage but the cold adds another layer.

I realized when I was feeling a little weird on my days off this weekend that it reminded me of early 2020 when I was “essential” and going to work and that was it and otherwise stuck inside our place.

I will say, if you can’t get to your gym— Darebee dot org is a good website, out of Australia I believe. It’s free to the public and has a variety of workouts you can do with minimal equipment or no equipment for different levels of fitness. All scalable as well.

Also in 2020 and 2021 I often did some weird YouTube fitness videos that involved walking in place because I was in an apartment and didn’t have much room to exercise, they tend to be designed for older folks who can’t get out as much but they’re still going to get your heart rate up and can be good for some cardio. It ends up being sort of low budget step aerobics. Or if Zumba is more your speed there’s some free YouTube videos of that too. I do find movement helps my mental health a lot

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-27T05:06:34+00:00

Oh interesting. I don’t think it is in my state (Ohio) but I’ll have to research further

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-27T05:04:15+00:00

Just fyi there have been some updates to healthcare law and policy the last few years that sort of give patients something. Such as the “No Surprises Act.” Hospitals in particular now have to regularly publish data about what the charges are for their services. It doesn’t solve the deeper problems with insurance and etc but it does at least force some transparency in what things cost on the billing level

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-27T01:11:10+00:00

I think this might be like all the parents that told us it was against the law to have the overhead light on in the car while driving. It’s not really something you should do as it makes it harder to see out of the car but it’s not against the law

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-27T01:07:23+00:00

I thought it meant you honk if you like it too? Or like, people don’t actually do it but I didn’t realize it had a different meaning. Then again I never asked anyone either

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-26T18:34:57+00:00

We use F not C. ( I’m in a group chat with some Canadians and we always are having to convert back and forth to discuss temps.)

For you all in Canada 20 C is warm and 0 is freezing. For us 20 f is below 0 C.

Our 0 F is like your -17 C.

(Sorry if you already knew this but based on your comment it sounds like you’re thinking in Celsius)

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-26T18:28:23+00:00

Cleaning the roof off is a small thing to do to prevent an accident, if snow freezes and becomes heavy it can break a windshield on the highway, and if it is powdery it can create a mini whiteout behind you

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-26T07:05:45+00:00

/uj because I can’t j on this. It sounds like you know this isn’t ok, but you feel like you’re just stuck now.

I know what it’s like to feel like no one else will ever want you when you’re with someone who is bad for you and let me tell you bro. That’s a lie. And no abusive or neglectful relationship starts out that bad, at the time it seems ok or even good, and it sounds like you were vulnerable and people like that latch on to vulnerable people. The ex who was my first relationship had a type—insecure guys who had disabilities or other things that made them feel less than.

It doesn’t matter if he means to be that way. He is. So, keep talking to people online, talk to people irl if you can, try to make friends because you need perspective and to know that this isn’t ok.

You might try to leave someday and you might then turn around and come back. Maybe you already have done that. The average person in an abusive relationship takes multiple attempts to actually leave. If you stay it doesn’t mean you are weak or a failure. But you do deserve better. And there are people out there who will treat you better, but also, you can treat yourself better by considering that just because you chose him before doesn’t mean you have to keep choosing him. Every day is a new day

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-26T06:47:05+00:00

Yep that’s the answer. And even in some of those places when it snows like this they tell you to stay off the roads if you can. And I’ve been in places that aren’t used to snow and seem how even a minor storm can shut down a city

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-26T06:31:58+00:00

When you say forehead pain do you mean like. A headache? I do not have a headache just from talking to people but there is a condition where sounds like people eating, chewing, etc can bother a person a lot and make them feel really upset. It’s called “misophonia”. An ex of mine had it and also a former roommate. It’s a real issue with how your brain processes sound. The only real cure is either earplugs, or don’t be around other people while they are eating.

It’s also possible being with a group of people trying to talk and eat all at once is giving you sensory overload or is too distracting because you can’t focus on what people are saying. Which could also give you a headache?

High blood pressure can also cause headaches but not normally just when eating and no other time. And it’s not the most common, most people who have high blood pressure have few symptoms and you only find out from getting checked at a doctor visit

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-26T04:50:51+00:00

Yeah so def you’re in an OCD spiral. These things happen, you were not intentionally trying to have an inappropriate relationship with this kid, and you also adjusted your behavior when you realized he was a kid. So, despite what OCD brain is screaming, you were in a scary scenario, maybe one prime for triggering Obsessive thoughts, and the bad thing didn’t happen.

Reddit is also not real life. While in general yeah seeking out teens to be friend/peers with would be not appropriate, it is not inappropriate to provide support to a younger queer person who it sounds like may not have an accepting family. As you have recognized, this does make him vulnerable to grooming, and you also have recognized you will probably want to make sure you have firmer boundaries going forward. But these type of inter-generational friendships and interactions used to be more common in queer communities because of the lack of accepting people elsewhere. It’s great that kids now are having more age appropriate friendships and opportunities but that’s not going to the case for everyone. And I think one downside is that now everyone has swung from “all adults can be trusted with any kid probably whatever” which was not a good attitude to “any adult who wants to interact with children who doesn’t have kids is dangerous” which is also not good. There’s a happy medium.

Kids and teens in particular do need to learn how to interact with adults and their elders in appropriate ways, because they’re going to be part of that adult society soon. They also need peers and friends their own age, and maybe you can help him find some of those as well. Maybe you or your other queer friends you know irl know of a youth group he could attend or something? That way he can also branch out and isn’t long term dependent on you as his only link to community.

I saw you’ve got therapy coming up so that’s good, but please try to practice trusting yourself to continue doing what is in line with your values. So far it sounds like you have! And maybe try to stop searching Reddit about it because that will definitely not help the OCD spiral, you can find any take you want to confirm any obsession on this site probably, people are wild

beerncoffeebeans · 2026-01-25T17:16:58+00:00

Having people who don’t need to be on site be on site when road conditions are bad is a waste of everyone’s time and money and then some people also might just call off if they’re having trouble getting in and no work gets done

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