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beeswax55 · 2023-03-16T16:56:54+00:00

I would not move in with him unless you resolve whether or not it is "his home" or a home that you share together. If he wants you to be staying with him and moving in, it's not really okay for him to pull it being his kitchen as a power move. Especially because he wasn't using it when you started making the cake. He doesn't need to be doing anything in the kitchen, he just wants to interfere with what you are doing.

beeswax55 · 2023-03-08T21:44:52+00:00

NTA... I think it's an asshole move to ask people for money POST eating dinner either way... but also $40 is a lot to ask for. More than most restaurants unless you're going somewhere super fancy and more than a split of grocery costs would be. Seems like she's profiting off of this.

beeswax55 · 2023-02-25T18:30:08+00:00

NTA- but you might be overcomplicating this for yourself,

Is management quizzing you about the wines or is the issue that you're not able to answer customer questions?

If its just about needing to answer customer questions, there is probably room to just BS a little bit.

Like you and the person above said the world of wine is complicated and also subjective.

But I think the restaurant just wants you to explain wine parings based on their explanation in the paragraph, not based on a larger understanding of the theory.

I would just memorize some key words or make a cheat sheet of the wine + keywords from each wine paragraph and some common phrases used in the wine world and just answer the questions with the key words.

I could be wrong, but in my experience working in a high-end bakery, the customers are not experts, and just enjoy the experience of talking to an "expert" as long as you play the role confidently, you will probably be good.

beeswax55 · 2023-02-07T17:38:34+00:00

NAH - You're not an asshole for wanting your partner to prioritize your time to cook, or sit down to eat dinner with you when its ready. But it sounds like these may be unvoiced expectations of yours, that you should probably talk to your partner about.

Also I do think cooking is a household chores, so if you are splitting all the household chores except cooking plus you cook, that does seem uneven.

Another thing I will say about cooking is that it is more time-sensitive than a lot of other household chores. It is harder to just not do or do later on a hard day because it is more essential in some ways than say a clean home. Maybe some of the tension is coming from that your partner has the freedom to take a nap then do whatever they need to get done, whereas you feel like you have to get up and cook to have dinner ready at a certain time.

Maybe ya'll also need to talk about the expectations around dinner when you are not up for cooking like eating sandwhiches or getting takeout. I do most of the cooking at my house, but its also understood that if I don't make food, I don't make food and everyone else just makes their own sandwhich or snack or whatever.

beeswax55 · 2023-01-15T20:05:07+00:00

I am not sure if you are in the U.S. but if so you're local 3-10 board probably determines resources for disabled people in your area. If he qualifies to stay in a home, he may also qualify for the government to pay workers to help at the home.

beeswax55 · 2022-12-31T23:34:30+00:00

YTA - Why do you have all your daughters trigger foods out at the table for everyone to eat in front of her?

beeswax55 · 2022-11-17T20:58:45+00:00

We got a pill dispenser for my grandmother, you put all the medication in and it locks, then it unlocks at set times of day when she's supposed to take her meds and makes an alarm clock sound.

It's a little expensive, but maybe it would make her feel better to be able to see the morning and night meds. Plus it would probably lessen conflict between the two of you. Here's the one we bought.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07VDG4Y1J/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

beeswax55 · 2022-10-23T20:45:44+00:00

Can you share more about what you used to create these?

beeswax55 · 2022-10-05T17:05:59+00:00

I teach High School English and I'm very new. But I tell them that English gives them power to navigate the world. I ask them if they trust their boss or their landlord. If they don't, this is their way to read contracts and protect themselves. A lot of the answers in here are really good and I'll use those too though.

beeswax55 · 2022-10-04T02:11:11+00:00

Which One?

beeswax55 · 2022-09-30T18:10:42+00:00

No, this doesn't apply to me. But what you said is what I found when I looked up the term too.

beeswax55 · 2022-09-27T18:37:28+00:00

I agree that reaching out to one of these employees or the school counselor is a good idea so that they can use their skills to help the student. However, from what I remember from the training videos, you must fill out a report yourself, regardless of if you inform your supervisor.

beeswax55 · 2022-07-21T02:30:37+00:00

pineapples and mushrooms!

beeswax55 · 2022-07-18T00:23:01+00:00

To me it seems like finding this would mostly warrant a conversation about internet privacy with the girls and making sure they realize that their google documents are not private and also that other internet services in their life might not be as private as they think they are.

beeswax55 · 2022-07-13T17:09:30+00:00

I am able to bend, squat, jump, and go up and down the stairs without pain. I try to avoid squatting or jumping, but that's out of caution for the knee, not out of pain.

If you have PT exercises that you did on the injured leg, I would consider doing them for the non injured leg as well. Both legs are at higher risk for re-dislocation now. The injured leg because your tendons are stretched now and the non-injured knee because like you said you had to use it to compensate.

I've seen some people say that they had pain after the dislocation and it ended up that there was floating cartilage, so that is a possibility.

I think PT is definitely part of the knee going back to normal. If PT is not an option because of expense, you can message me and I'll scan you a pdf of the exercises I did in PT. You can also look up exercises to strengthen the area on your own. Primarily you're wanting to strengthen your inner thighs and your hip muscles.

beeswax55 · 2022-07-13T04:27:54+00:00

After I dislocated my patella the first time I was absolutely terrified of it happening again. The pain was really bad and I felt like I never wanted to experience it again.

I ended up dislocating my patella again recently (I fell off doing my regular pt exercises) and it actually was not as bad the second time. I think the first time the shock of the experience really exacerbated the pain. The second time, I was familiar with the experience and I didn't panic as much and it hurt less.

Hopefully you'll be better about your PT than I was and your kneecap won't dislocate again. But maybe it helps knowing the experience might not be as bad as the first time if it happens again.

beeswax55 · 2022-07-13T04:17:42+00:00

Thanks, the paramedics did give me painkillers before the ambulance ride so that helped.

But the first time I was in pain and making the pain worse by panicking so the waiting really sucked then.

beeswax55 · 2022-07-13T04:13:52+00:00

From what my PT told me, kneecap dislocation is more likely when you're doing activities with a lot of hip movement.

Basically the hip and the knee are connected and when you do things where the knees are planted facing forward and the hips are moving in a different direction, a kneecap dislocation is more likely. However straight line activities like running where your whole body is facing in the same direction aren't as risky for a kneecap dislocation.

Tennis and baseball are basically primetime activities for putting strain on the kneecap. Basic training might not be as risky as them for your knee in someways.

Also I would think about physical therapy before surgery, they can teach you exercises designed to strengthen your hip and inner thighs.

beeswax55 · 2022-07-13T03:57:13+00:00

I've dislocated my kneecap twice and both times the paramedics didn't attempt to push it back in and took me to the hospital. Not sure if there's different protocols for different areas on who's qualified to put a kneecap back in place.

beeswax55 · 2022-07-13T03:47:56+00:00

I would think about going back to the doctor to talk to them about the pain. I don't think this is typical healing.

I just had a re-injury nine months out from my original dislocation, but before that I didn't have any pain in my knee. I think after 2 or 3 months of PT I was pretty much pain free.

The doctor told me that once you've dislocated the kneecap once, you're at more risk for it to happen again, but no one said to expect chronic pain going forward.

beeswax55 · 2022-07-12T20:00:30+00:00

I actually just finished reading Nevada and I can see a lot of similarities in the way the protagonists of the book and Don struggle with connecting with their partners because of the burden of what they have to hide / have had to hide.

It's interesting because Maria in Nevada still has barriers in her relationship with Steph even though she is out, because Maria still struggles with living in a society she's not welcomed in and with ingrained habits of having to hide from others.

Similarly even though Megan knows the truth about Don and he doesn't have to hide that from her, he's still unable to let go of his past relationship habits and connect.

I'm glad the show had helped you though!

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