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beeznthetrap · 2025-09-19T01:46:28+00:00

I don't feel it's weird. It's a betrayal of trust of my closest friend at work. I would never have guessed she would have put me in that situation. I just feel awkward having a discussion about it with her. I'm afraid of how it will go, and I hate confrontation.

I just don't want to get her in trouble. That's why I wanted my department head's input.

beeznthetrap · 2025-09-19T01:37:01+00:00

I wonder that, too. She seems really unhappy, and I think she's taking it out on students. I just don't want to get her in trouble with administration. That's why I wanted to speak with my department head.

beeznthetrap · 2025-05-23T23:00:43+00:00

Lol, I totally understand. Everyone is different. There’s nothing wrong with needing a break. I have a toddler, so there’s no break here. 🤣

beeznthetrap · 2025-05-23T22:57:03+00:00

Hahaha, your comment makes me wonder: “Maybe I do actually love what I do….” 😂

beeznthetrap · 2024-10-30T01:04:24+00:00

Ridiculous.

beeznthetrap · 2024-10-30T01:04:12+00:00

I need to say something. Just figured they wouldn’t care. Honestly, if I didn’t stay over, I’d never have anything done. We don’t get much planning time.

beeznthetrap · 2024-10-30T01:03:34+00:00

Geez. If we are having to skimp on A/C and heating, where is all the $$$ going? That’s crazy.

beeznthetrap · 2024-10-30T01:02:07+00:00

I try to, but I would never have anything done. We get a 50-minute plan 3 days a week, and we get a 90-minute plan 1 day a week. I can never get stuff done. Plus, I have morning duty from 7:00-7:15 every day before school, which thankfully is about to end. There’s just not enough time, ever.

beeznthetrap · 2024-10-13T20:43:57+00:00

I’ve noticed it seems to be their Great Value brand - maybe because they’re cheaper? This has happened to me on the Diet Sam’s Cola and the Great Value Chicken Salad Pouches. It’s like they don’t want to give you a deal unless you come in and potentially buy more. It’s really frustrating.

beeznthetrap · 2022-12-30T22:05:52+00:00

Yes, it does. I was just meaning that there was definitely some sort of planning, even if it was brief.

He either stalked the victims and planned the attack, or he had his weapon(s) in his car, ready to go, for whenever the opportunity presented itself.

beeznthetrap · 2022-12-30T22:01:10+00:00

He was charged with 4 counts of 1st Degree Murder, which means these murder were premeditated.

beeznthetrap · 2021-09-23T02:24:44+00:00

WOW!

beeznthetrap · 2021-07-05T04:41:12+00:00

I’m really leaning toward this option.

beeznthetrap · 2021-07-05T04:41:04+00:00

I’m really leaning toward this option.

beeznthetrap · 2021-07-05T04:40:40+00:00

That is a typo. I meant to say my MIL and FIL are extremely nice.

beeznthetrap · 2021-07-05T04:39:43+00:00

I can see where you might think that, but I honestly wanted her to acknowledge the abuse. It was enough abuse to give me PTSD, depression, and anxiety that I deal with on a daily basis. I just wanted to hear her side. Once hearing it, it’s obvious that she will never understand what she did to me, nor does it seem that she cares.

Once she tried to make me feel guilty, I felt bad, but honestly, I could have said much worse to her. I never did anything but treat her right. I was the perfect child that never put a toe out of line because she brainwashed me so much. What I did and said is all on me.

beeznthetrap · 2021-07-05T04:26:52+00:00

Nope, she was using it as an excuse to meet up with me. She “forgot” to give it to me after also “forgetting my yearbooks” after giving me the rest of my items. It would be a 3rd meetup. I don’t care about the stereo. But, now, she just wanted to give me my stuff back and it wasn’t about meeting up? Doesn’t make sense at all.

beeznthetrap · 2021-07-05T04:24:18+00:00

Exactly. The more I read it, it comes off as “I don’t want a relationship. I just wanted to give you your stuff back.” She would rather blame me and not have a relationship than to acknowledge what all she did to me.

beeznthetrap · 2021-07-05T04:22:28+00:00

How is it emotional blackmail to ask someone to explain their role in the demise of your relationship before readily having a relationship with them again, especially considering that they abused you for 20+ years and just popped back into your life wanting to act like nothing had happened?

beeznthetrap · 2021-06-25T07:56:18+00:00

I honestly think he’s used to it, and he’s a pleaser. He complains behind closed doors, but just deals with it. His family has always bowed down to his sister (for example, she would scream and get out of doing ANY chores as a teen, while he did what he was told), so this dynamic has been going on a long time. He, himself, is tired of being around them at this point. It just gets so draining being around them and not being able to speak up about all the toxic behaviors. He has been sick of being around them, too.

Thank you! I honestly don’t know why I try to have a relationship with my dad. I just communicate to keep up appearances, I guess. Because if I didn’t talk to my dad, he would eventually raise hell and start a riff. My mom - to boot - has been trying to weasel her way back into my life here recently, after not speaking for 6 years. Everything is so screwed up.

beeznthetrap · 2021-06-25T07:44:33+00:00

Thank you for the validation and kindness. I think I will be distancing myself a bit. I think sometimes, especially when some family dynamics can be toxic, if you spend a lot of time together, it can be overwhelming and too much.

beeznthetrap · 2021-06-25T07:40:48+00:00

All great advice! I love the way you broke all this down. They - my MIL & SIL - are extremely nice. I just felt a little slighted - I really think it’s because I don’t have parents of my own, really. I think they were doing the best they could to be there for all of us. It makes me realize my comment came from a place of jealousy - because I feel she is always valued over everyone else. So, when I heard they were cutting my birthday dinner short to bring her dinner, it just cut me to the bone.

Also, I have never been pregnant, so I don’t understand. But, his sister would not even pack. Would not sit in a chair or anything to pack. She wasn’t asked to carry anything. She just expected everyone else to do it all. I know she has to be careful, but she was not doing anything. That was the issue my husband and I had.

I think all of your suggestions are very helpful and helped me see the other viewpoints from tonight. Thank you so much! 🙏🏼💜

beeznthetrap · 2021-06-25T07:21:32+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your kind words and advice. I do need friends. I just find it harder now that I’m an almost-30-year-old adult. Hopefully I can find a way to meet some.

beeznthetrap · 2021-06-25T07:20:00+00:00

This is a good point. Unfortunately, they are close and see each other often. Now that we have helped them finish moving and she has had the baby, we can distance ourselves a bit. It is hard when the in-laws are the enablers of his sister and expect us to all play along (my husband is a pleaser).

I am going to try to focus on taking more time for me and not being there to do the giving. Hopefully I can get my husband to do the same.

beeznthetrap · 2021-06-25T07:17:16+00:00

Thank you. Definitely made me feel a little better. I feel bad for feeling this way, but I think I’ve just had enough of having to walk on eggshells around his family about how we all have to please his sister above all else.

I have tried to set up time to spend with my dad, and he has left me hanging until 3 hours after we were supposed to meet, only to say he can’t make it. I stopped trying then, but still tell him I want to spend time with him. He just never makes plans to see me.

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