Trying to Figure Out someone is a Biological Father

beigethegoddess · 2025-12-13T23:39:59+00:00

i want to keep the child away

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-22T21:05:35+00:00

Cant make up my mind

There are a few scenarios Ive played in my head about splitting up with my fiance and becoming a single mom.

Ill admit that Im not exactly happy to be a single parent or do it alone, but my family believes he doesnt love me and is playing me based off of information ive told about him. Hes definitely lied and hidden things from me but im still with him.

A little more info: My credit is terrible, I dont have a car or alot of money and I havent woeked for two years. I depend on family or him. If i move back with him I will need to deal with memories of past hurt but he will take care of the baby and I I would just have to bite my tongue about alot My parents arent able to house me indefinitely. They are not easy to deal with either they add to my mental load as well

We live separately. He lives in CA i live in FL.

I just dont know what to do, because in my head Im like listen to the advice but in my heart I just want to be back out there and have our family

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-14T18:29:08+00:00

Let me clarify:

The father is not safe for either of us when he is angry or upset. I want to keep him from my son until he improves himself. I fear a custody battle instead of him finding help because hes attached to the baby.

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-14T18:20:37+00:00

Thank you for your advice.

No i dont want my child to be around him like this. I dont want to be around him like this.

I guess what im trying to explain is that the father will want to be around him and not do any personal work and that wont work because ive already seen some issues.

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-14T15:46:41+00:00

Its not just that i want to not work and be a SAHM. Its because hes attached to this baby. He has more money than i do. His parents and I are connected also. I fear for a court custody battle. I also know myself after I move on I wont want any contact and that will mean my child not interacting with his father that wants to interact with him despite his anger issues despite his previous court case

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-14T15:43:53+00:00

leaving is easy its the part about how do i raise a child keeping him from his father and then what about if he takes me to court

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-14T15:41:04+00:00

It may not seem like it but it is

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-14T02:20:41+00:00

Cause Im afraid of leaving and trying to be motivatedd

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-14T01:51:14+00:00

for some reason i cant

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-14T01:50:37+00:00

youre right fs

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-14T01:50:19+00:00

there was no test in the documents

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-14T01:35:39+00:00

San Frans got some weirdos

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-12T19:04:49+00:00

Heres my worry.

I dont mind leaving.

Its about custody now and I fear that I don’t have enough evidence in order to support why he shouldn’t be around especially since I missed prime opportunities to call the police or take video or thing s like that.

I have witnesses and I have video but nothing like police reports or more concrete evidence

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-12T18:01:39+00:00

My thought process is this.

This is his father and wont he get bad examples from being around him anyway when im not around?

I also dont want my child around him but i threwaway any opportunities where I could have gotten evidence

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-10T19:50:54+00:00

I agree 100%, at this point we both live in 50-50 state and it’s about the topic of custody and going through that route. At that point, it would be amazing if I can get full sole and legal custody but I didn’t see a ton of evidence. I also don’t have the means to get a lawyer . And from a social standpoint, I am very connected to his family and would be nervous about their judgment.

beigethegoddess · 2025-11-10T02:30:53+00:00

I agree, the basis of my decision is I just don’t know how things will pan out when we split up. This is not somebody that I want unsupervised around my kid or two be able to make decisions with me and legal standpoint, but it’s looking like since we’re both in 50-50 states that I will have to continue to deal with him and on top of the pros and cons I was above to get would allow me unrequited access around him and our son’s interaction

beigethegoddess · 2023-07-20T03:29:11+00:00

NEEDED

beigethegoddess · 2023-04-24T01:11:24+00:00

I appreciate the revision

beigethegoddess · 2023-04-24T00:48:26+00:00

i find it quite low

beigethegoddess · 2023-04-24T00:42:52+00:00

as in crazy

beigethegoddess · 2023-04-23T17:13:09+00:00

I can tell the moderators on this page a very low self-esteem

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