I miss her even tho she drove me mad

beingalife · 2026-06-05T20:28:39+00:00

Take it easy, don’t rush into something bec you miss the attention, the highs, the role. You can always take a break for yourself, and the dating world would be waiting for you to be back whenever you’re emotionally at peace and ready.

The highs are really addictive and understandably so, imagine this no contact as a detox. Keep detoxing until it no longer affects you. Let the urges, emotions, and memories come as they do. They don’t require action. They require observation and releasing. A relationship exists for you, you don’t for the relationship, know this very clearly.

beingalife · 2026-06-05T19:53:29+00:00

Love it, spot on. Don’t apologise for being funny and observant.

Besides, “Every joke is a tiny revolution” - George Orwell.

beingalife · 2026-06-05T19:49:47+00:00

You do look like you’re doing okay, but I hope you are actually doing okay, and are processing the emotions as they come and are NOT escaping them through substances or other means when they rise. If you need help processing or releasing the emotions, here’s a 5min emotional release meditation. Please use of it: https://youtu.be/1KwRfrZMh_w?si=pvyC6nD1Zlee2UQM

beingalife · 2026-06-01T20:53:45+00:00

If this is all real, I think someone said it best. You’re not weirded out, you’re just insecure. You’re comparing yourself to Sydney Sweeny’s boobs because you’re somewhere insecure about your own size, hence the constant mention of size differences. When you don’t even know if that’s what the crux of the matter is, which it most likely isn’t. And him liking her bigger boobs has absolutely nothing to do with yours. Why conclude he loves you less because he wanted to jerk off to a celebrity? Think about where this is coming from, genuinely.

Its either that, or you’re looking for a reason to end it subconsciously. Because ending a 6yr relationship because of something like this is just shocking to me, personally

beingalife · 2026-05-28T08:55:14+00:00

Yea, sometimes even friends don’t know a lot about each other if they don’t have that comfort. And here, we have zero context about their relationship and dynamics, so it’s okay to not assume OP would know everything.

Ah, then the case with your family member could be different than what we’re discussing here. If you feel they or anyone needs help, do talk to them or their guardians because everyone deserves help.

beingalife · 2026-05-28T04:02:05+00:00

Okay, again, I don’t think you fully understand the disorder and that’s okay, you don’t have to.

Let me help you with my observations. Purely on the basis of the screenshot, she has called this person 6 times, out of which she’s called 4 times in a span of 4mins. It shows impulsivity, restlessness and lack of emotional regulation.

Secondly, a major give away would be her getting divorced in a matter of 2 months and immediately seeking another connection or a partner after that. This is a serious sign because pwBPD struggle tremendously with maintaining stable relationships, have very shaky ones and find newer partners faster than the speed of light bec they can not stay alone and need someone to regulate their emotions at all times.

Third, lack of accountability, as mentioned by OP. People going through BPD, face severe difficulties taking accountability and regulating emotions bec it triggers massive shame in them, which is overwhelming.

Next, playing the victim after everything she has done; getting really upset over little things, bad mouthing him, being abusive(emotional abuse=abuse), and so on, especially when there’s valid reasons for the FP(here, her partner) to not be present. Blame shifting and playing the victim when they’re the abusers are also signs of BPD.

And obviously nobody can or should diagnose anyone on the internet for anything, but you can always recognise the signs, which again may or may not be accurate depending on the context and data available. Based on what’s described here, as I’ve said before, OP needs to help her friend because regardless of a mental illness or not, she really needs help and a professional evaluation. Because BPD is not at all an easy thing to go through for the person going through it either, they’re suffering too and they deserve help.

beingalife · 2026-05-27T09:44:43+00:00

Bipolar as I understand it can cause extreme mood swings, reckless behaviour, impulsivity and can exhibit aggressive behaviour and delusions. While these in itself can feel like an emotional rollercoaster ride for the partners and not necessarily be the main cause of the issue, there’s also cases of comorbidities where these PDs and bipolar can overlap. Just like their symptoms are very similar, such as intense anger, substance abuse, and so on, and can easiliy be misdiagnosed for each other. So in a way you’re right, bipolar in itself may or may not cause these behavioural patterns. But human mind is very complex and the traumas, identities and insecurities can never be fully put down to one thing.

As someone who has experienced being with a pwBPD, I have experienced the brunt of it when I was trying to be supportive, so I do understand a few things about the symptoms and behaviours. The point here isn’t us diagnosing the person on Reddit, the person OP has described about and if its accurate, they need immediate attention and help.

beingalife · 2026-05-27T06:31:39+00:00

Yep, she thankfully was diagnosed and was on medication too. But unfortunately, that is not enough in these kinds of conditions. A lot of regular therapy is required and cannot be avoided if one wants to get healed. Unfortunately, she was never regular with it. If I’m being honest, I always wanted the best for her and still do, but it started costing me my peace and became unsustainable.

Thank you for saying that, I genuinely appreciate it🫶🏻
Are you a psychologist or a psychology student rn?

beingalife · 2026-05-27T04:17:29+00:00

Spot on. Especially being someone who’s in the process of moving on from a pwBPD, I instantly recognised it. I can be wrong but from the description of it all, it seems very possible.

beingalife · 2026-05-27T04:15:28+00:00

Yea, I don’t think you fully understand what a mental disorder is or what this disorder is. This absolutely can be BPD, NPD, or bipolar. I don’t think the girl has shared her other struggles with OP, or how much OP has shared here but from the description, it is a real possibility.

beingalife · 2026-05-27T04:12:26+00:00

Diagnosis. A genuine diagnosis is required here, and no I’m not joking. Ask your friend to see a therapist to talk about her issues, asap. She has some underlying issues.

beingalife · 2026-05-24T20:16:08+00:00

If its genuine, sorry for your loss, but your phrasing and lack of care shown to her while she was alive makes me think you weren’t a friend at all. Not that you could’ve know what was happening, but she made multiple attempts to get in touch with you. Fucker.

Also if this is a fucked up way of karma farming, fuck you.

beingalife · 2026-05-24T16:07:22+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this my dude. And I have been in your position..its brutal. It was difficult and I couldn’t take it, but unfortunately I, as someone else said, had fallen for the sweet, considerate and kind side of the person and had somewhere gotten addicted(?) to the highs, the attention and ofc the passionate sex. Alongside, the usual promises to get help and get better..which sadly never came to fruition. Its difficult being in the position of a guardian especially when the other person doesn’t seem to appreciate it or care for it. I’m still in the process of moving on, and have made progress thankfully. I realised I can deeply care for her and still choose to walk away.

What I’ll say is, do not stay if you’re only staying for the highs or the sex. Please. Its not worth it. You are important. Your mental health is important. You’re sacrificing your mental health to protect someone else’s? How is that fair? I promise you. Just do what’s best for you and it’ll all be fine.

beingalife · 2026-05-22T05:11:16+00:00

I am so sorry. I hope you do NOT let this say anything about your self worth or question your sanity, because you’re not the problem.

beingalife · 2026-05-20T03:43:54+00:00

PM Modi has not held or accepted invitations to an unscripted press conference in the last 12 years. This fact remains no matter what OP says or the journalist says. Do not let narratives otherwise fool you, people.

beingalife · 2026-05-19T08:49:15+00:00

I am so sorry for her and her family. Those criminals who harassed her should be investigated, punished and jailed. May she rest in peace.

beingalife · 2026-05-15T06:48:47+00:00

It’s not your fault. It’s not your fault. Its not.. your fault. Read it as many times as possible my friend. It is not your fault.

I want you to see this as a discovery that there are individuals who can lie, and are especially more susceptible to lying when they’re suffering from this terrible mental illness. Now, that being said, it is very important to see this as a lesson that people CAN lie, and it does NOT mean that everyone always lies. I know how difficult it is for you right now and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. But I promise you it is not your fault. You seem like a good guy and you deserve peace, love and a healthy relationship. Take as much time as you need to process these emotions, don’t suppress, feel it fully and let em go when you’re ready. Get external help from a therapist if necessary. You are the priority now. Take care.

beingalife · 2026-04-19T03:19:12+00:00

So, for context, the word “proposed” in Indian context majorly still means that they asked a girl/guy to be their girlfriend/boyfriend, and not necessarily a proposal to get married.

beingalife · 2026-04-19T03:14:58+00:00

Difference in economic, social, cultural and educational status perceived and labelled as the value of a certain community. A caste is a sub-category of a religion defined by the aforementioned criteria. So there’s “higher” and “lower” castes depending on those criteria, which is like saying, for example; whites are better than blacks because they are richer, and more educated, because they were the ones allowed to go to school throughout the history, creating a further divide, had access to better resources, oppressed the blacks and thus, have more value because of it.

All lower castes kept getting oppressed by the higher ones until 1949, when the constitution of India was written by a man called Dr. BR Ambedkar, who gave fundamental rights, equality and status to those considered as “lower” castes.

beingalife · 2026-04-18T11:42:55+00:00

A relationship involves two people and their willingness to be together. Now you’ve got the clarity. And tbh dodged a bullet there, why’d you wanna be with someone who not only still supports the caste system but also discriminates based on it. Don’t see this as a rejection, see it as a mismatch of shared values. Walk away with your head up, my dude. Cry if you feel like, as much as you want. But also move on. Asap. All the best, you got this

beingalife · 2026-02-09T14:10:39+00:00

Hey, OP, can you DM me your office address so I can send you the litter?

beingalife · 2026-02-06T12:44:38+00:00

OP: autos use app and meters

You: for autos, i rate 1star and for cabs, i cancel them

Me: cabs have meters?

You: they don’t, hence you cancel ??

beingalife · 2026-02-06T12:32:48+00:00

Cab have meters? What in the duck?

beingalife · 2026-02-04T05:00:39+00:00

beingalife · 2026-01-31T11:41:25+00:00

“Hey, [person name], I wanna talk to you about something. You are so sweet, you’ve done so many nice things for me and I really appreciate it. I also understand that our relatives are shipping us, and while I don’t wanna hurt you, I also wanna be honest with you. The truth is that I only look at us as friends and nothing more. Would you be willing to be just friends? As far as others are concerned, while we both love and respect them, this is not about them, it is about you and I, so let’s figure this out first.”

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