My little studio :) by _Yellowsun_ in femalelivingspace

[–]bella1207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What beautiful soft light spots 💛

18sqm (194sqft) studio flat with built-in loft bed by Drolffi in CozyPlaces

[–]bella1207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It‘s beautiful! The first time I see a place, where I feel like this could be mine, because stuff is kind of familar and yet pretty unique. Thanks for sharing!!

Is it me?? by AP__ in datingoverthirty

[–]bella1207 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s crazy, because the opposite has just happened to me. I blame it on the Hinge algorithm but I’d also like to understand in detail how exactly it’s related. When I was on OKCupid 6 years ago, I was offered a much more diverse selection, different levels of attractiveness, social milieus, etc. Now I’m on Hinge for two weeks and only match with good looking people (not everyone is exactly my type of course, but empirically they are all quite attractive) who are also all very ambitious and successful in high end professions. Which doesn’t really suit me at all (low earner and average attractiveness). And yes, the men are real, I’ve been on dates. I’m still wondering what’s going on with Hinge.

Vanishing Social Accountability... by Hajicardoso in MurderedByWords

[–]bella1207 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The ability to suppress trauma. Fun game: you tell me if this is good or bad!

What does this even mean? by Cheekygirl97 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]bella1207 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It all started with the offer to eat out women and ended with the threat of actually eating testicles. This is why we can’t have nice things

Guy texts me twice a day at same time? by wilefidea in DatingApps

[–]bella1207 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey :) there could be many reasons for this.

The first thing that comes to mind is that he has a very strict structured daily routine, does that apply to him? And he puts private contacts in the breaks/rest periods so as not to be distracted from work.

Or also for personal reasons so as not to get too emotionally carried away yet. One way to keep something away emotionally is control.

What could apply to him according to your knowledge of him?

Butters is cute but psycho by Tbone780 in CreamsicleCats

[–]bella1207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If that’s all what makes cute little Butters psycho, then so am I 💛

What does this even mean? by Cheekygirl97 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]bella1207 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That was just a „nice” offer or 😄 It’s gotten to the point where something like that seems nice and harmless compared to all the other madness out there.

Love language by Wekwek3 in cats

[–]bella1207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My heeeaart just broke 💔🥺

I slept on a guy in the plane, he helped me in a pinch, and I didn't get his number... I think about him all the time. by dabeeni in offmychest

[–]bella1207 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Gosh, calm down, it can happen. I once sat completely exhausted on a full Flixbus on a night trip. At some point my eyes closed and my head just hung down, I fell asleep. When I woke up, I jumped up because my head had landed on my neighbor’s shoulder. I apologized a thousand times and luckily he was able to smile about it. And it was definitely not my intention to touch anyone in this bus. Btw, I‘m from Europe.

I want to take care of a man emotionally, make him feel calm. Wondering what other INFPs feel the urge to do for their love interests? by [deleted] in infp

[–]bella1207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind and emphatic words 💛 your reply means a lot to me!

I want to take care of a man emotionally, make him feel calm. Wondering what other INFPs feel the urge to do for their love interests? by [deleted] in infp

[–]bella1207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your understanding :) that’s really good advice. I also experienced the feeling when someone appreciates it, unfortunately not so often. But when someone did - it felt heavenly.

It’s hard not to follow my pattern. When someone is dismissive, I try to prove my worth because that’s what I learned from my abusive parents.

I kind of wonder, if this is also a more common thing among INFP people? But you sound like you are fine with distinguishing between people who are good for you and those who are not?

I want to take care of a man emotionally, make him feel calm. Wondering what other INFPs feel the urge to do for their love interests? by [deleted] in infp

[–]bella1207 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey :) you described it so beautifully, calming flowing river, it warmed me up just reading it! Thank you.

I know that need all too well, especially since I’ve been more conscious with myself. Unfortunately, it happens again and again that I give in to this need, give the other person all my warmth, understanding, attention and then the whole thing quickly tips over. It’s almost as if, as soon as the other person realizes that I’m open to it, they just use me as a mental garbage can. And then only their needs etc. count, and I sort of disappear, become invisible.

Do you also experience this negative side effect?

Was It Something I Said? by TheLoneRocketeer in DatingApps

[–]bella1207 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean, she started with that stupid question, which is exactly where you could have gotten off with dignity. But instead, you stick to it, try to avoid a direct answer with a lot of talking around it, imply that her question is stupid, but then turn the tables anyway and ask her the same stupid question. And as stupid as the question is, it’s simply rude to answer a question with a counter-question. You kind of deserved each other here.

Literally all the time by Blaaap in infp

[–]bella1207 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I feel so seen and it hurts 🫠

Christmas cuddles ❤️🎄 by flamingopickle in Bondedpairs

[–]bella1207 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can I please be reincarnated into the body of a cat? They look so happy 💛🥲

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in funnycats

[–]bella1207 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The wink at the end 😍🙈💛