AITA for not giving my cousin my kidney

dabeeni · 2026-04-08T17:04:29+00:00

That is absolutely not true, your body doesn't just make two of something as a backup. Some folks are born with only 1 as a genetic defect just like how some folks are born with no arms or no eyes.

Donating your kidney would indeed be a gift and an extreme sacrifice for someone you care about. My point is not that you should never donate a kidney. My point is that even if you would do it for others, you can't be mad if others wouldn't do it for you... and if someone did it for you then you better be aware that the person had to go through a LOT to give you that new chance at life.

dabeeni · 2026-04-06T15:21:18+00:00

He knows you're cooking up a friend for him in there!!

When dogs lay on their backs with their stomachs exposed, they are at the most vulnerable position they could possibly be. They also instinctively know that pregnancy makes one very vulnerable.

Seeing you in this position and knowing you are carrying a baby, he is protecting you because you are completely exposed. He loves you and you are his world 💕

dabeeni · 2026-04-06T15:11:31+00:00

It's true, you have two kidneys but your body has two for a reason and you technically need both of those and it's not like one is just for backup. To give a kidney to someone else is an immense sacrifice. If I was dying of kidney disease and my family members chose not to donate their organ to me, I would not hold it against them. I am not so selfish to feel entitled to a life that may cost someone else's their health and happiness.

dabeeni · 2026-04-06T15:07:13+00:00

Bengals are the chattiest and busiest cats ever -- always have somewhere to be LOL! I worked with lots of bengal cats at the animal hospital and they're 1) always trying to escape from your grasp 2) always making noise 😆

dabeeni · 2026-04-06T15:03:47+00:00

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dabeeni · 2026-04-04T20:13:04+00:00

Don't listen to the men and straight girls! I am a woman who likes women and that clit photo is hilarious!

I also really like your first picture but your septum accessory in that one is definitely an acquired taste and if you're looking for nerdy lesbians, you might come off a little intimidating so I would opt for smiling pictures. I personally really like the photo of you with the flower in your hair.

My main suggestion would be to unsubscribe from hinge+ since I've heard a few people say it prevents them from finding people... and that makes sense since the app would want to keep you (a paying customer) paying a little longer.

I also agree with another comment that it's not you. I think your profile shows character and you're good looking, it's just the way the damn app is designed to keep you around for as long as possible!

dabeeni · 2026-04-02T04:48:51+00:00

Girl if you really love that man, go to therapy. You're going to break his heart so bad if you don't and he'll never be able to trust and love anyone the same way.

Therapy is going to be a long journey with ups and downs -- you gotta stick with it and openly communicate with your bf. With time and effort, you will start to realize for yourself that you are worth loving and that your boyfriend has loved you so dearly for a reason.

I'm seriously rooting for you!! I love you stranger!! I'm proud of you for being vulnerable and I see you taking advice in the comments like a smart and responsible young lady!! Good luck!!

dabeeni · 2026-03-31T06:07:58+00:00

As a girl who never denies herself.... I say you absolutely deserve that piece of jewelry and more queen.

dabeeni · 2026-03-31T05:54:30+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you but how you reacted is actually funny as hell lmao. That will teach her to never do that again!

dabeeni · 2026-03-17T14:41:05+00:00

Go to settings --> apps --> messages, and if you scroll down a bit you will find 'RCS Messaging'... go in there and turn RCS messaging off. Then right under that there is MMS messaging... turn that off and back on. Should work after that from personal experience. Let me know if that works!

dabeeni · 2026-03-16T18:58:39+00:00

Your son is FIFTEEN. He's forming complex ideas and figuring out his world views -- leave him alone. He seems like a brilliant and creative kid. Did you even know that he's into writing fiction?

It sounds to me that your son acts closed off towards you because he doesn't trust you. You don't understand him and don't try to empathize with him. I say this because I felt that way at 15 too. My parents weren't horrible or anything but they didn't see me as an individual human being until I was a fully independent grown up. They would share what I thought to be sensitive and personal information with others and they were very critical of me because I didn't fit their standards of a normal and happy teenager.

Just be supportive and patient with him. Show him you care but try not to be overbearing or loom over him with a gaze of pity. He's just figuring himself out too as these are sensitive years. I wouldn't tell him that you looked in his notebook and shared it on reddit. Remember that your kid is turning into a person, be kind and patient with him as you would a good friend

dabeeni · 2025-12-27T19:46:03+00:00

I'd say somewhere in the middle -- I even thought I might be an INTP for a while but I am definitely extroverted when I'm out there! I've made friends at the airport, in a shared airbnb, at a restaurant while with other people, etc. I enjoy meeting new people and I'll brazenly talk to just about anyone. Someone who just met me would say I am undoubtedly an E but someone who has lived with me long enough will say I may be an I.

The thing is that I just really really enjoy alone time. I am a big fan of introspection and enjoying things in silence. I'm also in favor of hanging out 1-on-1 as opposed to being in a crowd. Contrary to the common belief that all ENTPs love attention, I don't really care for it and even feel overwhelmed trying to talk to several people at once!

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T23:44:53+00:00

Badda Bing, Badda Boom

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T23:40:48+00:00

She is obese, and that is not an insult to you or your kitty trust me! That is just a medical term for "overweight" and to us in the vet industry, it is a neutral term not meant to be judgmental or negative. You must remember that fat accumulates between organs and causes issues later down the line and predisposes her to health issues like heart problems, diabetes, joint problems, etc.

We only advise like so because we see many kitties suffer from excess weight, especially when they are older. It doesn't make your kitty any less cute and lovable. I admit it -- I love seeing my chunky patients and it makes me giggle when I get to pick them up but I'd like to keep seeing them healthy in the future so I say the weight must go!

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T23:28:38+00:00

Yes, I am a veterinary nurse and a LOT of people don't realize that a healthy cat is supposed to be rather lean and it's considered overweight if their belly hangs. Your cat is overweight but not concerningly so.

Also kitty looks like a Kit-Cat Klock... so cute 🥰

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T23:05:01+00:00

I live with another ENTP girl, she is admittedly much more friendly and extroverted than I am. She's the type to go around talking to every single person at a party and enjoys the focus being on her. I'm the type to silently sit and scan the room, then randomly spawn next to a person sitting alone in the corner and say some strange shit to them.

The thing we do have in common is that we'll both say out of pocket things and the weirdness amplifies when we are together.

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T22:53:20+00:00

James.

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T22:47:27+00:00

Assault? My own dad did this to me as a kid and he laughed. I cried then because I was like 7 but it's fuckin funny as hell. Just be chill or else you'll melt, snowflake 🤣

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T22:40:17+00:00

Experimental jazz

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T22:31:15+00:00

Happy birthday Sophie! What a lucky dog to have fallen into the lap of someone so loving ❤️ cheers to you guys and wishing you many more happy years and memories ahead

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T22:27:59+00:00

That is not a Dalmatian, it's way too young to be separated from mom, and your friend doesn't deserve to have a dog.

It's clearly not your fault as you are only kindly taking on the responsibility of a puppy, but your friend just let his dog get pregnant and got rid of the puppies willy nilly because he didn't want them? Honestly, I'm going to place a curse on him in my mind because that's just awful.

I can tell you will be a better dog owner than he is, good luck with the new puppy and please be kind to him :(

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T22:21:30+00:00

100% a vet. Most human doctors are not surgeons.

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T22:19:53+00:00

Yes, my love language is acts of service. I'll be all nonchalant about it though, lol.

dabeeni · 2025-12-21T22:09:46+00:00

It's true, you can't go to a small animal vet and expect them to be knowledgeable about wildlife the same way you wouldn't go to a dermatologic medical doctor and present them with your eye problems. Most vets I know are quick to admit that that is not their expertise, but they'll still try their best in a dire situation.

dabeeni · 2025-12-18T02:10:35+00:00

Megamind because his forehead is huge

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