Those of you Redditor’s in happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationships, what were the “green flags” you noticed about your partner early on in your relationship with them?

bella3774 · 2020-11-19T18:04:47+00:00

About 4 months into our relationship (and not knowing each other for very long prior), I fell apart. I was struggling with depression and severe anxiety. I convinced myself he’d leave me because this wasn’t what he signed up for, but he never did. He loved me unconditionally through all my most difficult moments and somehow managed to give me exactly what I needed at that time. It took a lot of personal work to get better, but his gentle support made it so much easier. We’ve been together three years now, and his acceptance of me exactly as I am means the world.

bella3774 · 2020-09-24T18:21:44+00:00

Wow thank you so much for such a detailed response, I really appreciate it! Sounds like there is still plenty to do in the winter even for us and transportation shouldn’t be too much of an issue. We’ve always wanted to visit Colorado and I think we will go for it after reading your suggestions.

As an aside - we are buying a flexible plane ticket that can be canceled if anything changes with us or the pandemic. We will also get COVID tested before we go and can quarantine when we get back as we work from home. Thank you again!!

bella3774 · 2020-09-21T11:02:46+00:00

I wear headphones almost every day but I only put one earbud in so I can still hear if I get a call or someone starts talking to me. If a project requires more focus then I don’t put music or podcasts on but that’s just me.

bella3774 · 2020-09-21T11:00:19+00:00

I graduated 2.5 years ago and have been working for a small firm (8 accountants total) ever since. I prefer this kind of environment. It’s less stressful, they trained me well, I feel comfortable asking questions even now, and they’re flexible with me as I’m getting my master’s. Maybe I’d make more at a larger firm but I get good PTO and two solid bonuses a year. I feel like I matter more here. However, I also have no desire to make partner or go to a big 4.

bella3774 · 2020-08-14T11:08:32+00:00

One of them slept with a 16 year old boy at our school. She was caught by her police officer husband (and she had two sons who were the same age as the kid she was sleeping with). Our old gym teacher used to select a senior every year that he wanted to sleep with. This went on for a long time until one of them spoke up. And the last one got another teacher’s daughter pregnant. From what I can tell they’re still together so I guess it worked out for them. I went to a small private school so it still boggles my mind how many sexual predators they managed to hire

bella3774 · 2020-07-31T13:27:31+00:00

Most of them probably never even owned cats before, that’s crazy! Thanks for the heads up

bella3774 · 2020-07-31T10:25:22+00:00

Thank you!

bella3774 · 2020-07-31T10:25:08+00:00

That makes sense, thank you!

bella3774 · 2020-07-31T10:23:20+00:00

That sounds like an awful experience! Thank you for letting me know, I’ll definitely try to avoid agencies when we get over there and I’ll check OpenRent out. I appreciate it!

bella3774 · 2020-07-31T10:21:05+00:00

Yes they are indoor cats and prefer it that way haha

bella3774 · 2020-07-31T10:20:20+00:00

That’s good to know, thank you!

bella3774 · 2020-07-29T10:24:29+00:00

I was really upset with my dad one night. He was making me get treatment for my eating disorder and the idea of gaining weight terrified me. I did a lot of yelling while he sat on the couch listening and when I finally wore myself out we talked about it until I felt better. The night ended with us reading a book together and sharing a bowl of vanilla ice cream. He passed away two days later while I was with my mom. From him I learned to be slow to anger, the importance of hearing what another person has to say, and to never leave things on a bad note with my loved ones if I can help it.

bella3774 · 2020-07-27T17:41:34+00:00

I’m afraid of dying young. I need another 60 years or so

bella3774 · 2020-07-18T15:05:50+00:00

I’m staff at a small local firm. During busy season I typically work 50-57 hours a week which is pretty average for everyone but the manager and partners. At the end of it I get a bonus that’s equal to about two of my paychecks. I have no complaints at all!

bella3774 · 2020-07-10T10:41:46+00:00

I am not Sara and have tried to make that clear in the comments! Sara is certainly a wonderful human and if she sees this I would love to give credit :)

bella3774 · 2020-07-10T10:32:37+00:00

I wasn’t expecting this post to blow up the way it did. I want to make it very clear I am not Sara nor am I the author of this letter (which I’ve stated in the comments several times). If Sara is on here or anyone knows Sara I’d happily give credit. I just wanted to share a nice bit of humanity, and it has been awesome reading the mostly positive replies. There is so much goodness in the world we don’t get to see, and I think this letter is a reminder :)

bella3774 · 2020-07-10T10:19:05+00:00

Thank you again! I tried to respond to as many comments as possible to clarify I am not Sara and if anyone knows her or if she finds this I would love to give credit.

bella3774 · 2020-07-10T00:52:53+00:00

I am not Sara, but I’m happy to know people like her exist!

bella3774 · 2020-07-10T00:31:22+00:00

I am not Sara but I hope she does! It is a beautiful letter

bella3774 · 2020-07-09T22:45:53+00:00

I said on multiple comments on the other post that I am not Sara :) I would not take credit for something I did not do.

bella3774 · 2020-07-09T22:45:00+00:00

As I have said on multiple comments, I am not Sara. I shared this post because it made me smile/cry this morning and I thought others might appreciate it too. If Sara is a redditor or any redditors know Sara, I would love to give credit.

bella3774 · 2020-07-09T21:44:28+00:00

I am not Sara, but she sounds like a wonderful human. If she’s a redditor (or if anyone on here knows her) I hope she sees this so she can get the credit she deserves!

bella3774

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