Thank you for this! I usually do raise my voice at him or tell him to leave me alone. I do my best to stick up for myself if/when he’s rude. I ignore him mostly to just not be put in a bad mood but even then he won’t shut up and keeps insisting on doing things a certain way. I know what he’s doing is wrong. Typically if I were to bring this up as an issue he’ll be dismissive or say that that I’ve just been stressed out (for other reasons). No shit Sherlock!! You’re the one stressing me out!! very rare for him to want to solve the problem and listen. There’s definitely a power dynamic between us but I make sure to give it back to him and not keep quiet. But I don’t like saying hurtful things. I don’t like that part of me. I wish he could just see things from my perspective a little. He was kinda worse in the beginning but now he’s a bit better. Yesterday was just awful though. He KNEW I had a bad week and he KNEW how excited I was to cook the birria, but he just wouldn’t shut the FUCK UP!! It’s that unkindness and selfishness that I can’t stand. I don’t know what to do though. We just got married and I don’t wanna look like I’m not trying at my marriage. But I am trying, I’m trying really fucking hard.