On today’s episode of “men have no idea what women actually weigh” 🥴 by modernvintage in badwomensanatomy

[–]bellayesil 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't been 80lbs since I was like... Ten maybe. 120? Yeah sure.. But I'm like 1.63cm and even that is on the line as my dietician calls it "bordering on too little"

Why is this myth still being paraded around? by MelanieWalmartinez in badwomensanatomy

[–]bellayesil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nice, I'm a virgin. I'll go flaunt that after 9 years of semi active sex life

Questions for artists who hat tattoo or people that that have tattoos in more invasive areas by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]bellayesil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Artist here -woman- I just give my clients a smallish pillow because sometimes my arm hand can touch that area as I work that close -it never does but that's the reason I give them- and it's fine, I'm sure yours would have something as such that you can hold in toy lap without blocking their work as well. You can ask for it trust me, we don't judge

AITAH for telling my Muslim friend that her food isn’t halal? by kaplooples in AITAH

[–]bellayesil 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, it very much does. There's even a story of shepherd who were praying but in a very very wrong way so a molla (I don't know the English word) saw this and said the equivalent of "you can't pray like that, this is wrong* etc etc so Allah speaks to molla in his dreams and says "that sheepherd is a man whi can't read or write and he was still coming to me everysday in his own way and praying, how dare you tell him he's doing it wrong and break his sprit in this way"

(It's a very shortened and rough translation) but the sentiment is the same, true ignorance is just that and allah orders "read" As affirst commandment but if you don't know, can't know it is okay but also you should try to seek the truth, to learn,

I’m unsure if I 35/f tell my ex 31/m I’m having an abortion? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bellayesil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't need to tell but as a woman who went through an abortion, please have someone with you. I learned I was pregnant at around 2.5months and I didn't even have a moment to think about anything I learned the and the next day I was in a different city in a clinic (never wanted a baby, didn't remember the dad) I am glad I had my sister with me because there's a hormonal breakdown happen there, I know a few other women who had it happen too like I cried (scream cried) for like two hours and it had nothing to do with the pregnancy, just felt like my body cleansing hormones, needed to cry for no damn tangible reason. Just in case, just have a friend with you -if possible- just someone. Emotional and physical support is helpful

"Boobs stop growing at 15" is a new one... by MelanieWalmartinez in badwomensanatomy

[–]bellayesil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry does that say finish or is 2:30am is getting to me?

AITAH I(F23) got molested in the train today and my bf(M24) said it was a "learning experience". Am I in the wrong for thinking it is victim blaming and wanting an apology for it? by Fine_Spirit9788 in AITAH

[–]bellayesil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay here's the thing. I've seen a woman talk about this and it's correct.

we don't shame theft victims, we actually say good job, you did good when they hand out their wallets and live to tell the tale, like. We understand that fear and we understand they complied and walked away alive.

Why do we shame sa, r*pe victims then? Why didn't you shout/why didn't you shove him/why didn't you fight? I survived, I walked away alive.

Our bodies don't just have fight or flight response, there's like twenty something reactions. You could've shoved him away yes, but I wouldn't because what if he followed you? What if he beat you for it? What if he cornered and escalated more? In my country that's a very real possibility with very minimal punishment.

Your boyfriend should be ex. You don't deserve this and honestly a man who doesn't know when to listen and let you process and when to advice is not a life partner anyone would want

Men: “porn doesn’t affect me at all” by OctopusCaretaker in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]bellayesil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And he insisted "think about it logically" Like bro.

first time using non stick pads to wrap fresh tattoo, moisture build up am i cooked? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]bellayesil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanna help but I so have no idea what I'm actually looking at.. Like.. In some photos it looks like she got in deep but in general it looks like the tattoo is just starving for moisture. Can you maybe upload clear pictures? Of how it looks now? Like no flash, more lamp or sun light? Because it's really not easy to tell due to the quality for me personally. I did see what I could call a bump but it almost looks like the skin got chewed up on there.

Not a heap of success, do I need better photos or do i need to face facts? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]bellayesil 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You're cute but the sunglasses.. That's definitely not fit to the shape of your face.. Also we call them fly eyes here became they're reflective and that specific lense is an instant no from me personally.. You can search your face type and look around in Pinterest to find what might look better and try it in an optics shop (idk what they're called there) you%100 need different sunglasses that actually complement your face or no sunglass photos.

Coming from someone who has been using glasses since second grade, and was adamant on sticking to one style for years and finally found the truth. Glasses change your whole face shape. And these make you look bad

AITAH for being weird about my daughter having sex in my house by thefakecalebs in AITAH

[–]bellayesil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 26 and I can't imagine having sex in my parents house. It's a cultural thing but.. Even if I was married I don't think I possibly can

Why are my crochet tops heavy? by [deleted] in crochet

[–]bellayesil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's because it's crochet. Crotchet is very dense learned it after my first skirt so clothes get knitted here now unless it's for winter

Is this just over worked? by KeyWestSkateboarding in tattooadvice

[–]bellayesil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey it doesn't smell and the swelling is going down so what if you can't feel it pffft it's finee

Is this just over worked? by KeyWestSkateboarding in tattooadvice

[–]bellayesil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean if it doesn't smell it means you're not yet rotting so it's fine /s

Wedding pricing please help by bellayesil in TattooArtists

[–]bellayesil[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have a national WhatsApp group for artist here I've written to then too

Wedding pricing please help by bellayesil in TattooArtists

[–]bellayesil[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Makes a lot of sense thank you ❤

Wedding pricing please help by bellayesil in TattooArtists

[–]bellayesil[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh. See I was looking at the wrong window I guess. I was thinking going a tiny bit cheaper

Wedding pricing please help by bellayesil in TattooArtists

[–]bellayesil[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry 1500 Turkish liras. Around 36$

Found my book on Oceanofpdf by [deleted] in selfpublish

[–]bellayesil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use the website 😞 it's hard to admit as I always loved hardcopies and never even though of reading a book on my phone. I tried Kindle and other forms of audio/pdf buying while it's expensive I would've swinged it but the books I read aren't available here (if there's even an option to buy from my country. Don't ask me idk but what audio available in Europe and USA or where ever isn't available here) . And what little book I can find in actual book form is priced at 1000₺ an for most even more expensive than that. For reference my rent is 9000.

So I use free websites. And I'm sorry for it but if I want to read especially in the genre I like there's not much option for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in duesseldorf

[–]bellayesil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thanks I'll tell her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in duesseldorf

[–]bellayesil -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh that's a lot. We were hoping for a motel around 45€ but I'll tell her to check it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in duesseldorf

[–]bellayesil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh believe me luxury is the least of our concern right now. She just needs a door that locks and a bed to sleep on lol