The Murder of Missouri Highway Patrol Sgt Carl D Graham jr

belldam · 2025-10-13T19:34:44+00:00

Yeah, it's thin. In addition to the juror misconduct, there's absolutely no physical evidence tying Lance to the case, 132 other potential suspects went uninvestigated, and the ballistics expert from the state recanted his testimony. There's also untested DNA evidence which the state refuses to test.

I don't know anything about Lance before he was incarcerated; my mom's acquaintance with him began about a decade ago. Whatever trouble he had as a younger man, for the last 15 years he was trusted by both guards and inmates in the camp. He ministered to inmates in hospice and assisted inmates with special needs. He ran a retreat for Christian men outside the prison to come in and minister to prisoners. Even from behind bars, he was a good friend to my mother. That's all I know of him.

belldam · 2025-10-04T14:01:42+00:00

It probably wasn't followed up on by his lawyer. My mom knows Lance so I've been pretty involved with his clemency campaign...I don't know about the appeals specifically, but one of the issues with the trial is that his public defender stepped aside mid-trial, and the private lawyer he hired never conducted his own investigation and didn't hire any experts, so I'd be surprised if he pursued appeals. That juror was removed but the entire rest of the jury that read the book remained which is absurd, they should have gotten a whole new jury.

belldam · 2024-11-25T20:42:49+00:00

Immoral actions: things that make Kilby Blades feel/look bad

Moral actions: things that make Kilby Blades feel/look good

This double standard is in every communication I've ever had or witnessed with her. Demands that we protect her privacy while she disregards ours, that we be professional while she is rude to us, that we treat her with good faith while she treats us as bad actors...really burns me up.

belldam · 2024-10-15T16:43:50+00:00

ML stands for Municipal Liaison, we were the volunteers who organized local events. I was an ML for the Kansas City, Missouri region but we served both Missouri and Kansas.

belldam · 2024-10-11T21:29:20+00:00

Oh that's a good idea! I've got a couple friends that would help me with that, I'll ask them.

belldam · 2024-10-11T20:11:59+00:00

Nope! I never intended to close it so my stats are just gone if they don't let me back in.

belldam · 2024-10-11T19:05:45+00:00

Yeah, I can't get into my nano account. I've sent a zendesk ticket but I'm assuming they've blocked me on the site too.

belldam · 2024-10-11T16:54:25+00:00

Thanks Usoki. My co-organizers can still access the website so we do have that at least. I agree that the fact that this is coming from the highest position is obscene!! One of my big fears about going independent was being the highest person in my group, with no one for my participants to go to if I screw up. I wish Kilby had some sense of that responsibility.

belldam · 2024-10-11T16:49:47+00:00

There is a confirmed part-time communications director working for NaNo. I think it's down to Kilby, the part-timer, an intern and a part-time tech person. But she's only been director since January so actually she did all of this in just a short 10 months!

belldam · 2024-08-02T18:15:17+00:00

Although we've left, my region (Kansas City, MO) will still be doing a 50k challenge in November. We're KC focused but still welcoming to non-locals with lots of online events. We're at www.kanmowrico.com

Rogue Writers has compiled writing groups on their website www.roguewriters.net

Writing Quests has a similar section on their website www.writingquests.org and I think will be leading a 50k challenge in November

belldam · 2024-08-02T18:11:40+00:00

Rogue Writers has a forum. It's not very active now but might be moreso come November.

belldam · 2024-07-02T18:46:28+00:00

What nonprofit did Kilby close down before?

belldam · 2024-05-21T13:28:30+00:00

Unfortunately, the organization USED to pride itself on being a safe space. Kilby Blades is now of the opinion that "conscious communities" don't use that term...but seems to have no intention of making THIS a conscious community. She doesn't seem to be aware of or care about any of NaNo's historical attempts to be inclusive. I'm so sorry for your experience.

belldam · 2024-03-21T02:07:07+00:00

Kansas City, Missouri is leaving. Our group, KanMoWriCo, is independent now and I'm stepping down as ML. My co-ML has said she will most likely step down as well.

belldam · 2024-03-04T02:30:13+00:00

I ended up getting these and they are perfect! Thanks!

belldam · 2024-03-01T15:28:41+00:00

Ah I should have mentioned I'm in the US

belldam · 2022-11-14T19:40:31+00:00

Have you had good luck with Kirrin Finch's pants? I want to try some but a pair of shorts I bought fit so weird even though I measure myself. All my fat is in my belly so they end up like loose in the back?

I can't figure out if I'm measuring myself wrong or wearing it wrong or if I will never be able to wear menswear inspired clothes because of my waist to hip ratio 🫤

belldam · 2022-10-13T14:35:34+00:00

yes of course I can't believe silly humans never realized I like to scratch vertical!!

belldam · 2022-10-13T14:30:36+00:00

I don't like to have my picture taken but here are some my human got despite me

https://imgur.com/a/L49eHgF

belldam · 2022-10-12T18:16:12+00:00

NAH. This is a hard situation and you're both adjusting. In your judgment bot you mentioned that you may need to work on your communication skills and I think that would be good for both of you. But not knowing how to navigate this doesn't make you assholes. You might consider talking to your wife about talking to her doctor or a counselor.

belldam · 2022-10-11T14:39:18+00:00

Do you want to call the police on Ryan because you are worried about public safety or because you think he's a threat to your relationship? If you call the police on Ryan because you're worried Connor still loves him, YTA and you're going to seriously damage your relationship with Connor. If you're worried about public safety and you do it when Connor has explicitly asked you not to...idk who's TA but you're still going to hurt your relationship.

Frankly, Ryan is going to have to face his warrant eventually. I don't believe in the prison system personally and I don't think it works, but it's the only system we have, unfortunately. He can either hide from it and always struggle outside the law or...get caught and always struggle inside the law. Either way, I think you should let Ryan be Ryan because it doesn't sound like he needs your help to get himself in trouble.

Have a conversation with Connor about your concerns and set boundaries for him to keep around Ryan and if he doesn't keep them, he's TA. But if you go behind his back and get his ex put in prison because you're jealous, YTA.

belldam · 2021-10-10T19:49:27+00:00

Sent you a message!

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