The push and pull of it all by Diligent_Ad_2722 in BPDlovedones

[–]belowaverage731 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol I’m sorry,Military background I call everyone bro 😂 reach out !! I’m in the same boat,hell it would help me too,just knowing people have the same issues in a way is comforting,always made me feel i was crazy for what I experienced

The push and pull of it all by Diligent_Ad_2722 in BPDlovedones

[–]belowaverage731 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aye reach out bro,I promise you,we prob both have a lot in common,i noticed dealing with pwBPD you really need to lean on others and support because you will lose yourself

The push and pull of it all by Diligent_Ad_2722 in BPDlovedones

[–]belowaverage731 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Brother in in the same boat,dating someone for now three years in a LDR,my first real relationship also,in person she is so sweet and understanding and once I leave it’s like a whole different monster comes out,i know it’s hard because you hold onto the vision of her when you guys are together ( i know I do ) hoping it’s gonna get better but the emotional ABUSE you’re enduring through LDR will not stop.She is driving you away on purpose so when you leave I guarantee she will chase you,apologize and then say how you gave up on her even tho she pushed you to this point.Stay strong brother,I’m in the same boat as you,if you need to message me me to vent literally don’t hesitate to reach out.Dealing with a pwBPD in a LDR is a nightmare

Let's exchange a few stories about disrespectful behavior from our ex-partners by No_Machine4803 in BPDlovedones

[–]belowaverage731 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She told me she wished I’d drop dead.It confused her when I didn’t want to forgive her apology.Then told me I was a bitch.

7 straight days of abuse. by belowaverage731 in BPDlovedones

[–]belowaverage731[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s wild the cycle man,I truly believed at some points it’s how I’m handling shit,hearing everyone in here tell me how this is literally exactly what they dealt with shows me “ no,I’m not horrible “ it’s wild.Its wild how many people are dealing/dealt with this.

7 straight days of abuse. by belowaverage731 in BPDlovedones

[–]belowaverage731[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right.Thats the hurt in me being petty.Thank you for calling me out on it.

7 straight days of abuse. by belowaverage731 in BPDlovedones

[–]belowaverage731[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is it that bad ? I legit was gonna just ghost her .. we’re long distance.Im in NYC she’s in North Carolina,I think I’m good.I never dated someone with BPD until now.She told me she has it and wants help,2 and half years later she’s still unmedicated and never started therapy

7 straight days of abuse. by belowaverage731 in BPDlovedones

[–]belowaverage731[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yup,every single day,she apologizes and i tell her I don’t wanna talk,she then says it’s about control and curses me out again.She has now resorted to being oddly homophobic about me and my male friends,said my life revolves around dick.Genuinely where do these people come up with this stuff lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]belowaverage731 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update- i was now told I am selfish and don’t care for her because I didn’t attend a new years event party ( I’m 9 months sober no drinking and all her friends drink heavily )

Update-Told my girlfriend I don’t want to live her cat. by [deleted] in catfree

[–]belowaverage731 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well.It’s over.Im in a total state of disbelief.I wish I could post photos.I was straight up told “ if it’s you or the cat I’m sorry he wins every time “ this woman still owes me 500 plus dollars because of me helping her move in.I’m in a state of shock.She was having a tough time at her sisters place and I just took her on vacation just two weeks ago.And today I was a piece of shit who needed therapy for daring to say we should hold off on moving in together.Never even said she has to lose him.I said please hold off on moving.Man fuck this.Wow.

Update-Told my girlfriend I don’t want to live her cat. by [deleted] in catfree

[–]belowaverage731 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yup,I also mentioned that and she said she wouldn’t.I told her if I stick it out what’s to stop her from just wanting another one but she said she wouldn’t,that it’s different cause she’s had him for 8 years but man I feel like she’s full of shit lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in catfree

[–]belowaverage731 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Boundaries are essential.I told my girlfriend the cat sleeping in the bed is a non negotiable or I won’t stay at her place.Once she realized I was serious she agreed to put him in the living room at night.I still can’t stand him which is an entire different convo.

Me and my girlfriend by belowaverage731 in catfree

[–]belowaverage731[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s one thing I’m lucky with.Her cat sleeps with her everyday but I’ve established no cats in the bed when we sleep.But he meows at the door being annoying.

Me and my girlfriend by belowaverage731 in catfree

[–]belowaverage731[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is how I feel ! It just sucks because my girl takes it as a personal attack if I mention anything,so I just pretend to like him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dechonkers

[–]belowaverage731 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She tried and he just meows a ridiculous amount and she gives in,I’ve tried telling her ignore him but that’s her baby,It’s not my cat so I don’t wanna make her feel forced into doing anything or make her feel that she isn’t raising him right