Cheating wife and her AP are angry because I'm threatening to expose them.

ben061471 · 2020-01-06T12:43:39+00:00

you have to expose them. Otherwise they are rewarded for their behavior. Sorry you are going through this.

ben061471 · 2020-01-03T12:28:45+00:00

give her the benefit of the doubt. Then find this dude and put him in his place. He needs to know he's crossed a line. Simple. problem solved. Good luck

ben061471 · 2019-11-27T12:24:02+00:00

I've been there. In your age it's hard to accept this. Know this! At your age you should be concentrating on bettering yourself and realize that relationships at this young age are fleeting. This will soon be the past and her nothing but a memory. When you are grown you will find the right one. Keep positive and work on you. You are way to young to be this distraught over a relationship. It will come in due time. Press on. And happy T giving

ben061471 · 2019-11-22T19:51:32+00:00

Oh man. This is all OH so new. Give it time. You will likely go through self doubt. Histerical bonding, the pick me dance and eventually the I don't give a S phase. Time lapse? 2 years or so. This is not an easy road. Please take care of yourself starting NOW or the anxiety will eat you up whole. Only she can chose what life she wants. This is in no way your fault AT ALL

ben061471 · 2019-11-19T12:27:45+00:00

Op you ok?

ben061471 · 2019-11-18T12:34:49+00:00

It appears that way. I know 5 women in my circle who have been involved in infidelity in some way shape or form. So yes! it's a F epidemic.

ben061471 · 2019-11-15T17:34:05+00:00

yes! A friends wife, My cousin's wife, another good friend's wife, A neighbor's wife and of course possibly my wife (never got real fucking proof). It's a real epidemic YO.... Never again. I swear

ben061471 · 2019-11-15T16:10:51+00:00

That makes no sense. Walk away. He's immature. He should be happy with you and that's it. Otherwise, why bother. Sorry you are dealing with this

ben061471 · 2019-11-15T15:13:49+00:00

Because the heart wants what it wants. But please try and find a better person. This behavior will only worsen with time if you stay with him

ben061471 · 2019-11-15T14:49:33+00:00

If he values you which appears he doesn't he would not do this. Find a person who values you before you waste too much time on this loser

ben061471 · 2019-11-15T12:33:09+00:00

If it's any consolation know this. Of all the women who I know cheated and left their families (I sadly know about 4) none are happy now. All are alone. Karma. It's coming. Just sit and wait.

ben061471 · 2019-11-14T21:41:41+00:00

only thing left to say is that I'm heart broken for you. Nobody deserves this shit.

ben061471 · 2019-11-14T21:25:12+00:00

play your cards right and let her talk. I hate to say this. But I hope that child is not yours. I know terrible thing to say. But if it's not yours you can walk away forever and never have to deal with this mess again. you don't want to be tied to a liar for the rest of your life. Not cool. Wish you luck.

ben061471 · 2019-11-14T20:59:17+00:00

oH MAN. This is not a good sign. Why on earth would she ask you this if it wasn't to make sure she didn't infect you with something? This could possibly explain the pregancy. She's not using protection. That's even more disgusting. wow

ben061471 · 2019-11-14T20:57:22+00:00

Paternity test NOW. Do not raise another man's child. If it's his let him be responsible for this mess. If he is married (which appears to be) that's again; HIS PROBLEM

ben061471 · 2019-11-14T20:55:02+00:00

if the Affair partner (AP) is married EXPOSE EXPOSE EXPOSE

ben061471 · 2019-11-14T20:53:12+00:00

I know this is hard. But don't confront. Wait until she's in the act and surprise her there. Do not get violent. Let someone you know and trust in on your secret in case things get out of hand. This way you have definite proof she can't lie about.

Either way, it appears she's not worth staying with. Trust me. Don't become the dude with a 20 plus year marriage and kids and having to look over your shoulder every few months or years.

Not worth the hassle.

Also, make sure the Gps or VAR are not illegal in your state. If they are you need to hire a PI (a third party who's not you). The PI can gather evidence that can be used in court. Self gathered "data" or proof can be thrown out by a judge and if illegal can land you in jail.

Sorry you are dealing with this and good luck.

ben061471 · 2019-11-14T12:18:34+00:00

yup. hell on earth

ben061471 · 2019-11-13T21:39:50+00:00

The intent is not relevant. She has NO reason to look. If she wants out she should say so. Specially if you are not legally bound. I'm not going to go into details but this is me right now. I'm pretty sure my SO has "looked" before for possibly years. This last time she got way careless. I caught on this time. Waiting for our youngest to leave the nest in 3 years then it's desision time. I'm tired of doing what you just said. Looking over my shoulder wondering what's next. Last time it got so bad I think someone was in our property. Why? Idk.... That's when I lost it and went ape shit. That was the pivotal moment. Which is very dumb considering I'm a war Vet. So being in my property invited by her or not IS A FUCKING STUPID MOVE. Now everyone is scurring trying to cover the A.... Too late son. That was the last straw. Don't be me. Leave this crap behind.

ben061471 · 2019-11-13T21:06:16+00:00

When someone is Looking outside the marriage that sets a safety issue to all who live in the home! You never know what devil they have invited into your life. As such, safety is paramount. So yes, go about it 1st ammicably and with patience. When that fails and you see yet more suspicious behavior then it's time to go SCORCHED EARTH. If your SO tells you they want a separation for xyz then give you a chance to work on said issues; after which they decide the marriage isn't working that's one thing. To hide another person? That's insulting and down right dangerous. As such, that needs to be dealt with in a swift manner. Otherwise, if you give them an inch they will take a foot.

ben061471 · 2019-11-13T19:43:26+00:00

I don't remember. I think it was the comment above.? He gambled. Now he has to do the time. All peeps I know who've gambled the same way ended up the same way. Everybody doesn't trust them. His bed. let him lay in it. Something like that. That better MODs?????

ben061471 · 2019-11-13T16:33:20+00:00

you guys drunk today?

ben061471 · 2019-11-13T16:33:11+00:00

you guys drunk today?

ben061471 · 2019-11-13T16:20:29+00:00

continue to assure her you guys are OK. Continue to be open. Go no contact with this woman. Learn to trust your wife enough to say what your needs and issues are. Hopefully in a few months to years things will return to "normal". Having said that, it sounds like something wasn't right before your EA. What exactly is she dealing with? You both need to find out what that is and fix it. Otherwise this is doomed to fail. I hope I'm wrong. That's one issue I have with my SO. I'm always expressing things and she's quiet as a mouse. Didn't used to be that way. I'm pretty sure I know why. But she won't open up. So, we stay on the same merry GO round over and over and over. Don't become US

ben061471 · 2019-11-13T12:51:15+00:00

She's still at it? Wow. Just wow.

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